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Last week it was my last session with a therapist that I was seeing from my college. I saw her from late June until early August. I knew it was going to end so the last session was not a surprise. What was a surprise was that it was difficult to say goodbye when the time came. I feel saddened because I wish I had this therapy experience before. In the fall of 2018, I had to stop seeing my 1st therapist so they referred me out to see the 2nd therapist. My time with the 2nd T was not helpful and beneficial for me. I did not feel cared for, listened to, and I did not feel validated. I terminated with 2nd T this February, I was so fed up that I just had enough of therapy. With the college T, I was getting the things that I had with my 1st T. I felt they cared about me, I felt that I was being heard, and validated. They were concerned about my struggles similar to my 1st T. Things that I was missing. Even though we met online, it worked out well. I decided to see a college T because I have been struggling a lot during the summer. I felt that the college T was filling that empty void that my 1st T left empty.
After our last session last week, I felt a wave of sadness because I don't have that part of the week that I looked forward to. I missed having someone that wanted to hear about how I was doing. I am frustrated because I wish this recent therapy experience was the one I had instead of the one I had with the 2nd T. Late last week I was waiting for her to email me the link to connect but I knew immediately that was not going to happen because we already had our last session. Around this time we would have our session. I am imagining clicking on the link to connect online to start the session. I would be talking about how I hate my job, but somehow I am starting my semester in 2 weeks as an honors student and so on. When the time came to say goodbye, I froze for a few seconds because I knew that one of the most positive things that I had going was about to be gone. I said "Goodbye, thank you" and then clicked on leave meeting to end the session. |
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That sounds terribly hard. When I had to stop seeing former T (she got MS and needed to stop working) I cried all the way through the last session. I told her the final thing she taught me was how to cry. It's been two years. I still cry over her sometimes. Maybe you can find another T. You know what you want in a T it sounds like, so maybe you will be able to find another one to work with if you want. Or maybe you want to take a break and just be yourself for a bit. That's okay too. HUGS if wanted, Kit.
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It is indeed very hard to say goodbye, especially when someone seemed to care and then this connection has to end.
It's great that you had such a good therapy experience though. |
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