Couch 217: The Order of the Phoenix couch

atisketatasket · Jul 10, 2020 at 05:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stopdog

What about wearing a clear face shield?

I find face shields creepier than masks.

Also they would make me expect to hear “ATAT...I am your therapist...”

NP_Complete · Jul 10, 2020 at 05:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Maybe ask him if you could be the one to wear a mask?

I find them difficult to wear because

Possible trigger:

my ex tried to smother me with a cloth over my face 3 years ago this month

so I'm not going to wear one unless it's absolutely necessary.

SlumberKitty · Jul 10, 2020 at 05:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I find them difficult to wear because

Possible trigger:

my ex tried to smother me with a cloth over my face 3 years ago this month

so I'm not going to wear one unless it's absolutely necessary.

So sorry @NP_Complete I didn't know.

Kit

LostOnTheTrail · Jul 10, 2020 at 05:31 PM

That's perfectly understandable, NP. I am so sorry you experienced that.

stopdog · Jul 10, 2020 at 06:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I find face shields creepier than masks.

Also they would make me expect to hear “ATAT...I am your therapist...”

I don't find them creepier. And if the client was wearing it - wouldn't that make the client the darth vader character? Which I kind of like the idea of.
"therapist.... I am your client" and then run them through with a light saber.

My injured dog came out of vet's office with a cone. I took it off and am obsessively watching him to make sure he doesn't lick the bandage.

MobiusPsyche · Jul 10, 2020 at 06:22 PM

My T is continuing with video sessions until a vaccine comes out because she has a coexisting condition (or whatever one would call it) that puts her at greater risk of negative outcomes should she get COVID-19. As do I. She is also the second earner in the house so doesn't depend on the income; she can handle it if she loses some clients over this decision.

I'm staying with her because, well, of course I would. Video is working fine for me and I've been with her for more than five years. I'm only going once a month at this point. If I stopped seeing her, I'd just stop therapy altogether. But I don't want to stop altogether; I'm preparing for my bariatric surgery later this year and need the support.

Still scared my uni will cut my School completely. We won't find out until the end of August. I really like it here. I've managed to calm down about it and stopped panicking, so that's progress.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 10, 2020 at 06:23 PM

So sorry, NP--I can see where they would be triggering.

susannahsays · Jul 10, 2020 at 08:17 PM

When I was a child, I ate rock salt off the road.

SheHulk07 · Jul 10, 2020 at 08:40 PM

I'm not sure how I'm feeling right now. Numb doesn't seem to fit. I'm not angry, not content or happy either. Maybe depressed or exhausted is the best word to describe it.

Possible trigger:

I feel tired and like giving up. I talked to one T today and tried to say how I felt. He kept telling me that SUI isn't the solution to this and how my spirit would be hurt for years after, etc. I know he meant well and I know rationally it isn't the answer. It's where my mind keeps going to more and more. Maybe I should voluntarily admit myself to the hospital. I worry that wouldn't help either.

Sorry, I'm trying to stay away from all forums and social media because I'm sure people are fed up with hearing me complain about the same stuff. I feel absolutely crazy right now.

ArtieTheSequal · Jul 10, 2020 at 10:05 PM

I just got H logged onto his very first Zoom meeting, with his fantasy baseball league friends who most of them live in California so he rarely sees them in person. They've been friends some of them since grade school and they're all 65+ now.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 11, 2020 at 06:26 AM

Hugs, SheHulk, I"m sorry you're still struggling so much. Please feel welcome to post here as much as you want/need.

granite1 · Jul 11, 2020 at 09:14 AM

things are hell right no .my stepmother who is dying just came home on hospice is nexdoor to me with my father. my father is being relentless with the demands that he is placing on me.he will do nothing to help

NP_Complete · Jul 11, 2020 at 11:40 AM

I can't articulate it fully, but my therapist taking my temperature, even if it's with an infrared thermometer, feels invasive.

I'm angry that he's going to get on an airplane and fly to a family get-together during a pandemic and that he's agreed to perform this theater of safety.

ArtieTheSequal · Jul 11, 2020 at 12:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by granite1

things are hell right no .my stepmother who is dying just came home on hospice is nexdoor to me with my father. my father is being relentless with the demands that he is placing on me.he will do nothing to help

I don't know what to say granite except i'm so sorry you're dealing with that and sending you big safe hugs.

susannahsays · Jul 11, 2020 at 03:59 PM

NP, this might not help since you would still be doing it because he asks, but would it feel better if you were allowed to hold the device and take your own temp? Or maybe even take it at home and send him a pic before coming?

susannahsays · Jul 11, 2020 at 04:08 PM

SheHulk, I would be bothered if a therapist started talking about spiritual ramifications to suicide. Unless this therapist is doing pastoral counseling, and you have consented to the use of religion/spirituality as part of your therapy, it seems inappropriate.

I wouldn't find it helpful at all, and I think I would feel that way even if I weren't an atheist. How is telling someone they're doomed to continue suffering even if they choose to end their life supposed to be helpful? That concept, if I believed it, would just make me feel even more hopeless and stuck. SI is often a coping mechanism - not a great one, but many people have these thoughts because it helps to feel like if you can't take it any more, there's an out, an escape from unbearable suffering. While I understand why therapists aren't going to endorse it as an option, I don't think it's helpful or necessary for them to attempt to destroy this coping mechanism.

atisketatasket · Jul 11, 2020 at 08:05 PM

Made a pierogi pizza with a Trader Joe's butternut squash pizza crust. Pretty good--not having a second piece will be a challenge.

NP_Complete · Jul 11, 2020 at 09:52 PM

I ordered some tampons on Amazon because I can't locate my preferred brand locally right now (are tampons the new toilet paper?). The listing had a pic of a box of 34 and had a unit price attached that said something like 0.23 each. One of the Q&A's said it was for 4 boxes. The price was $31.95. If you do the math, that matches the unit price. The actual listing text didn't say how many boxes though. I decided to take a chance since the math worked out and the Q&A said 4. I received it today. It's one box. One box of tampons for $31.95. I usually pay $7.99 at the grocery store for this exact box. This feels like trickery and highway robbery. I am highly annoyed. I've requested a refund from the seller, however I couldn't figure out how to report them to Amazon for price gouging. I thought Amazon was cracking down on that kind of thing after the great TP and hand sanitizer shortage of '20.

unaluna · Jul 11, 2020 at 11:00 PM

Try amazon customer service? You get to chat or phone call. Or talk with a bot is the first choice.

Its waaaaay down on the list of your account or something. Or maybe even on the order.

ScarletPimpernel · Jul 12, 2020 at 12:09 AM

I'm starting to panic. I haven't heard back from L yet today. She emails me every day. Last time I wrote her was 6 hours ago. I'm trying to be patient, but my mind is wandering to the worst. I'm really worried about her.

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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,763 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Jul 10, 2020 at 06:23 PM #187 So sorry, NP--I can see where they would be triggering.

susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 5 1 hugs given	Jul 10, 2020 at 08:17 PM #188 When I was a child, I ate rock salt off the road. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,238 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,771 hugs given	Jul 10, 2020 at 10:05 PM #190 I just got H logged onto his very first Zoom meeting, with his fantasy baseball league friends who most of them live in California so he rarely sees them in person. They've been friends some of them since grade school and they're all 65+ now.

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,763 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Jul 11, 2020 at 06:26 AM #191 Hugs, SheHulk, I"m sorry you're still struggling so much. Please feel welcome to post here as much as you want/need.

granite1 running with scissors Member Since Aug 2009 Location: in my head Posts: 15,961 (SuperPoster!) 14 4,685 hugs given	Jul 11, 2020 at 09:14 AM #192 things are hell right no .my stepmother who is dying just came home on hospice is nexdoor to me with my father. my father is being relentless with the demands that he is placing on me.he will do nothing to help __________________ BEHAVIORS ARE EASY WORDS ARE NOT Dx, HUMAN Rx, no medication for that

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,808 7 6,354 hugs given	Jul 11, 2020 at 11:40 AM #193 I can't articulate it fully, but my therapist taking my temperature, even if it's with an infrared thermometer, feels invasive. I'm angry that he's going to get on an airplane and fly to a family get-together during a pandemic and that he's agreed to perform this theater of safety.

susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 5 1 hugs given	Jul 11, 2020 at 03:59 PM #195 NP, this might not help since you would still be doing it because he asks, but would it feel better if you were allowed to hold the device and take your own temp? Or maybe even take it at home and send him a pic before coming? __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,149 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Jul 11, 2020 at 08:05 PM #197 Made a pierogi pizza with a Trader Joe's butternut squash pizza crust. Pretty good--not having a second piece will be a challenge.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,868 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Jul 11, 2020 at 11:00 PM #199 Try amazon customer service? You get to chat or phone call. Or talk with a bot is the first choice. Its waaaaay down on the list of your account or something. Or maybe even on the order.

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,412 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,422 hugs given	Jul 12, 2020 at 12:09 AM #200 I'm starting to panic. I haven't heard back from L yet today. She emails me every day. Last time I wrote her was 6 hours ago. I'm trying to be patient, but my mind is wandering to the worst. I'm really worried about her. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica