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Default Aug 14, 2020 at 12:34 PM
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This summer, my T is taking one week off for vacation, but as I just saw her on Wednesday, and I see her biweekly, this means I won't see her again for 3 weeks.

Vacations are hard enough for me, for reasons I'm sure many of you understand. But the pandemic has made me extra needy, wanting more connection with T, and the desire to be with people.

I'm a writer (My T is, too.), and she encouraged me to keep writing about all of the issues that affect me, particularly while she is away. I am working from home, and trying to listen to music to uplift my spirits, but this is seriously the most depressed I can remember being for a long time.

Please don't suggest long walks; my body lives with several chronic illnesses which make this near impossible. I'm also a musician, but haven't played any of my instruments in months. This bothers me, but does not provoke me enough to start playing again.

My T said now is a particularly hard time because all of her clients have the same fears, and she admitted to me that she shares some of these.

I know who is covering for her while she is away, but they are not always of support or comfort for me.

I know my T deserves a vacation; I don't resent her for taking one. But how am I going to get through this depression, when all the things I usually do aren't helping? I go to bed earlier and earlier, just so I can stop feeling. Last night I was in bed before the sun went down.....help, please.

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Hugs, I'm sorry. Vacations are really hard...Does she allow email or anything? I assume based on the schedule that she's going out of town not next week, but the week after? Is it possible to have some sort of phone or email check-in then so it wouldn't be as long till you communicated with her again?
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I can email her, but I have to say that it is not for "therapy via email," which she doesn't do. In the past I have written a letter to her, but not sent it. When she has returned, sometimes I read parts of it to her.
Yes, her vacation is the last week in August. At least she'll be in town for the next 2 weeks.

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Oh no, I hate it when they take holidays too. Except I pretend that I'm all ok with it to his face because I don't want him to feel guilty for not seeing me. Sometimes I make things for him when he is away..I don't always give them to him though, sometimes they seem silly.

I have a lot of pain too. I was watching a nice video recently about how to live best with any kind of pain, from a Buddhism perspective, if you are interested I can send you the link.

I like the writing idea. can we help at all? We could have a thread just for you to write how you feel in relation to missing your T or anything that's on your mind while they are away?
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Oh no, I hate it when they take holidays too. Except I pretend that I'm all ok with it to his face because I don't want him to feel guilty for not seeing me. Sometimes I make things for him when he is away..I don't always give them to him though, sometimes they seem silly.

I have a lot of pain too. I was watching a nice video recently about how to live best with any kind of pain, from a Buddhism perspective, if you are interested I can send you the link.

I like the writing idea. can we help at all? We could have a thread just for you to write how you feel in relation to missing your T or anything that's on your mind while they are away?
Thank you. I will keep my writing to myself.
Making something for T sounds interesting and possibly even fun. I will consider it.
Do please send me the link about living with pain. It won't hurt to look into it.

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Default Aug 14, 2020 at 04:22 PM
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Vacations are hard. T ans I actually discussed it a couple of years ago. How I struggle with that week in between but am okay and I really have a hard time when appointments need to be cancelled last minute. She said she completely inderstood.

It seems like my Ts are on vacation something painful happens. My T is on vacation starting yesterday and all next week. She told me to please text of I need to. She may bot get it for a while as she will likely not have her phone and especially check her work number but to text anyway.

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Default Aug 14, 2020 at 04:54 PM
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HUGS Cool. I'm not sure I have a lot of help to offer but I do have hugs to offer! HUGS

Have you tried doing artwork? Doesn't have to be fancy, just paint or color or scribble on a page. Might release some emotions.


I know what you mean about going to bed earlier and earlier. I often use sleep to escape stuff that is too hard or that I don't want to deal with or whatever.


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