Couch 217: The Order of the Phoenix couch

StressedMess · Aug 02, 2020 at 07:02 PM

Hugs for everyone who is hurting.

The girls and I made empanadas today, and similarly to when I make spaghetti, there's enough for a small army. Come for dinner!

I did something I'm very ashamed of today, and I'm having trouble coming to terms with the guilt. I probably need therapy! (Never going back, but it would be the only productive thing to do in this situation.)

ArtieTheSequal · Aug 02, 2020 at 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I suggest downloading the peloton app and trying the free trial. There is a facebook page for app users (although the android app is not as good as the apple one I hear - it is also available on amazon through the firestick and maybe on the kindle if you have one). They have walks as short as 10 min and a wide range of instructors and music choices. And it is free (I did not even have to give a credit card # or anything when I tried it) for 30 days I think (during the height of pandemic hooha I think it was 90 days - I don't know if they have gone back to 30 or not). I use it on my elliptical - you can modify their chattered instructions any way you like and while I ignore it - I think you might like some of the content of their chatter. I also find their roller stretches quite useful

nice, thanks. i'll check it out!!

ArtieTheSequal · Aug 02, 2020 at 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Daffydungle

I would like to virtual reality devices given out with treadmills then you can choose "where" you walk like along an never ending beach, or forest trail or country side you could heve whatever you want in it.

that would be great. this app doesn't have that, but i'm going to see what else i can find. that would be great. h likes watching tv, but for me i would prefer like a forest trail or something!

ArtieTheSequal · Aug 02, 2020 at 07:14 PM

I didn't quite figure out the app yet that they suggest. But I did try the 'weight loss' preprogrammed workout that is part of the treadmill, and set it for 15 minutes. it was kinda fun actually cuz it changes incline and speed at intervals starting out at .5 mph to warmup and then gradually getting up to 4 mph (I was almost running lol) and then back down. a little over a half a mile in 15 minutes. I am going to try getting up 15 minutes earlier tomorrow and doing that same thing, before i shower see how it affects my mood the rest of the day. I gots to do something.

unaluna · Aug 02, 2020 at 07:29 PM

Im watching a Columbo in London in 1972. A trip in the wayback machine!

atisketatasket · Aug 02, 2020 at 07:45 PM

I am ridiculously annoyed that “elven” is not on the word list in today’s NYT Spelling Bee.

(Neither is villein, but I didn’t expect it to be.)

NP_Complete · Aug 02, 2020 at 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I am ridiculously annoyed that “elven” is not on the word list in today’s NYT Spelling Bee.

(Neither is villein, but I didn’t expect it to be.)

I haven't paid for a subscription, so they only let you enter so many correct words, but I wish they would show you the list of valid words when you're done or give up.

"Elven" seems like a pretty basic word, even though the spell checker here doesn't like it.

atisketatasket · Aug 02, 2020 at 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

"Elven" seems like a pretty basic word, even though the spell checker here doesn't like it.

I know—have they never read Tolkein?

LonesomeTonight · Aug 03, 2020 at 06:49 AM

Fantasy baseball update: I won my first week! And in the rankings in the 8-person league, I'm in 2nd place.

LostOnTheTrail · Aug 03, 2020 at 06:52 AM

If you have somewhere to rest your tablet, Artie, then there are virtual walks on YouTube...maybe they'd work as treadmill rides?

LostOnTheTrail · Aug 03, 2020 at 06:58 AM

Triggered out of my tree by a safeguarding training. Have emailed R. This moment is rough.

ElectricManatee · Aug 03, 2020 at 07:07 AM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

No, but I've really screwed up at work and it's going to be noticed soon. I've been having a lot of trouble doing anything work related so I have gotten almost nothing done the last three weeks. I feel like a failure and I'm getting desperate. This is all my fault so I should just own up to this and deal with it. But I'm also feeling fragile and don't think I can take work piling on and adding to the beating I'm already giving myself. At the same time, I could really use a break. I don't know what I'd do with it though. He mentioned getting on meds and finding a group to attend and getting my medical issues sorted. But I could do all that while working.

There's also just something about him treating this all serious like that makes me feel uncomfortable and is making me want to not go to session tomorrow. He said something today about this being a "mental health crisis" and that I'm at risk, I guess of hurting myself. I don't understand why when someone starts to take me seriously and suggest serious solutions it makes me want to back away quickly.

I have no idea what to do about work or any of this.

When I was in a bad way, my psychiatric NP's office suggested arranging a leave from work to do intensive outpatient. I didn't end up needing it because I started outpatient DBT, but I do think something like that could be helpful. When my dad screwed up at work, the fact that he went for treatment (alcohol rehab, in his case) was the only thing that kept him from experiencing serious consequences at work.

Meds are also a great option for many people. If you have serious depression and haven't tried medication, you are likely doing yourself a disservice.

Getting the medical and psychological treatment you need could be a good start on the path to being kinder to yourself. We're all rooting for you here! Maybe taking a little break from life to get on a different treatment track could make things easier for you overall.

granite1 · Aug 03, 2020 at 07:23 AM

so i found out that my bladder cancer has returned .this is a week after my stepmother has passed away of the same cancer. my father is an endless stream of needs sense her passing because she did everything.every day it is something he cant seem to crap without me telling him how to wipe his butt. he seems to be suffering from the beginnings of dementia. he is having serious memory problems . i have no help in taking care of him . my family sucks .he has a sister and brother .the sister will not help at all and the brother only shows up to take things from the house to sell them . im overwhelmed. when i told my father that my cancer is back his response was **** what do i do now. WOW i have cancer again and it is still all about him. im overwhelmed scared and wish i didnt exist

MobiusPsyche · Aug 03, 2020 at 07:34 AM

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that Granite.

granite1 · Aug 03, 2020 at 07:55 AM

i hate my family except my son and husband all they do is take and take and take .my father can get out of his own head. he is exhausting. every day pay my bills make phone calls so i can cash in on all insurance polices. deal with the probate issues so i can get more money .its all about money .my stepmother hasnt even been gone for 14 days and his brother has already removed anything of value from the house . she was a hoarder so i have been throwing things away around the brother taking things .we have already filled a 40 yard dumpster and working on the second one . and my father is non stop demanding everything to be done yesterday. im so tired .its only me my husband ans son dealing with the mess except his brother showing up before i clean out a room to be sure to get anything of value .im so tired. he wont let anyone in there to do it because he is embarrassed and has me to do it .i cant say no and im so so tired he is relentless

LonesomeTonight · Aug 03, 2020 at 07:57 AM

I'm so sorry, Granite...

granite1 · Aug 03, 2020 at 08:18 AM

im sorry it is just a really hard morning here so im blowing up the site . im so tired of adulting for this guy . already this morning i have had to fill out paperwork for getting a refund for a cruise that they cancelled for my father arranged for another dumpster called hospital to start a investigation into my stepmothers missing pocketbook .and this is all while my father is at the casino having a great time . im sure he will have more for me to do when he gets home . i hate him im so bitter angry and tired

atisketatasket · Aug 03, 2020 at 09:43 AM

So Info sent me a check in email and signed it “warmly.” This is a sign off she adopted just a couple months ago. She used to just sign her name.

I’m wondering if I’ve hit some sort of preferred customer level. Like rewards programs have silver-gold-platinum. I’ve hit the “warmly” level.

unaluna · Aug 03, 2020 at 09:51 AM

How much cleavage does she show the "hotly" level, i wonder?

LonesomeTonight · Aug 03, 2020 at 10:05 AM

The "warmly" thing makes me think of how Dr. T said at one point I was on the platinum level, with unlimited tissues. He must be saving so much money on tissues with my seeing him remotely...

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,866 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Aug 02, 2020 at 07:29 PM #865 Im watching a Columbo in London in 1972. A trip in the wayback machine!

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,149 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Aug 02, 2020 at 07:45 PM #866 I am ridiculously annoyed that “elven” is not on the word list in today’s NYT Spelling Bee. (Neither is villein, but I didn’t expect it to be.)

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,754 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 06:49 AM #869 Fantasy baseball update: I won my first week! And in the rankings in the 8-person league, I'm in 2nd place.

MobiusPsyche Magnate Member Since Feb 2016 Location: Appalachian Mountains Posts: 2,040 8 15 hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 07:34 AM #874 Oh I'm so sorry to hear that Granite. __________________ "I would rather have questions that can't be answered than answers which can't be questioned." --Richard Feynman

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,754 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 07:57 AM #876 I'm so sorry, Granite...

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,866 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 09:51 AM #879 How much cleavage does she show the "hotly" level, i wonder?

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,754 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 10:05 AM #880 The "warmly" thing makes me think of how Dr. T said at one point I was on the platinum level, with unlimited tissues. He must be saving so much money on tissues with my seeing him remotely...