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Old 04-04-2020, 10:26 PM   #31
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My therapist office in his house. He uses the living room to conduct sessions. The only other room I have seen is the washroom. I have no idea if he is married but I saw several pairs of shoes on a rack down the hallway from the bathroom. One day I arrived 15 min early and a guy answered the door. He introduced himself as T's roommate. I never see or hear him when T is in session. I assume he's in the basement or on the second level.
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Old 04-05-2020, 12:12 PM   #32
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Not sure I will tell EMDR this or not. One of the things that Inam steuggling with is that when I started seeing T in her home office things really changed. I felt more comfortable with her and I think the transferance really kicked into high gear...it was always there but it went off the charts to be in her home. Then when she sold her home and went back to the rented space I had a lot of fears of her leaving and no longer working. 😭

So now being in Emdr Ts home is really different but I can't explain it. I have fears that she will realize how much she loves being home with her son and will decide to continue having such restricted availability or stop working all together.
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It weird seeing ts house in a different. The first session she said I will use my office so you can feel at home but then she switched to her kitchen and it has me disorientated. I can see a big cactus in the background and it looks like it’s growing out of ts head.
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If the backdrop is generic, how do you guys know what room they're in? Do they tell you? Mine has a generic background as well, but I don't know where it is in the house. I don't ask either because, as weird as I'm sure it sounds, that seems too personal to ask and I'm not sure I'd want to know anyway.

As far as other people being around, I'm glad I don't have that problem. He's older — maybe early-to-mid sixties — with an adult daughter who lives on Cape Cod with her family. He's also divorced and while he talks about his ex-wife, it always sounds like the stories are from some time in the past. He has a current girlfriend who he calls his "lady friend," which is both hilarious and a little odd; I don't get the impression they live together though.
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If the backdrop is generic, how do you guys know what room they're in? Do they tell you? Mine has a generic background as well, but I don't know where it is in the house. I don't ask either because, as weird as I'm sure it sounds, that seems too personal to ask and I'm not sure I'd want to know anyway.

As far as other people being around, I'm glad I don't have that problem. He's older — maybe early-to-mid sixties — with an adult daughter who lives on Cape Cod with her family. He's also divorced and while he talks about his ex-wife, it always sounds like the stories are from some time in the past. He has a current girlfriend who he calls his "lady friend," which is both hilarious and a little odd; I don't get the impression they live together though.

The time a couple weeks ago that T did the session from his home, he said he was in his home office. And LOL to "lady friend."
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I am wondering what exactly makes it strange to see the therapist’s house. I would like to understand better.
What is it that is strange? It is just a house and a therapist is just a person.
Could someone help me understand? Thank you so much.
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I am wondering what exactly makes it strange to see the therapist’s house. I would like to understand better.
What is it that is strange? It is just a house and a therapist is just a person.
Could someone help me understand? Thank you so much.
It can open up people's experiences of intimacy, change, (un)belonging, family, boundaries, familiarity, and so on. These are big and difficult experiences for many clients and I can empathise with how it is strange and complex for some people to work in this new way.
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It can open up people's experiences of intimacy, change, (un)belonging, family, boundaries, familiarity, and so on. These are big and difficult experiences for many clients and I can empathise with how it is strange and complex for some people to work in this new way.

Agreed. It also shifts the "frame" of therapy, where you always meet in the same place. Though I suppose meeting over video chat or phone does that anyway. And it also blurs professional/personal life more, which can be a bit jarring, especially if a T has fairly strict boundaries on sharing stuff about their personal life. And if someone has paternal/maternal and/or erotic transference for their T, I imagine seeing their home, especially if there's any signs of their family there, could possibly intensify that. With the exception of one session, my T has still been conducting video sessions from his regular office, which has helped. (He's a solo practitioner, so doesn't come into contact with anyone.)


He also says it's easier to focus at his office than at home. That at home, there's the thought in the back of his mind of "will a family member come up the stairs?" (he has a wife and a son, who's maybe 12?) And I understand that, because I've been distracted by hearing my daughter screaming from a couple floors away (townhouse) while in session. Because Dr. T told me that, if he starts doing all his sessions from home, then it will likely be in the back of *my* mind that he's less focused and more distractible, so I might be looking for signs of that (I'm hypervigilant anyway).
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