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I have a chihuahua. He is utterly devoted to me, as I am to him, and his presence is very soothing for me.
I am really anxious about my session tomorrow. I already had one outburst over text... I think I'm trying to push the therapist away. I can't seem to help myself. I should probably warn her that my demeanor will likely come off as if I'm mad at her or something when I'm not. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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#23
I think most T's understand the push/pull of the theraputic relationship. Current T and I have discussed it. We call it one of the dances we do. We have a few different dances that we recognize and work with.
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I didn't worry about pushing a therapist away. I was much more concerned about the woman trapping me or not staying back. The therapist staying back was very important to me.
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My primary concern would be feeling that I have to censor myself in therapy. To me, therapy is sacred because it's one of the very, very few places where we can say anything we want to.
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I don't feel I can say anything I want to, but that isn't because of anything she has said or done. I don't actually think it would be good for me personally to feel I can say whatever I want to because I have strong tendencies toward self sabotage and manipulation. It's best for me to have some perception of boundaries around what it's permissible for me to say. I also probably wouldn't respect her if I thought there were no limits.
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For those who tend to push your T away, do you tend to also do in with other people in your life?
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She canceled. I hope she doesn't have COVID...
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Ugh. That's so frustrating.
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Question for those who do teletherapy: Do any of you actually enjoy being on camera? Kind of like you're a performer?
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If I could actually see myself (not just that tiny image in the corner of the screen) I would probably feel horrible. But my imagination runs on...wouldn't it be fun if we could dress up in our very favorite way...or even a costume? Something that helps us to feel really special and interesting.
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I can't even be bothered to get dressed at all.
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I hate it. I turned my camera off yesterday briefly until t said hey turn that back on!
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I think dressing up would be fun. I have a hippie wig, pink sunglasses and huge peace-sign earrings I totally must put those on before my next session. might lighten things up a little. I think t would laugh and say okay where's Artie bring her back.
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I really wonder if they would notice, or if they'd say anything if they did, except maybe "How are you feeling today?"
I've changed my hair color since teletherapy started. My therapist never says anything. But then, neither does my husband, so... __________________ |
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