Switching T

So I've been seeing T1 for over 6 years usually once a week or every other week. At the beginning of last year I had some issues with my insurance and went to a self pay schedule with her, and during that time found T2 in my network. I then switched jobs and now both T's are in my network and I see each every other week, so it works that I basically see 1 T a week.
I've been with T1 for years and we get along well, but I feel like since starting with T2 I feel like I'm making more progress with him then I have in the 6 years of seeing T1. For example, I feel like I have to come up with topics to talk about with T1 whereas with T2 he just directs the conversation and asks questions so I don't have to come up with topics to talk about.
I've been thinking about asking T2 if I could go once a week with him and dropping my sessions with T1. But I have some concerns:
-I don't want to hurt T1's feelings. We've gotten to know each other well. How should I approach this topic of switching to another T?
-I'm worried I'm getting too attached to T2. I don't have any romantic feelings for him (at least I don't think so) but he is a staple in my life. I look forward to our sessions. Therapy isn't supposed to last forever so I'm just worried that when it does end, it will destroy me.

Any thoughts/opinions would be greatly appreciated!

Dear shamon86,

I wish I knew what to recommend, but sadly I don't know what I would do if I was in your place in that same situation. Hopefully others here will have wisdom and insight to share. This whole thing must be weighing heavily upon you. I hope you are able to reach the best possible decision and the best possible outcome.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

You could take a mini-break from T1 to see how it goes - e.g. how you feel towards both Ts, how your work is going with only seeing T2 etc.

This way you could make an informed decision as to how to proceed i.e. either taking an extended break from T1 or quitting T1 altogether.

PS: A good T would not be upset or hurt at a client leaving. You need to do what is in your best interests and an ethical T would fully support you in that.

Here’s what I might do in your situation:

1) I would tell T1 that I’d like to take a break from therapy for the time being. I’d ask if it’s possible to return at some point in the future. I’d frame it as I just need or would like a break to figure some things out on my own (or to focus on other things in my life or whatever) but that I’d like to keep the door open for returning if that’s possible, if that would work for them, etc. I think people taking breaks from therapy is a common thing and you don’t actually have to ever return.

2) I’d discuss my fears centering around the end of therapy with T2. Maybe not right away but maybe when I feel more comfortable doing so. It’s probably advisable to discuss the ending of therapy at the beginning of therapy even if that ending won’t occur for many years as ironic as that sounds.

I wish you all the best!