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Default Feb 18, 2020 at 09:30 PM
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Hello, I'm currently on my 5th week of not seeing my T.

Week 1: I cancelled for illness (with 3 days of warning, had strep)

Week 2: He cancelled for his illness (with about 2 hours warning), said we need to cancel for the next week too but after that he would text me to get back on track since we don't schedule more then 2 weeks at a time.

Week 3: He had a conference

Week 4 & 5: Didn't hear from him, no appt reminder text, no text when I didn't show up

Would you reach out or assume T is done? I can't imagine he's waiting for me to contact him since his last text clearly states he would contact me and my response was "ok no problem."

I'm pretty lost and not sure if he's a flake or avoiding me!
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Default Feb 18, 2020 at 09:49 PM
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Hmmm...I'd probably reach out at least once and ask when your next appointment was scheduled for/can you schedule one? It is weird he said he'd contact you and then didn't. I'm sorry.
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Default Feb 18, 2020 at 09:58 PM
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Agreed, I'd reach out, too.
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Default Feb 18, 2020 at 10:08 PM
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I doubt the ones I hired ever knew me at all. I don't think they knew my name except that it was written in their planners. I would just call the therapist and make an appointment if I wanted one.

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Default Feb 18, 2020 at 11:22 PM
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Do you like said T / have a working relationship with him? If you've been seeing him for a while, he might be wondering what's up that is causing you to not schedule an appointment. Sometimes Ts are cautious in seeming pushy about scheduling appointments -- I would reach out to him if I were you.
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Default Feb 18, 2020 at 11:34 PM
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I would reach out. It would be very unlike my T and it would scare me.

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Default Feb 19, 2020 at 12:17 AM
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I do like my T and I thought our relationship was great. He's often said he likes working with me and I didn't feel like it was just social etiquette. He's taken the initiative to clarify appointments before.

I feel bad if he's wondering why I haven't scheduled, but I also hate the idea of him just completely forgetting that he hasn't seen me in a while.

I'll try to reach out to him tomorrow. I guess I'll never know until I ask. I feel like the relationship is contaminated now though.
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I do like my T and I thought our relationship was great. He's often said he likes working with me and I didn't feel like it was just social etiquette. He's taken the initiative to clarify appointments before.


I feel bad if he's wondering why I haven't scheduled, but I also hate the idea of him just completely forgetting that he hasn't seen me in a while.


I'll try to reach out to him tomorrow. I guess I'll never know until I ask. I feel like the relationship is contaminated now though.
If it counts , i contacted a pdoc i saw 30 years ago recently ,,and she remebered me ,when i saw her she was a major truing to decide finish her commitment and get out or stay in , the way i found her ,she is a Colonel now and is head of base ) as a Colonel she works 2 days a week part time ,her kids are now in college ,so she devotes most of her time to her horses and her equestrian competitions ) so we played catchup on 30 years , when I moved away I promised to keep in touch ,always something going on I didn't want to have to tell her or anyone else not already in the know ,so I finally came clean ( perfect and ideal never happen in my life or most peoples,so never put off till tommorow .....,). I had to not leave it a mystery as I am dying and did not want her to read about it in the obituaries and wonder why I never called .

Give your T a chance ,I doubt your forgotten ( ever mean to do something every day for a week and then remember on Saturday evening ? WTH? ,God's sense of humor on display) there is probably a good reason for the pregnant pause . But since you brought it up, let me ask why do you feel not memorable ? Any particular reason other than anxiety ?
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Default Feb 19, 2020 at 08:17 AM
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Just call and make an appointment. Sounds like flu or whatever crud caught you both coming and going and things just kind of missed the boat. It happens. I doubt there is any deep meaning to him not having called except that. Just pick up the phone.
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Default Feb 19, 2020 at 11:09 AM
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Definitely agree with what is being said here, I'd pick up the phone and ask about an appointment. Best of luck, Kit

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Default Feb 19, 2020 at 09:37 PM
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Picking up the phone feels so hard and awkward!

I texted him this morning and still haven't heard back. I'm not sure what I'll do if there is no response. Just move on I suppose.
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Default Feb 20, 2020 at 09:38 PM
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And still no contact from him. I called about an hour ago and his phone seems to be working. I left a voicemail. I don't really know what else I can do short of contacting one of the others who share an office (they're all independent, no receptionist). If he only contacted me after that I doubt I would trust him though.

Lame. This is so very lame
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Default Feb 20, 2020 at 09:46 PM
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Wow, that really is terrible. I do hope you hear from him, but I could see how hard it would be to trust him after all of this.
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Default Feb 20, 2020 at 10:34 PM
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You called an hour ago which would be generally after hours for businesses in Texas. He may be gone already. He may be n session. Patience. Reply may not come tonight.
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Wow. That really stinks. I'm so sorry.

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Default Feb 21, 2020 at 11:14 AM
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I hope he calls you back. My t and i had a 4 week break between Christmas and holidays. On the day i was suppose to see her she had the flu so she had to cancel my app and had a hard time to get me in tile my next schedaled session. We managed to get in a phone call. So the time was 7 weeks til i finally got back into see her. She was so happy to see me and glad i kept intouch by phone. Also sometimes it takes her a day or so to get back to me unless it's urgent.
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