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Grand Poohbah
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Jun 04, 2020 at 05:46 PM
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So my new T talked to my pdoc yesterday because she is really worried about me. My pdoc called me today to check on me. He said to me that my T said she wouldn’t be able to work with me if I stayed this bad. So I asked her and she said it was a lie and she never said that. So I have been seeing this T for about 2 months and my pdoc for about 12 years. My T is very straight forward and tells it like it is. I know my old T had made that comment before.
I have big trust and abandonment issues so this really triggered me. My T wanted to call and confront my pdoc but I told her not to. So is one of them lying or is it a misunderstanding? I think I am going to have trouble trusting either of them after this. |
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Grand Magnate
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Jun 04, 2020 at 07:22 PM
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I would go with misunderstanding given how short a time you have been with your new T. I know my T and I still have them from time to time and we have been working together a year and a half.
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Wise Elder
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Jun 05, 2020 at 07:28 AM
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This time, I would go for misunderstanding but
I might talk to my pdoc about this---- See how it goes... __________________ "...don't say Home / the bones of that word mend slowly...' marie harris |
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Jun 05, 2020 at 12:58 PM
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Sounds like just a misunderstanding/misinterpretation of what was said between them.
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Jun 06, 2020 at 09:51 AM
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I’m so sorry you are in this situation. It is a tough one to say the least. I can relate. I believe that I, personally, would have so much trouble trusting either of them after this incident that I’d be inclined to drop them both and start over with a different T and pdoc. I see it as a near 0% chance that you will ever get to the bottom of this and learn the truth about what really happened. I would take it as a sign to move on from both of them. I know that I personally need to be (and deserve to be) surrounded by respect, professionalism, and positive energy. But that’s just me. I’m not sure if moving on from these professionals would be in your best interest or not. Do what feels right to you in your heart and know that you can change your mind at any time in the future. I wish you all the best!
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Magnate
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Jun 06, 2020 at 10:21 AM
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I wonder if it could be a miscommunication all around. It seems likely to me that your T didn't say that and that your pdoc believes it. In other words, sometimes somebody is having symptoms that are severe enough that they can't be treated on an outpatient basis. If you need intensive outpatient or inpatient (hospitalization), you would get different therapists, at least until you didn't need that level of care anymore. Then, presumably, when you are feeling better, you could go back to an outpatient setting with your old T.
If this is what your pdoc meant, though, he shouldn't have phrased it in a way that sounded like a threat or a warning. You need whatever care you need. I would talk about it with the pdoc before I made any decisions about whether somebody is lying or whether either of them are untrustworthy. I'm sorry you are struggling so much, and I hope you can get whatever care you need to feel better. 
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Wisest Elder Ever
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Jun 07, 2020 at 06:07 PM
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I would go with misunderstanding and/or miscommunication. Having said that, I agree with the others who would not find this in any way helpful.... I hope you find what you need in order to feel better. Everyone deserves to be surrounded by respect, positive energy and professionalism from the professionals.
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