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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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Location: Milan/Michigan
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Jun 06, 2020 at 04:41 PM
#781
Good one, daisy! "No, i'm more interesting!" Yeah i can relate to that!
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 daisydid, Quietmind 2
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
Posts: 7,218
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Jun 06, 2020 at 05:05 PM
#782
So I attended our weekly online fellowship service with my drumming peeps, and during the different parts of the service I wrote a poem about it and at the end I asked if it would be ok to read it to the group. Totally out of the norm for me to put myself out there like that but I did it, and it was well received, and our facilitators asked me to type it up and send it in so they can use it an upcoming newsletter or something. When I opened my email to send it, I found an email from ex-T checking in and offering to be of service in these difficult times for a one-time tuneup or whatever. How does she always know when I've been thinking about calling her??! I want to but I don't want to. Same old story. Artie lives on the fence and is afraid to step down on one side or the other.... it is nice I suppose that she is checking in again though.
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 chihirochild, LonesomeTonight, NP_Complete, SlumberKitty, unaluna
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chihirochild, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
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Jun 06, 2020 at 05:36 PM
#783
I responded to L and told her I'd like to schedule a video session.
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| chihirochild, LonesomeTonight, LostOnTheTrail, ScarletPimpernel, SheHulk07, SlumberKitty, unaluna
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Magnate
Member Since May 2017
Location: Earth
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Jun 06, 2020 at 05:47 PM
#784
I don't think it has ever occurred to me to wonder whether my T finds me attractive. We're both female and she's straight and fairly feminine and I'm gay and not feminine, so maybe that factors in there somewhere too. Very different senses of style and I am decidedly not her type anyway.
I asked my wife about this at lunch, and she said she hadn't wondered about attractiveness with her therapist. But then she said she would feel jealous if she knew her therapist saw somebody who she felt was more successful than her. I would feel jealous if I felt like my T found somebody else more likable or if she cared about them more. So basically we decided that these feelings are likely to highlight places where we feel deficient or insecure. |
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ArtieTheSequal, chihirochild, LonesomeTonight, NP_Complete, Quietmind 2, SlumberKitty, unaluna
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Poohbah
Member Since Apr 2020
Location: Nowhere
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Jun 06, 2020 at 05:53 PM
#785
I have been watching videos of people making props for movies and i really feel i missed my calling as a sword maker.
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atisketatasket, Quietmind 2, SlumberKitty, StressedMess
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
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Jun 06, 2020 at 06:14 PM
#786
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I think you're right about these feelings highlighting places where we feel insecure and stuff. I don't think I ever thought about whether or not ex-T found me attractive (same thing, we're both female, she's straight and I'm not, etc) and for me I would feel all kinds of jealous if she had ever said something like "My favorite client does X" and I know I don't do X. I want to be her favorite client ever, dammit! 
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| ElectricManatee, SlumberKitty
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underdog is here
Member Since Sep 2011
Location: blank
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Jun 06, 2020 at 06:20 PM
#787
I was paying them - I figure if anyone was going to worry about being a favorite - it would be the therapist worrying about whether she was my favorite one or not - and I constantly told her she was not.
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Writing my way through...
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Jun 06, 2020 at 06:21 PM
#788
I think that I was always very, very... separated (?) from the fact that I was paying her.
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| LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
Member Since Jun 2011
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Jun 06, 2020 at 06:31 PM
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Child of a lesser god
Member Since Jun 2015
Location: Tartarus
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Jun 06, 2020 at 06:31 PM
#790
I'm pretty sure Info just winces internally whenever she sees me and how I'm dressed. There's probably a therapists' forum somewhere where she posts ATAT fashion updates.
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chihirochild, ElectricManatee, LonesomeTonight, NP_Complete, Quietmind 2, susannahsays
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
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Jun 06, 2020 at 06:49 PM
#791
I scheduled a one-off 'tune-up'/check in with L for Wednesday after work, online using something called "doxy.me" that is supposedly hipaa compliant. never heard of it before. we'll see how it goes... I am happy that I went ahead and scheduled something.
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Grand Member
Member Since Apr 2017
Location: USA
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Jun 06, 2020 at 07:05 PM
#792
I use doxme. It works great and you don't have to download anything. Hover over your pic in the corner and click the 3 dots for the option to remove your pic
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ArtieTheSequal, Quietmind 2, SlumberKitty
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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Jun 06, 2020 at 07:15 PM
#793
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Wise Elder
Member Since Nov 2013
Location: US
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Jun 06, 2020 at 07:20 PM
#794
Last session with L, she told me she loves "all her clients". I hate being grouped up with the rest of her clients. I feel like just another number, a file, nothing special or unique about me. I know that's untrue, but it still sparks the jealousy in me
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Always in This Twilight
Member Since Feb 2015
Location: US
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Jun 06, 2020 at 07:53 PM
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We met with D's T once using that--it went OK. Hope your session goes well and glad you set one up! |
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ArtieTheSequal, Quietmind 2, SlumberKitty
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
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Jun 06, 2020 at 08:00 PM
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Thanks! I made a note of that. |
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Always in This Twilight
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Jun 06, 2020 at 08:02 PM
#797
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Hugs...I get it. I once told Ex-MC of my desire to be special to him, and he said, "All of my patients are special." |
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Writing my way through...
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Location: In the desert
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Jun 06, 2020 at 08:03 PM
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Thanks! I feel an incredible sense of relief upon scheduling. |
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Magnate
Member Since May 2017
Location: Earth
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Jun 06, 2020 at 08:17 PM
#799
I am picturing SD with one therapist, regularly reminding said therapist that she is not her favorite therapist.
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atisketatasket, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2, SlumberKitty, stopdog, unaluna
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Child of a lesser god
Member Since Jun 2015
Location: Tartarus
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Jun 06, 2020 at 08:26 PM
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