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#1
This is interesting as the world is so small sometimes.
I live around the London area. |
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I am also in the UK. If anyone else works with an egotistical old drunk who pretends to be more emotionally available than she actually is, we might share the same therapist! Hit me up!
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#3
I sincerely hope not.
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I would be the exact same about my ex T, I would be really intrigued to hear what kind of experience other people have had and how useful their sessions are. I’m pretty sure I’m difficult to work with and very slow in terms of making progress, so I would be fascinated to know what his other clients think of their experience and him as a T.
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#6
I think it would be interesting. I would be very curious to read, how she is according to someone else.
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I did something stupid once and recommended my therapist to a close friend. Things became really complicated between us and I knew we were sometimes talking about each other in our sessions.
From my friends point of view my therapist seemed like a completely different person. |
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#8
I am not sure how I would feel of I knew somebody who say the same therapist.
I did find out after my T's passing that a friend of mine had seen her as well but stopped a couple of years before. She was sad and told me she had tried to reconnect and see the therapist about a year before T died but T never returned her call. For some reason I was very protective of T because the T I knew wouldn't let that happen. There must have been something to explain why T would not at least return her call __________________ |
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#9
I would love to talk to one of my T's other clients. I think it would be absolutely fascinating.
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#10
I would hate it. I know how I experience her and that is what matters. I can't think of anything worse than knowing someone else is seeing the same therapist as me. I seem to be in the minority.
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Yes, it does. I'm fairly sure my friend (no longer) used the whole thing as a game, he would frequently tell me what my T had told him and try and find out how my sessions went. T never seemed bothered by it which made me sad. I wanted him to get rid of him so we could be 'alone' again.
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That's the other problem with seeing close friends or relatives for separate therapy sessions - it can be viewed as a threat to confidentiality which makes it ethically questionable. I should think most T's would be wary of seeing people who know each other well. It brings up so many personal AND practical issues. I'm sorry you had that experience and I completely understand the need to protect your relationship with T. It is a shame that he wasn't aware of the emotional impact on you and presumably your ex-friend as well. I nearly fell out with a friend many years ago who was told my by then-T that she couldn't see her as she was friends with me. Our friendship survived it but it was very hard for her. I'm really grateful that my T had that policy (it was a natural one, given the setting and how old her average client was). |
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I actually did discover a user on here (they aren't active and haven't been for years) that was seeing my therapist. I never said anything though
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#15
Part of me would be intrigued, part of me would be absolutely horrified. I would spend sleepless nights imagining a hundred different scenarios about how T likes them better than me and how they are secretly plotting to get rid of me (in an end to therapy sort of way, not murder).
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#16
Not this forum, but on another mental health forum I use, I discovered I was in the same partial hospitalization program as another user.
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This is similar to how I'd think about it as well! At times when I've had conflict with my T (or ex-T or ex-MC), I'd be interested to find out if another current or former client had a similar conflict. But if things are going generally well, I'm not sure I'd want to know. |
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#18
A so called friend of mines saw a counsellor in the same office block as my therapist. She would try and get info from me about my sessions with my therapist. Then would tell her counsellor what I discussed but from her own words which really peed me off.
I knew she spoke about me as she would tell me. I told my Therapist about it. I don't know if she spoke to the other Counsellor re my situation with her client. It also enraged me that she was mocking the system in my eyes |
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#19
Someone worked out who my T was from something I had posted.
I'm generally super jealous of his other clients, but I've given his details to two others. Neither of whom I was super close to though. (recommendation on another forum I'm on and someone I speak to every other month or so ). __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#20
Oh, and I'm in the US, but there was something someone posted that sounded suspiciously like my T. I PMed them and said that, asking if they'd be willing to share what part of the country they lived in. It was nowhere near me.
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