Couch 215: The Overcoming Couch

atisketatasket · May 26, 2020 at 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Like I would have had other people in a car with me. Ha.

Clearly they carjacked you and your only recourse was to drive into a body of water.

LonesomeTonight · May 26, 2020 at 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

That's well said, SD. Damn good reasoning.

I think my desire to drink at this exact moment stems from boredom, to be honest. I'm off work this week, which is at once lovely and awful because there's nothing to do and nowhere to go. I'm bored and lonely and totally understimulated. I did manage to find somewhere to go camping tomorrow night through this website where people host you on their private property (I found a nice couple that own a goat farm), so that's something.

Oh that's a neat idea that people will host you on their property.

And for the drinking thing, I, um, can't say anything about drinking before 5. Because I certainly do that. I agree with some others that it's about the reason and quantity. If you're just having a drink with lunch or, say, because you just feel like having one, that's fine. (And I think timing is a bit different for you, with you often working the night shift anyway...) Or like if you're going to a wine or beer festival, something like that. If you're getting wasted at 2 pm, that might be a sign of a problem if it happened more than once.

LonesomeTonight · May 26, 2020 at 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

My nieces and sister are safe now. The baby is with her dad, and the older two are with my mom. My sister is with me, sleeping on the couch.

The wellness check failed. My sister refused to answer the door, and because I was providing 3rd party information, the police didn't have enough evidence to kick down the door. Everyone is safe, but the damage has been done, and we don't know the full effects yet. I don't know what's going to happen with the boyfriend, I don't know what's going to happen to the girls, and I don't know what's going to happen with my sister. She needs help. She says she's sorry and everything will be better, but we all have heard that before. Change takes work. And if she has BPD like me, that's going to take a lot of work.

I'm glad everyone is safe. The boyfriend is only the father to the baby, right? I hope your sister will use this as a push to get some help. You're being a good sister in letting her stay with you.

NP_Complete · May 26, 2020 at 06:39 PM

I had an allergic reaction to an avocado this morning. It caused a sudden, intense itching in my mouth. I hope this isn't an ongoing thing now because I really like avocado. And I just bought 3 of them.

unaluna · May 26, 2020 at 06:51 PM

YouTube

C'mon, SD,

"even separated sibling dogs do it!"

chihirochild · May 26, 2020 at 06:58 PM

Oh lord. This IPA tasting presentation is literally a ppt presentation over Zoom.

*facepalm facepalm facepalm*

SheHulk07 · May 26, 2020 at 07:15 PM

My anxiety is through the roof today. Or my anger is. I'm really not sure which. I want to nap but all my kids are awake, so I won't. I didn't answer my phone this morning because I was sleeping, so H thought it was okay to come over again unannounced and into my room to wake me up. I need to bite the bullet and get a restraining order, I know. This is going the opposite way I wanted.

Possible trigger:

I really want to break something or sh.

So I've been painting picture frames for my daughters' room. Turning it in a Frozen 2 theme.

LonesomeTonight · May 26, 2020 at 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I had an allergic reaction to an avocado this morning. It caused a sudden, intense itching in my mouth. I hope this isn't an ongoing thing now because I really like avocado. And I just bought 3 of them.

It could be oral allergy syndrome. Are you by any chance allergic to latex?

I have issues with some fruits when pollen counts are high, where they make my mouth itch--strawberries, apples, and a few others. I learned it was oral allergy syndrome (because sometimes, they don't affect me at all).

Might be good to check with an allergist to be safe before you eat the other avocados... and have some Benadryl on hand.

unaluna · May 26, 2020 at 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

Oh lord. This IPA tasting presentation is literally a ppt presentation over Zoom.

*facepalm facepalm facepalm*

Ummmm - then why zoom??? That is too dumb to be funny, or too funny to be dumb. I dont know which. Now i understand why you kids invented the facepalm.

daisydid · May 26, 2020 at 08:08 PM

I’m all out of sorts after therapy this evening. I’m very on edge and can’t seem to calm down. There is a bright side, though. I’m listening to my husband do the dishes. It’sa beautiful sound when you’re not the one doing it.

NP_Complete · May 26, 2020 at 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

It could be oral allergy syndrome. Are you by any chance allergic to latex?

I have issues with some fruits when pollen counts are high, where they make my mouth itch--strawberries, apples, and a few others. I learned it was oral allergy syndrome (because sometimes, they don't affect me at all).

Might be good to check with an allergist to be safe before you eat the other avocados... and have some Benadryl on hand.

Yeah, I have reactions sometimes to other things. Mainly carrots, apples and almonds, but not all the time and usually it's just mildly annoying. I assume it is the oral allergy syndrome. I've never been allergic to latex and/or avocado before though, so it's kind of weird. Also, it was a lot more severe reaction than I've had before. Talked about it today in session and my therapist has the same thing but with peaches, nectarines and cherries. He said his was because of a birch allergy. I will probably tentatively try another one next week and see what happens.

tree7car · May 26, 2020 at 08:51 PM

I want to post in here. You guys seem nice and fun. But I also feel like I'm intruding on the "cool kids' club".

Ahhh! Stupid mental illness(es) getting in the way of me posting on a public forum like a normal person.

NP_Complete · May 26, 2020 at 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by tree7car

I want to post in here. You guys seem nice and fun. But I also feel like I'm intruding on the "cool kids' club".

Ahhh! Stupid mental illness(es) getting in the way of me posting on a public forum like a normal person.

I have never been and never will be part of any "cool kids' club". But I post here anyway. Post about what you're struggling with or something interesting or comment on someone else's post. Let yourself be known a little bit. We won't bite. There are some couch inside jokes, but just ask and someone will explain.

Just for the record, I felt the same way before I posted here for the first time, but I was going through some trauma and needed a place that felt okay posting in and the couch was it.

atisketatasket · May 26, 2020 at 10:50 PM

Couch mini-poll: what do you guys think of couples who share an email account? One of the things I did during quarantine was reach out to old friends I’d basically dropped during my time with 2ex for reasons to do with him (so far, to my shock, they’ve all responded, and all very affectionately too). Anyway, heard back from one just now, writing from a joint account with her husband (she’d actually contacted me first and I replied to her work address, she wrote back from this one). So the sender is like “Jack and Jill.” Now I feel weird, like it’s not really a private conversation. I don’t know the husband, he’s new. And I can’t imagine not having that privacy with friends. It actually reminds me of 2ex cutting me off from my friends, in the opposite way.

I mean, there’s nothing I can do about it, and it’s great if they really have that kind of relationship. Maybe I’m just too tainted by my own experience.

ETA: never been a cool kid either.

unaluna · May 26, 2020 at 11:15 PM

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Originally Posted by tree7car

I want to post in here. You guys seem nice and fun. But I also feel like I'm intruding on the "cool kids' club".

Ahhh! Stupid mental illness(es) getting in the way of me posting on a public forum like a normal person.

Cool avatar!!! And welcome.

feralkittymom · May 27, 2020 at 12:04 AM

I can't imagine sharing an e-mail acct with anyone. Aside from all the other creepy reasons--do they dress alike, too?--wouldn't it get confusing? And I don't want to read half the e-mails I get, so why would I want to plow through someone else's as well?

Lemoncake · May 27, 2020 at 01:04 AM

I wouldn't like the shared email thing and do think that's odd. I had a problem with a old friendd telling me she'd call me back and then to find out she took the call in the car with her husband who I've never met.

I don't think I'm cool either, but rather a dork you could meet. I felt the same way about making new couch titles. Had to wait a while. xD

I skipped therapy yesterday then woke up in a panic crying and texted him today at 7am asking if he had anything free .

ArtleyWilkins · May 27, 2020 at 01:11 AM

I know a quite a few married couples who have one shared personal email account. They do so because that’s the account they conduct most of their financial business through and it’s simply easier to deal with personal business only being directed through one email account.

Daffydungle · May 27, 2020 at 01:22 AM

Welcome tree7car pull up a cushion

Daffydungle · May 27, 2020 at 01:24 AM

Since Sunday i have encountered my exT every day this week. I know he would say that this means something. I am inclined to say its just a coincidence in a town like ours. But a little part wants to believe this means something

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NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,808 7 6,352 hugs given	May 26, 2020 at 06:39 PM #324 I had an allergic reaction to an avocado this morning. It caused a sudden, intense itching in my mouth. I hope this isn't an ongoing thing now because I really like avocado. And I just bought 3 of them.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,866 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	May 26, 2020 at 06:51 PM #325 YouTube C'mon, SD, "even separated sibling dogs do it!"

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	May 26, 2020 at 06:58 PM #326 Oh lord. This IPA tasting presentation is literally a ppt presentation over Zoom. facepalm facepalm facepalm

daisydid Member Member Since Oct 2018 Location: the astral plane Posts: 493 5 375 hugs given	May 26, 2020 at 08:08 PM #330 I’m all out of sorts after therapy this evening. I’m very on edge and can’t seem to calm down. There is a bright side, though. I’m listening to my husband do the dishes. It’sa beautiful sound when you’re not the one doing it.

feralkittymom Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2012 Location: yada Posts: 4,415 11 1,974 hugs given	May 27, 2020 at 12:04 AM #336 I can't imagine sharing an e-mail acct with anyone. Aside from all the other creepy reasons--do they dress alike, too?--wouldn't it get confusing? And I don't want to read half the e-mails I get, so why would I want to plow through someone else's as well?

ArtleyWilkins Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: USA Posts: 2,787 5 7 hugs given	May 27, 2020 at 01:11 AM #338 I know a quite a few married couples who have one shared personal email account. They do so because that’s the account they conduct most of their financial business through and it’s simply easier to deal with personal business only being directed through one email account.

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	May 27, 2020 at 01:22 AM #339 Welcome tree7car pull up a cushion

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	May 27, 2020 at 01:24 AM #340 Since Sunday i have encountered my exT every day this week. I know he would say that this means something. I am inclined to say its just a coincidence in a town like ours. But a little part wants to believe this means something