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Default Aug 04, 2020 at 11:33 AM
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I need to find a new T. This session started 3 minutes late because she had her baby with her again. She was screaming so my T took 3 more minutes to calm her. Then we had an 18 minute session. 18 minutes it is unbelievable.
Wow, 18 minutes is really unprofessional IMHO.

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I need to find a new T. This session started 3 minutes late because she had her baby with her again. She was screaming so my T took 3 more minutes to calm her. Then we had an 18 minute session. 18 minutes it is unbelievable.
I agree about finding someone else. It's not even worth bringing this all up with her if she thinks an 18 minute session AND holding a baby the entire time is in any way acceptable practice. You deserve better.
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Default Aug 04, 2020 at 12:58 PM
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Definitely need to find a different therapist.
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I need to find a new T. This session started 3 minutes late because she had her baby with her again. She was screaming so my T took 3 more minutes to calm her. Then we had an 18 minute session. 18 minutes it is unbelievable.

Ugh, that's totally unacceptable. Do you pay out of pocket or insurance? If out of pocket, I'd dispute those charges with her, because that's less than half a session, even considering 38 min as the minimum.
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Default Aug 04, 2020 at 03:17 PM
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Ugh, that's totally unacceptable. Do you pay out of pocket or insurance? If out of pocket, I'd dispute those charges with her, because that's less than half a session, even considering 38 min as the minimum.

I pay a $25 copay no matter what she bills insurance. That is another reason I am pissed.
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Default Aug 04, 2020 at 03:21 PM
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I sent an email telling her how I feel. She says sessions are 20-50 minutes depending on the client. It felt like she was passing blame that I couldn’t come up with something to talk about in 30 seconds.
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Default Aug 04, 2020 at 03:25 PM
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Hey @Crook32 maybe time to find someone new. This one sounds unprofessional.

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Default Aug 04, 2020 at 03:27 PM
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$25 for 18 minutes is $1.39 per minute, not counting however much she gets paid by your insurance.....

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Time for a new T. Not acceptable.
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I sent an email telling her how I feel. She says sessions are 20-50 minutes depending on the client. It felt like she was passing blame that I couldn’t come up with something to talk about in 30 seconds.
She gives some clients more time than others? It makes me wonder what training she's had. Time to move on I'd say.
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I sent an email telling her how I feel. She says sessions are 20-50 minutes depending on the client. It felt like she was passing blame that I couldn’t come up with something to talk about in 30 seconds.

Seriously? Ugh...It's one thing if after 20 minutes, you decided you were done with the session. And it seems like you should have set times. This also makes me think you need a new T. Plus the baby thing twice in a row (like maybe once, make an exception, but now it seems like she's trying to both do her job and be her baby's primary caregiver, which...doesn't work.
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Default Aug 04, 2020 at 04:38 PM
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Oh, Crook. Wow. I very, very seldom suggest to someone that they find a new therapist, but that one sounds downright unethical, not to mention unprofessional. Nothing about the behavior you've described is acceptable.

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I need to find a new T. This session started 3 minutes late because she had her baby with her again. She was screaming so my T took 3 more minutes to calm her. Then we had an 18 minute session. 18 minutes it is unbelievable.
wow that is horrible. I am sorry!!

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Default Aug 04, 2020 at 07:15 PM
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You mention she is a new T to you, did somebody recommend her ? Did you only start seeing her since the pandemic?

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Crook, That is horrible!! I am so sorry. Who in the world can have a good discussing in 18 or 20 minutes??
I hope you can find someone else. This lady is crazy.
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Default Aug 05, 2020 at 11:38 AM
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I would definitely look for someone else to work with.
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Default Aug 06, 2020 at 02:01 PM
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I had a discussion with her we are going to try going to once a week so I will hopefully have me to talk about. I am going to give her one more chance but she said she can’t promise no baby. I didn’t like the fact that she was blaming me for the short sessions. If I couldn’t think of something in 30 seconds she quickly ended the call. Some times it takes a while to say the hard stuff but she doesn’t let you. I am only giving her that chance because I hate looking for a T.
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You are being more generous and tolerant of her unprofessional behavior and mistreatment of you than I would be. I hope it gets better.

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You definitely need to find a new T. This one seems really inconsiderate and unprofessional.
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I am not impressed with her response. She needs to either be present as a T or be with her baby. With many (most T's) silence is welcomed at least to a certain degree. Often it is when something is being processed or working up the nerve to say something.

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