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Default Jun 12, 2020 at 03:06 PM
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May I ask - what did you want your psychologist to tell you or do for you when you were on that bridge and called her?
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Default Jun 12, 2020 at 03:15 PM
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May I ask - what did you want your psychologist to tell you or do for you when you were on that bridge and called her?
Countless ways. How about this one:
"I care about you as a human being. I'm so sorry if what I said to you caused you to want to end you life. Please give me a chance to make up for that."

To be treated like a human being who's worth spending more than a few minutes with because I'm on a bridge wanting to jump.
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Default Jun 12, 2020 at 03:21 PM
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I see. So she caused you to go on that bridge and plan for suicide and that's why it was her responsibility to talk you out of that. Is that correct?
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Default Jun 12, 2020 at 03:34 PM
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I see. So she caused you to go on that bridge and plan for suicide and that's why it was her responsibility to talk you out of that. Is that correct?
I'd say it's anyone's responsibility to try and help someone who's about to commit suicide. Especially psychologists! There may even be laws regarding that. I know people have gone to jail for causing someone to commit suicide. That's why I wrote a suicide letter to my sister & her husband to not bother my psychologist.
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Default Jun 12, 2020 at 03:35 PM
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Having read through all the thread I agree that your psychologist made mistakes that did not allow for the treatment with her to continue. Apparently it seems she couldn't hold proper boundaries and contain her own anxiety related to your potential suicide.

If you experience such a strong despair then you deserve to work with someone who can tolerate this despair without collapsing and also tolerate the potential that you might in fact succeed, whether on purpose or by accident. I sincerely hope that your current therapist is more able.
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Default Jun 12, 2020 at 03:42 PM
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I'd say it's anyone's responsibility to try and help someone who's about to commit suicide. Especially psychologists! There may even be laws regarding that.
And it seems that she did help you in this respect because you walked away from that bridge. But she wasn't able to continue to help you after that with further therapy and that's where she fell short.

I think the confusion might arise that her help did not feel good to you. But that's not the necessity. The goal of the help was to keep you from committing suicide and she succeeded in that goal.
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Default Jun 12, 2020 at 04:25 PM
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To end this thread, hopefully, fact still remains that all therapist I've talked to agree that what my psychologist said was wrong. And if she had shown me compassion then I can tell you the chances of me hanging up on her and jumping would have been far less.
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Default Jun 15, 2020 at 08:26 PM
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This is my last post in this thread. Just wanted to say that in the end I will always think the world of my psychologist, and have the utmost respect for her. Even though I've done a lot of venting, grieving, and don't understand a lot of things in the end, I'm okay with that. I can write pages of all the thank yous to her! I owe her so much. I went to her knowing I could hold on to life maybe 1 or 2 more weeks. She saved my life, twice. Taught me so many things. I can't believe I've lost her, my therapist! My soul hurts!
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