Couch 215: The Overcoming Couch

LonesomeTonight · May 27, 2020 at 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by daisydid

Quote of the day from PHP: "The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell."

Profound thoughts in expression group.

Also, my work department's group text has been blowing up today. I'm ready to get back to work. I miss it, and I don't know that I'm getting as much out of PHP as I'd hoped. I feel like I'm on therapy overload. What is it called when a sponge can't absorb any more? That's what I'm feeling, between individual therapy, DBT group, and PHP for 5 hours a day.

I've read how much of the work of therapy happens between sessions, where you process things and can have time to work through and practice what you've learned. Here, it's like no real time to process/practice. And your brain is likely getting overloaded.

susannahsays · May 27, 2020 at 03:06 PM

I don't think it's too weird to have a shared email account for household admin - for receiving paperless statements, for example. However, I would think it was kind of weird to not also have individual email addresses - not in order to hide anything, but it just seems odd. I don't use email to communicate with personal contacts except if I need to forward a document or something. If I did, it would bother me that I couldn't reach out to someone without including their spouse on the email - just like it would bother me if I could only do a three way call or something.

chihirochild · May 27, 2020 at 05:38 PM

No place to hang my hammock at the campsite but there’s a cushy part of ground to lay out a tarp and a sleeping bag. (When I worked at summer camp this was par for the course!) There’s also a nice fire pit and a little brook.

I’m also not sure where the line is between walking and hiking... I think the latter is longer and dirtier, mostly?

stopdog · May 27, 2020 at 06:01 PM

I think it is a walk unless you see a snake, a bear, a moose, or a monk.

chihirochild · May 27, 2020 at 06:05 PM

I definitely disturbed at least one snake today.

Quietmind 2 · May 27, 2020 at 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I'm also glad your T is letting you pay the lowest tier. It sounds like you got her to understand about your finances--sounds like she didn't comprehend before. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to starve yourself so that you could have therapy.

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

I am so glad your T was willing to work with you on this matter, QM.
You deserve support, and I am glad that you will not have to go without right now.

I'm definitely super grateful to my T! I worried about her income and she said she's fine, and lightheartedly said she's not dying. That she has enough, and YES that she doesn't want me to go hungry just to afford therapy!

I asked her how I can show her care, because I love her and am so grateful and am concerned about her (she still sees me and other high risk patients face to face, the clinic got an exemption for that), she said the best thing I (and other clients) can do is take care of myself so she can worry less about how we are.

LolaCabanna · May 27, 2020 at 10:04 PM

So is anyone doing video therapy now? I assume yes... but just curious

NP_Complete · May 27, 2020 at 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

So is anyone doing video therapy now? I assume yes... but just curious

Yes, part of the time sessions are video. I hate it. I'd say 1 out of 3 sessions are remote.

unaluna · May 27, 2020 at 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I think it is a walk unless you see a snake, a bear, a moose, or a monk.

LOL Yes anything in Tibet is a hike!

Eta - would yak have been funnier than monk? They are both k words. But monk could also imply adrian monk... it's a jungle out there!

LolaCabanna · May 27, 2020 at 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Yes, part of the time sessions are video. I hate it. I'd say 1 out of 3 sessions are remote.

Why do you hate it? I’ve been offered video therapy and I’m not sure how I feel about that.

atisketatasket · May 27, 2020 at 10:36 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

LOL Yes anything in Tibet is a hike!

Eta - would yak have been funnier than monk? They are both k words. But monk could also imply adrian monk... it's a jungle out there!

Or Meteora.

Now that’s hiking, baby. (Unless you visit the one I think they still use baskets and winches to get up to.)

Daffydungle · May 27, 2020 at 10:51 PM

Today is sooo long. I cant wait til its dark and i can make preparations to go bed

stopdog · May 27, 2020 at 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

LOL Yes anything in Tibet is a hike!....

Eta - would yak have been funnier than monk? They are both k words. But monk could also imply adrian monk... it's a jungle out there!

Good lord.
And I don't know who adrian monk is. And the use of ....., or a monk would seem to take it out of being a proper name (...., or Monk) so I don't think it could imply a specific person named adrian monk.

SheHulk07 · May 28, 2020 at 01:12 AM

Another day of feeling bad. I don't know if it's because of stress, my endo acting up or from SH. Still managed to write a paper today and do my discussion replies for my class. Met with the in home therapist today through Zoom and spent 90 minutes talking to him. He has the same name of my father who was abusive when I was younger, which I feel a little weird about, but not a big deal.

Quietmind 2 · May 28, 2020 at 01:21 AM

My mother sent a message relayed through my younger brother. I'm livid, furious, you name it, with her faux concern and fake care. She abused me for decades, and treated me like I'm invisible but now misses me and wants to keep in touch? She can go bleep off because every message from her makes me want to go No Contact for even longer.

I already told my younger brother twice that he doesn't have to relay messages and she can relay messages through my partner. But of course she refuses to do that. Just like how she refuses to seek therapy.

She just ruined my day and I lost all appetite for my lunch.

NP_Complete · May 28, 2020 at 01:30 AM

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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

Why do you hate it? I’ve been offered video therapy and I’m not sure how I feel about that.

Because I don't feel as connected to my therapist over video vs in person. It's better than nothing but that's about it.

LonesomeTonight · May 28, 2020 at 05:11 AM

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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

Why do you hate it? I’ve been offered video therapy and I’m not sure how I feel about that.

I've gotten used to video therapy. The first time I tried it, it just made me feel sad because I couldn't see my T in person, and I wondered if it would be better to just do phone. I was also very distracted by my image in the corner. But then I figure out how to hide my self video and have gotten more comfortable with seeing Dr. T this way.

I find I need more reassurance from him because I don't have some of the in-person body language or what he calls "the energy in the room" when people are in a room together. (He's admitted to not liking teletherapy either, saying it's harder for him to stay focused. But it hasn't really shown--guess he's good at hiding it.) But I've gotten to where I can feel connected to him over Zoom, like the bond is still there.

So I say, if you give it a try, give it at least a couple sessions before giving up on it. And hide your own video on the screen so it's not distracting.

ElectricManatee · May 28, 2020 at 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

So is anyone doing video therapy now? I assume yes... but just curious

Both of my therapists have only been doing video sessions since about March 13. I don't hate it as much as I thought I would. I figured out that I prefer phone with one therapist and video with the other. One therapist said she will continue with teletherapy until at least mid-June (but I bet she will extend that), and the other one thinks it is likely she will do teletherapy all summer (due in part to childcare concerns).

SlumberKitty · May 28, 2020 at 10:05 AM

Re: Video therapy

I'm doing Skype with Pastor T and with regular T it's phone calls. She's rather old school. Skype and phone calls make me feel like I don't need either. Seeing them in person makes me feel like I need them. Weird.

ArtieTheSequal · May 28, 2020 at 01:30 PM

Well we just got the news this morning that layoffs are starting at work. All departments are "under evaluation". Sigh. Thankfully h started getting his pandemic unemployment, so if I do get laid off, it won't be a complete disaster, but I suck at interviewing and dread possibly having to find a new job.

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chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	May 27, 2020 at 05:38 PM #363 No place to hang my hammock at the campsite but there’s a cushy part of ground to lay out a tarp and a sleeping bag. (When I worked at summer camp this was par for the course!) There’s also a nice fire pit and a little brook. I’m also not sure where the line is between walking and hiking... I think the latter is longer and dirtier, mostly?

stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 34,731 (SuperPoster!) 12 1 hugs given	May 27, 2020 at 06:01 PM #364 I think it is a walk unless you see a snake, a bear, a moose, or a monk. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	May 27, 2020 at 06:05 PM #365 I definitely disturbed at least one snake today.

LolaCabanna Grand Poohbah Member Since Nov 2013 Location: Texas Posts: 1,573 10 1,231 hugs given	May 27, 2020 at 10:04 PM #367 So is anyone doing video therapy now? I assume yes... but just curious __________________ Nothing really matters, does it?

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	May 27, 2020 at 10:51 PM #372 Today is sooo long. I cant wait til its dark and i can make preparations to go bed

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	May 28, 2020 at 10:05 AM #379 Re: Video therapy I'm doing Skype with Pastor T and with regular T it's phone calls. She's rather old school. Skype and phone calls make me feel like I don't need either. Seeing them in person makes me feel like I need them. Weird. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,238 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,771 hugs given	May 28, 2020 at 01:30 PM #380 Well we just got the news this morning that layoffs are starting at work. All departments are "under evaluation". Sigh. Thankfully h started getting his pandemic unemployment, so if I do get laid off, it won't be a complete disaster, but I suck at interviewing and dread possibly having to find a new job.