Couch 215: The Overcoming Couch

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 04, 2020 at 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

Art, the way you were berating yourself and feeling guilty for wanting to ask for something very reasonable makes me think that either you're depressed or that something is not functioning well in your marriage. How does he have so much time to watch TV? If you're working and he isn't, it seems only fair that he should spend at least part of his time doing the household stuff (cooking, laundry, tidying up, arranging food and household item delivery, etc). I have been down to working one day a week instead of my usual three, and I am doing all that stuff (admittedly not all of the cooking) and also watching a toddler while my wife works full-time.

thank you. yes i think you are right on both counts. i am likely depressed like a lot of other people over the general state of the world right now. and trying to pretend that i'm not. and the struggle with h is ongoing for our entire marriage. that's why i almost fainted when he cleaned part of the house the other day while waiting for the new tv to come. it's just not as infuriating when he's working as many hours as i am. at first he did actually go out and pick up dinner quite a few times, and he was helping with the dishes every day after i asked him if he would since he's not working, but that has slacked off to nothing again for awhile now. I guess i need to ask him again to help me around the house. everything is getting to me, i'm feeling trapped and closed in, again like a lot of other people, and i just need to get over my damn self. i am going to call L though soon. i gotta do somethin' cuz the way i'm feeling now isn't good.

unaluna · Jun 04, 2020 at 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Parks and Recreation is an old tv show.

Thats not the part i didnt understand. You know my knowledge of popular culture is quite comprehensive. But im afraid it doesnt extend to ALL the little horses. God i am so frickin funny.

stopdog · 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Thats not the part i didnt understand. You know my knowledge of popular culture is quite comprehensive. But im afraid it doesnt extend to ALL the little horses. God i am so frickin funny.

Li'l Sebastian - Wikipedia

and here is the clip
YouTube

It is how I am when people talk about therapy (and then what they say to me)

SlumberKitty · Jun 04, 2020 at 11:26 AM

One half of my chin keeps breaking out. I'm not sure if it is from the face masks or what. I am using the cream that the PCP doctor gave me but it doesn't seem to be working too well. I'm trying a new face wash but I'm just so over it. Everywhere else is fine, just half of my chin. It is the half on the side of my face that I sleep on so I'm not sure if that is it either, so I'm washing my sheets and pillowcases more frequently. It's just like that whole area is inflamed and won't stop. UGH.

SheHulk07 · Jun 04, 2020 at 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Sorry If I missed it, but did you agree to letting H come back to the home or did he just continue with his own overstaying ?

I have not outright agreed to him to come back in the house permanently but he did stat over this past weekend from Friday to Tuesday. He is using the fact that his mom doesn't want the kids over at her house right now and he has the right to see them as a way to come over. And I'm stupid enough to stop fighting it and let him do what he wanted because it's less conflict.

Lemoncake · Jun 04, 2020 at 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

A dental spa sounds awful. I have a Zoom session in an hour and a half - anybody around to pocket ride?

Can get away with charging spa prices though! They are more expensive but worth it.

During my last visit in october-for what was just a routine check up I began to cry in the waiting room as it was just after my grandmother had died. I had another male dentist I've never had before and I got anxious. Normal dentist still came up to check on me and calm me down whilst with was with the other guy.

Plus they always have fresh flowers in the waiting room.

Lemoncake · Jun 04, 2020 at 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I have not outright agreed to him to come back in the house permanently but he did stat over this past weekend from Friday to Tuesday. He is using the fact that his mom doesn't want the kids over at her house right now and he has the right to see them as a way to come over. And I'm stupid enough to stop fighting it and let him do what he wanted because it's less conflict.

Sorry if I overstep the mark and you're not stupid for not fighting right now- it makes sense to give in when you're exhausted, but I think your safety should come first. He choose the way to act the way he did in the past and nobody should be living with the person who has previously abused them.

He can live with her and should only come over at set times you've decided. It just sounds like a huge control move on his part and I fear that his behaviour will set you back further in the progress you've made.

Lemoncake · Jun 04, 2020 at 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

thank you. yes i think you are right on both counts. i am likely depressed like a lot of other people over the general state of the world right now. and trying to pretend that i'm not. and the struggle with h is ongoing for our entire marriage. that's why i almost fainted when he cleaned part of the house the other day while waiting for the new tv to come. it's just not as infuriating when he's working as many hours as i am. at first he did actually go out and pick up dinner quite a few times, and he was helping with the dishes every day after i asked him if he would since he's not working, but that has slacked off to nothing again for awhile now. I guess i need to ask him again to help me around the house. everything is getting to me, i'm feeling trapped and closed in, again like a lot of other people, and i just need to get over my damn self. i am going to call L though soon. i gotta do somethin' cuz the way i'm feeling now isn't good.

Artie bean I don't think you just need to get over yourself. These are very hard times.

Hope you could ask him to help out more.

atisketatasket · Jun 04, 2020 at 02:02 PM

Garlic butter on a baked potato worked out much better than I thought it would.

ETA: next up, on waffles?

stopdog · Jun 04, 2020 at 02:30 PM

Garlic butter would be great on savory waffles

Lemoncake · Jun 04, 2020 at 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Garlic butter on a baked potato worked out much better than I thought it would.

ETA: next up, on waffles?

Maybe in pasta.

SlumberKitty · Jun 04, 2020 at 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Garlic butter on a baked potato worked out much better than I thought it would.

ETA: next up, on waffles?

Or my favorite on toasted french or Italian bread. I don't know if that is GF though. Especially since I don't know what G is.

SlumberKitty · Jun 04, 2020 at 03:15 PM

Just watched a webinar on Mental Health in the Workplace by one of our insurance partners. I sent the link also to the CFO who said she was interested but then she missed it. Usually they replay it on their website, but I took copious notes so I sent her the notes. Hopefully it is useful. At least it is a conversation about mental health and illness in the workplace.

SheHulk07 · Jun 04, 2020 at 03:28 PM

I'm having a decorating dilemma for my girls' room..I bought 2 things of the removable wallpaper for $20 each and it's almost the exact size I need except for about 6 inches. I'm debating just doing the wallpaper on 3 of the 4 walls to avoid having to spend more money but I don't know how it would look.

SlumberKitty · Jun 04, 2020 at 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I'm having a decorating dilemma for my girls' room..I bought 2 things of the removable wallpaper for $20 each and it's almost the exact size I need except for about 6 inches. I'm debating just doing the wallpaper on 3 of the 4 walls to avoid having to spend more money but I don't know how it would look.

Not sure this helps but growing up as a child my parents put wall paper on one wall as a sort of accent wall in my bedroom and then painted the other three walls. I still remember that wall paper too, cream with blue and pink bows. I was rather a tom-boy so it didn't fit me well personally but it was rather pretty. It was just in stark contrast to who I was as a person and I had that wall paper for like 10 years probably. 4-14 or something like that.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 04, 2020 at 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I'm having a decorating dilemma for my girls' room..I bought 2 things of the removable wallpaper for $20 each and it's almost the exact size I need except for about 6 inches. I'm debating just doing the wallpaper on 3 of the 4 walls to avoid having to spend more money but I don't know how it would look.

I think that could work or even just on one or two walls.

daisydid · Jun 04, 2020 at 03:41 PM

I think the idea of an accent wall with the wallpaper is a good idea.

Daffydungle · Jun 04, 2020 at 04:05 PM

I would put garlic butter on everything if i could

SheHulk07 · Jun 04, 2020 at 04:37 PM

I figured a way to do it for now. I wasn't going to put the pet net back up but I did which covers the part of the wall where the wallpaper was missing.
Not sure if the picture will show up or not.

unaluna · Jun 04, 2020 at 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Daffydungle

I would put garlic butter on everything if i could

I cant believe i ate snails. Now that im older and wiser. What was i thinking??! Garlic and butter notwithstanding. I do remember my father looking at me like i was nuts.

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atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,143 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Jun 04, 2020 at 02:02 PM #689 Garlic butter on a baked potato worked out much better than I thought it would. ETA: next up, on waffles?

stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 34,722 (SuperPoster!) 12 1 hugs given	Jun 04, 2020 at 02:30 PM #690 Garlic butter would be great on savory waffles __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

SheHulk07 Magnate Member Since Oct 2013 Location: CO Posts: 2,305 10 871 hugs given	Jun 04, 2020 at 03:28 PM #694 I'm having a decorating dilemma for my girls' room..I bought 2 things of the removable wallpaper for $20 each and it's almost the exact size I need except for about 6 inches. I'm debating just doing the wallpaper on 3 of the 4 walls to avoid having to spend more money but I don't know how it would look.

daisydid Member Member Since Oct 2018 Location: the astral plane Posts: 493 5 375 hugs given	Jun 04, 2020 at 03:41 PM #697 I think the idea of an accent wall with the wallpaper is a good idea.

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 3 451 hugs given	Jun 04, 2020 at 04:05 PM #698 I would put garlic butter on everything if i could