Couch 217: The Order of the Phoenix couch

LonesomeTonight · Aug 05, 2020 at 01:02 PM

It's great getting a call from your car insurance company while you're in the middle of crying about something from therapy. Think I managed to pull that off OK, or else she thought I was just really emotional about my car...

LostOnTheTrail · Aug 05, 2020 at 01:07 PM

I'm sorry, LT. That sucks. How are you doing now?

LonesomeTonight · Aug 05, 2020 at 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

I'm sorry, LT. That sucks. How are you doing now?

Thanks, Lost. A bit better. I feel like I've spent more time on the phone dealing with assorted financial issues in the past 4 weeks than I've spent on the phone in general in the past year or two.

MobiusPsyche · Aug 05, 2020 at 01:55 PM

I almost yelled at someone calling on behalf of a candidate I support because they didn't respond at first and I thought it was a spam call. Then they asked how I was doing and I almost burst into tears.

They didn't ask me for a donation this time.

atisketatasket · Aug 05, 2020 at 02:10 PM

More stupid academic stuff. My school like many others canceled fall break so students won’t travel and bring back the virus. But, we are not supposed to hold classes those days.

If they don’t have classes, won’t they travel anyway?

stopdog · Aug 05, 2020 at 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

More stupid academic stuff. My school like many others canceled fall break so students won’t travel and bring back the virus. But, we are not supposed to hold classes those days.

If they don’t have classes, won’t they travel anyway?

That is a puzzler. We are holding classes on labor day.

ArtieTheSequal · Aug 05, 2020 at 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

It's great getting a call from your car insurance company while you're in the middle of crying about something from therapy. Think I managed to pull that off OK, or else she thought I was just really emotional about my car...

I hope you're feeling better now, LT. I hate trying to function and handle business while I'm all emotional about something else. It's so hard to focus.

I had a minor panic attack myself this morning when h called our homeowner's insurance company to make sure they had the new lienholder information (we just refi'd our house) and she wanted us to take a picture of the letter the new mortgage co sent them and text it to her cuz she didn't have it yet, and i couldn't find my cell phone so I was freaking out til i found it and sent the pic she needed.

Possible trigger:

h is seriously worried that i'm going to have a heart attack and die i'm so stressed out about everything anymore.

I have a dr appt coming up in the next week or so I am thinking about asking my doc to prescribe a prn or something. I don't want to go back on meds all the time because i don't like how they dull me out but i need to do something.

ArtieTheSequal · Aug 05, 2020 at 02:18 PM

I'm off work today through Saturday (go back Sunday). Today I'm trying to relax but keep being all fidgety and cleaning things in the house. There's SO much to go through. I think we're moving again in a few months. So yeah that stress on top of everything else going on.

stopdog · Aug 05, 2020 at 02:38 PM

Did you find a new house you like better?

ArtieTheSequal · Aug 05, 2020 at 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Did you find a new house you like better?

Yes... not sure it's going to work out but we shall see. I just don't like the timing of it if that makes sense. It feels wrong somehow with the pandemic going on and stuff.

stopdog · Aug 05, 2020 at 04:00 PM

I don't see new house and pandemic as being related to each other. You buying a new house is not going to have bearing on whether there is a pandemic or not in my opinion. Houses my area are selling well. I think there are precautions everyone can take around movers etc if that is the concern. But I don't in general believe someone does not get to feel happy or do something to make themselves happy or what ever because of the pandemic. What would be the point in that?

LonesomeTonight · Aug 05, 2020 at 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

I hope you're feeling better now, LT. I hate trying to function and handle business while I'm all emotional about something else. It's so hard to focus.

I had a minor panic attack myself this morning when h called our homeowner's insurance company to make sure they had the new lienholder information (we just refi'd our house) and she wanted us to take a picture of the letter the new mortgage co sent them and text it to her cuz she didn't have it yet, and i couldn't find my cell phone so I was freaking out til i found it and sent the pic she needed.

Possible trigger:

h is seriously worried that i'm going to have a heart attack and die i'm so stressed out about everything anymore.

I have a dr appt coming up in the next week or so I am thinking about asking my doc to prescribe a prn or something. I don't want to go back on meds all the time because i don't like how they dull me out but i need to do something.

Hugs, Artie. Financial stuff is so stressful...It's one of the worst parts of being an adult, I think.

LonesomeTonight · Aug 05, 2020 at 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Yes... not sure it's going to work out but we shall see. I just don't like the timing of it if that makes sense. It feels wrong somehow with the pandemic going on and stuff.

Wait, will it be an issue if you just refinanced your current house? Or did you end up not doing that?

ArtieTheSequal · Aug 05, 2020 at 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Wait, will it be an issue if you just refinanced your current house? Or did you end up not doing that?

No, we did. If we do move, we'd be keeping current house as a rental property. Which of course adds to the stress.

stopdog · Aug 05, 2020 at 05:13 PM

Have you checked out the peloton app yet? I think it (or something like it) might be useful. I just did a 20 min. 70s rock walk and a 10 minute arms weight training workout and it feels great. I like weight training but have to be careful of a bad wrist and a bad elbow - so I just use lighter weights and space out the days I do it and do short stints rather than an hour or something. Peloton has a lot of choices of time, type, etc. It even has yoga and meditation. I like it for weights because they mix stuff up more than I would do on my own. When my person was alive, we used to do weight stuff with a pbs show and my person was so weak she started off using 8 oz little cans of v8 juice and worked up to 2 lb weights. And this was way before cancer.
The reason I keep mentioning this is it might help reduce stress and they are upbeat and encouraging etc (not my thing but it really sounds right up your alley) - you can adjust anything to your level and they have many coaches to try until you find the ones you like.

ArtieTheSequal · Aug 05, 2020 at 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Have you checked out the peloton app yet? I think it (or something like it) might be useful. I just did a 20 min. 70s rock walk and a 10 minute arms weight training workout and it feels great. I like weight training but have to be careful of a bad wrist and a bad elbow - so I just use lighter weights and space out the days I do it and do short stints rather than an hour or something. Peloton has a lot of choices of time, type, etc. It even has yoga and meditation. I like it for weights because they mix stuff up more than I would do on my own. When my person was alive, we used to do weight stuff with a pbs show and my person was so weak she started off using 8 oz little cans of v8 juice and worked up to 2 lb weights. And this was way before cancer.
The reason I keep mentioning this is it might help reduce stress and they are upbeat and encouraging etc (not my thing but it really sounds right up your alley) - you can adjust anything to your level and they have many coaches to try until you find the ones you like.

I looked but it wanted a credit card for the trial, I think I am going to do the trial anyway. Thanks for reminding me to get on that!

stopdog · Aug 05, 2020 at 05:33 PM

Oh - sorry I was wrong about the cc - that is new or maybe I was on some special offer thing and don't remember. And I see they have gone back to 30 days (my sibling after using mine and liking it- managed to get the 90 day free trial they had late spring and he and his children used it)

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This was what we used
Peloton App - 90 Day Free Trial - no CC required! - RedFlagDeals.com Forums
"If you wish to skip this step and access our 90-Day Free Trial without sharing your payment information, you may download and sign-up on the Peloton app through the Apple App Store, Google Play Store, or Amazon Appstore."

LonesomeTonight · Aug 05, 2020 at 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

No, we did. If we do move, we'd be keeping current house as a rental property. Which of course adds to the stress.

Ah, OK. Yeah, that would add stress. We've thought about doing the same, buying and putting our house up as rental--we'd likely bring in considerably more than our mortgage, so could cover other costs. But we're also happy with my D's school (of course, will be virtual through January, so...). Would be nice to have a single-family home and regular backyard (we have a ground-floor deck). But I've read prices are elevated right now with the low interest rates. So...staying put.

ArtieTheSequal · Aug 05, 2020 at 08:10 PM

Hey sd thanks for the link, I got the trial w/out needing a cc. This looks pretty cool I think it will be helpful, I am going to try one of the meditation thingies now.

LonesomeTonight · Aug 06, 2020 at 08:04 AM

Today, in NYT crossword news, I only knew one answer because it's Dr. T's father's name, and I'd looked up what it meant in the past (fairly unusual Old Testament biblical name).

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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,727 (SuperPoster!) 9 74.9k hugs given	Aug 05, 2020 at 01:02 PM #961 It's great getting a call from your car insurance company while you're in the middle of crying about something from therapy. Think I managed to pull that off OK, or else she thought I was just really emotional about my car...

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,143 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Aug 05, 2020 at 02:10 PM #965 More stupid academic stuff. My school like many others canceled fall break so students won’t travel and bring back the virus. But, we are not supposed to hold classes those days. If they don’t have classes, won’t they travel anyway?

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,211 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,750 hugs given	Aug 05, 2020 at 02:18 PM #968 I'm off work today through Saturday (go back Sunday). Today I'm trying to relax but keep being all fidgety and cleaning things in the house. There's SO much to go through. I think we're moving again in a few months. So yeah that stress on top of everything else going on.

stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 34,722 (SuperPoster!) 12 1 hugs given	Aug 05, 2020 at 02:38 PM #969 Did you find a new house you like better? __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,211 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,750 hugs given	Aug 05, 2020 at 08:10 PM #979 Hey sd thanks for the link, I got the trial w/out needing a cc. This looks pretty cool I think it will be helpful, I am going to try one of the meditation thingies now.

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,727 (SuperPoster!) 9 74.9k hugs given	Aug 06, 2020 at 08:04 AM #980 Today, in NYT crossword news, I only knew one answer because it's Dr. T's father's name, and I'd looked up what it meant in the past (fairly unusual Old Testament biblical name).