Couch 216: The Baseball Couch

ElectricManatee · Jul 03, 2020 at 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

ooh pancakes sound really good and i am intrigued by the 'hipster cafe', trying to picture what that is like!

I have never been to Ikea although we do have one here, up north a bit in the county where the stupid virus is spreading like crazy. i will not be going up there anytime soon, needless to say.

My trip to Ikea was the worst shopping experience I have ever had. The whole store is set up like a giant snaking maze, and you have to go through every single section, even if you're just looking for one thing. It was exhausting and overwhelming. Also the meatballs in the cafeteria are extremely overrated. That said, I recognize that this is a minority opinion. And we did get several practical affordable, aesthetically appealing pieces of furniture that have held up well over time.

unaluna · Jul 03, 2020 at 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

You sure know me about the impulsive tendencies! I'm naturally a hermit- as long as I get a daily walk I'm okay.
P.s How is your exercise going? I really want to back to the gym but I'm afraid of cooties.

My exercise is semi-regular. My eating is getting SO GOOD! And i am doing multiple chores a day without even worrying about it. Not BIG chores, mostly tiny ones, but still! Its good!

Manatee - there IS a shortcut marked, if you ever go back again. But yeah, it definitely has that haunted house sense to it!

atisketatasket · Jul 03, 2020 at 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

My trip to Ikea was the worst shopping experience I have ever had. The whole store is set up like a giant snaking maze, and you have to go through every single section, even if you're just looking for one thing. It was exhausting and overwhelming. Also the meatballs in the cafeteria are extremely overrated. That said, I recognize that this is a minority opinion. And we did get several practical affordable, aesthetically appealing pieces of furniture that have held up well over time.

There are shortcuts built in (although well-hidden) so you don’t have to go through everything. Maybe you could do a real Animal Crossing simulation in IKEA? Quest for the Shortcuts?

If I go I shop online first and note down the aisle and bin numbers in the warehouse so I can just go to that part.

Out There · Jul 03, 2020 at 12:33 PM

YouTube. Squirrel rescue gone wrong , best laugh I've had for ages....

Lemoncake · Jul 03, 2020 at 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

ooh pancakes sound really good and i am intrigued by the 'hipster cafe', trying to picture what that is like!

I have never been to Ikea although we do have one here, up north a bit in the county where the stupid virus is spreading like crazy. i will not be going up there anytime soon, needless to say.

I'll email you pictures from their instagram! I can't remember my login in details for imgur and i never learnt how to insert photos here.

I love the atmosphere, but the prices are a bit steep. I paid close to £8 the last time I was there.So I don't go very often.

My place came with furniture so I only go for the candles, but love walking around sitting in the chairs, pretending that this was my home.

Lemoncake · Jul 03, 2020 at 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

My exercise is semi-regular. My eating is getting SO GOOD! And i am doing multiple chores a day without even worrying about it. Not BIG chores, mostly tiny ones, but still! Its good!

Manatee - there IS a shortcut marked, if you ever go back again. But yeah, it definitely has that haunted house sense to it!

Little things done are still achievements. Well done on the progress.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 03, 2020 at 01:26 PM

I'd emailed Dr. T Wed. evening talking about how I was really struggling (mostly pandemic related), and he sent a helpful response, which I may share later. Near the end of session today, I said, "I'm guessing you expected me to be really emotional this session." (I wasn't, just shed a few tears.). Dr. T: "I never know what to expect from you, LT." At least I keep him guessing? And am not predictable or boring...

atisketatasket · 01:46 PM

Ugh, one of my closest colleagues has covid. He's actually sick too--not in the hospital but at home (so far).

(I haven't seen him in person since March, just on screen for the quarantini hours some of us have been doing.)

NP_Complete · Jul 03, 2020 at 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

My trip to Ikea was the worst shopping experience I have ever had. The whole store is set up like a giant snaking maze, and you have to go through every single section, even if you're just looking for one thing. It was exhausting and overwhelming. Also the meatballs in the cafeteria are extremely overrated. That said, I recognize that this is a minority opinion. And we did get several practical affordable, aesthetically appealing pieces of furniture that have held up well over time.

The secret is to get a store map and find the hidden shortcuts. They're not really hidden, but if you don't know they're there, you'll have to walk the whole path. You can get to the part of the store you want a lot quicker using the shortcuts. (Written while lounging on my Ikea sofa.)

ETA: I see others have given you the same "secret" advice now that I've read further.

LostOnTheTrail · Jul 03, 2020 at 03:37 PM

I hope your colleague recovers well, ATAT.

chihirochild · Jul 03, 2020 at 04:07 PM

T still hasn’t called to explain the mystery complications of taking a week off from therapy

Also, J and I had an awesome hike/lunch and are going to hang out again tonight. Trigger for TMI:

Possible trigger:

I am a little conflicted about how far to go with him sexually. To be totally honest, part of my concern is that I don’t want to have to tell T about it and he will definitely ask and expect an answer. I know that’s absolutely insane but it’s true. The other part of it is that I don’t want the fact that I haven’t touched a person without gloves on in I dunno four months to make me rush into everything and ruin a potentially nice relationship—I feel like rushing into sex has thrown things off for me before.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 03, 2020 at 04:35 PM

Glad you had a good date and are hanging out again! I can understand your fears, but keep in mind you don't have to share with T if you don't want. Also,

Possible trigger:

Granted, H and I had worked together for a couple years beforehand, but we slept together on the second date and have been married for 12 years now. But you could always say you want to take things more slowly. He should hopefully respect that.

NP_Complete · Jul 03, 2020 at 04:40 PM

Just because you're in therapy doesn't mean you don't get to have privacy and boundaries around what you're willing to share. He doesn't get to know the details of your sex life unless you want to share it with him, and there would be nothing wrong with it if you did want to share. Him expecting an answer kind of pisses me off on your behalf.

NP_Complete · Jul 03, 2020 at 05:32 PM

I feel miserable today. I'm crying for no reason. I wish I could talk to my therapist. Maybe I'll go buy some ice cream instead.

chihirochild · Jul 03, 2020 at 05:50 PM

So T called, and while he did have the grace to start off by saying, "this is just my vote; you should do whatever you think is best," his arguments are a) usually when people are in twice-a-week therapy it's usually 'cause they need that frequency and therefore it's kind of a big ask to not have therapy for a whole week b) while things are OK now, as recently as like 2-3 weeks ago I was struggling pretty hard with some stuff including some scary SH things. So his suggestion was to find at least one time to have a session during that week.

Part of me wants to dig in my heels and say 'no' just to be stubborn. But part of me does see his point.

atisketatasket · Jul 03, 2020 at 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

So T called, and while he did have the grace to start off by saying, "this is just my vote; you should do whatever you think is best," his arguments are a) usually when people are in twice-a-week therapy it's usually 'cause they need that frequency and therefore it's kind of a big ask to not have therapy for a whole week b) while things are OK now, as recently as like 2-3 weeks ago I was struggling pretty hard with some stuff including some scary SH things. So his suggestion was to find at least one time to have a session during that week.

Part of me wants to dig in my heels and say 'no' just to be stubborn. But part of me does see his point.

Isn't this the same therapist who didn't want you to go twice a week because that would be a reward for struggling? He should be pleased here.

You have to call the guy before you take a day off from work. Now he's interfering with your vacation schedule. He fussed when you had a change to your work schedule and said you were being manipulative (iirc). I don't see his point at all...unless his point is to control his clients into getting better. And then what do they do without him?

I'm kind of at the point where this guy worries me for you.

chihirochild · Jul 03, 2020 at 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Isn't this the same therapist who didn't want you to go twice a week because that would be a reward for struggling? He should be pleased here.

You have to call the guy before you take a day off from work. Now he's interfering with your vacation schedule. He fussed when you had a change to your work schedule and said you were being manipulative (iirc). I don't see his point at all...unless his point is to control his clients into getting better. And then what do they do without him?

I'm kind of at the point where this guy worries me for you.

That is a good freaking point, @@.

Polibeth · Jul 03, 2020 at 06:43 PM

Husband is being emotionally abusive tonight. I just got out of 5 days IP - so I definitely don't need this. Fortunately, tomorrow I am going to a friend's house and he is not invited.

ElectricManatee · Jul 03, 2020 at 06:56 PM

I still stand by my opinion. If you have to be "in the know" and/or use a map to navigate a store, that's intentionally annoying.

ToddlerManatee managed almost all of a quarter mile hiking trail on foot today. She seemed to have the most fun of all playing in the gravel parking lot.

stopdog · Jul 03, 2020 at 07:29 PM

Trying to time tweaky dog's fireworks pill. I don't want to over drug him but I don't want to wait until he is shivering in the corner with his tail plastered to his belly in fear either.

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NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,815 7 6,362 hugs given	Jul 03, 2020 at 04:40 PM #953 Just because you're in therapy doesn't mean you don't get to have privacy and boundaries around what you're willing to share. He doesn't get to know the details of your sex life unless you want to share it with him, and there would be nothing wrong with it if you did want to share. Him expecting an answer kind of pisses me off on your behalf.

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,815 7 6,362 hugs given	Jul 03, 2020 at 05:32 PM #954 I feel miserable today. I'm crying for no reason. I wish I could talk to my therapist. Maybe I'll go buy some ice cream instead.

Polibeth Poohbah Member Since Jun 2014 Location: Earth Posts: 1,193 9 2,235 hugs given	Jul 03, 2020 at 06:43 PM #958 Husband is being emotionally abusive tonight. I just got out of 5 days IP - so I definitely don't need this. Fortunately, tomorrow I am going to a friend's house and he is not invited.

ElectricManatee Magnate Member Since May 2017 Location: Earth Posts: 2,515 6 4,704 hugs given	Jul 03, 2020 at 06:56 PM #959 I still stand by my opinion. If you have to be "in the know" and/or use a map to navigate a store, that's intentionally annoying. ToddlerManatee managed almost all of a quarter mile hiking trail on foot today. She seemed to have the most fun of all playing in the gravel parking lot.