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Default Sep 03, 2020 at 09:09 PM
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H is on a kick again. He wants to sell both our cars for a new car We only have enough money for 4-6 more months. He did get a job that starts next month at a university, but the pay won't even cover our bills.

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So we're in a townhouse community where you take trash and recycling up to the corner on the respective pickup days. There are certain times that you have to wait until. Some people put stuff out there days before, or else stuff that won't be taken by regular trash collection, like the mattresses I saw out there today. Today we got fined $50 by the condo association for "trash removal." H asked them about it. Apparently, a neighbor snapped a photo of H taking cardboard boxes up 2 hours early on recycling day. Which...seriously? Yes, I know we didn't follow the rules, but they were picked up by recycling, the condo association didn't have to deal with it. They reversed the charge (as there was no "trash removal" involved). But just annoying that apparently we have neighbors photographing us for stuff like that. H has lived here for like 15 years, me for 12 or so. We'll be careful of the rules from now on, but...really? This isn't like some fancy community by any sort of stretch either...that's where I expect this sort of stuff to go on. Sigh...
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I thought maybe the title was problematic because it has fowl language.

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Default Sep 04, 2020 at 02:00 AM
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Yikes, LT. That's not on. Nosy neighbours are one thing, but when they cost you money...nope!

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@ElectricManatee , yeah, i told my partner nicely that he's never used a rice cooker in his life, "trust this Asian", and that there's plenty of recipes online. Then my friend and I baked brownies in the rice cooker and I sent him photos. He apologised!
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LT, I would feel slightly violated that someone was out snapping photos of me.

We had a neighborhood incident too - some kids playing around spilled some sort of pinkish slime on husband's car. I thought he was going to explode but fortunately it washed right off (we live in an apartment complex). They were just kids being kids.
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I've been trying to do at least one DBT-related thing every day (read part of the book I have, listen to a bit of a podcast, use a skill, etc).

It actually kinda helps.

I am clearly becoming a convert.
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So we're in a townhouse community where you take trash and recycling up to the corner on the respective pickup days. There are certain times that you have to wait until. Some people put stuff out there days before, or else stuff that won't be taken by regular trash collection, like the mattresses I saw out there today. Today we got fined $50 by the condo association for "trash removal." H asked them about it. Apparently, a neighbor snapped a photo of H taking cardboard boxes up 2 hours early on recycling day. Which...seriously? Yes, I know we didn't follow the rules, but they were picked up by recycling, the condo association didn't have to deal with it. They reversed the charge (as there was no "trash removal" involved). But just annoying that apparently we have neighbors photographing us for stuff like that. H has lived here for like 15 years, me for 12 or so. We'll be careful of the rules from now on, but...really? This isn't like some fancy community by any sort of stretch either...that's where I expect this sort of stuff to go on. Sigh...
This kind of behaviour would infuriate me. Well done to H for following up on the fine.

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H is on a kick again. He wants to sell both our cars for a new car We only have enough money for 4-6 more months. He did get a job that starts next month at a university, but the pay won't even cover our bills.


Without seeming to be too critical of your H. Maybe regularly buying small toy cars from Amazon would kerb his interest. It doesn't make sense particularly in this climate to be making large unnecessary purchases and keeping your home should be the priority.

How much is the last new car costing? Maybe you could get rid of one but not replace it.

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I've been trying to do at least one DBT-related thing every day (read part of the book I have, listen to a bit of a podcast, use a skill, etc).

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I am clearly becoming a convert.


This is lovely to hear EM. Well done on keeping up.

Did you make the photobook in the end? I spent ages making one on Photobox but the £4.99 postage put me off and the total was £27. In the end I just got them printed as 6x4 photos for £5 and maybe 8 of the best ones as squares.

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Default Sep 04, 2020 at 12:45 PM
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Today isn't much better than yesterday. I'm annoyed T didn't text me back. This is why I don't like texting my T--she started the texting thing then when I really need her she doesn't text back! There is no point in calling because she is at her other office all day, although I suppose I could get her voicemail but I don't care, I see her tomorrow anyway. My parents offered to stay home from their trip because I'm not doing well but I told them to go. They need to get this stuff straightened out for my sister and brother in law and even if they delayed their trip by a week there's no telling that I'll be well by next weekend. I did set up with a friend that I could go to her place if I am too unwell. She has her sister staying with her right now but she said she has an extra bed if I need to sleep over.


Pastor T emailed me back. I emailed him out of desperation. It was a really sweet email too. He said something like this: that runners hit the wall and then they have to push through their pain to get to the other side and this is me hitting my wall. He told me he believes in me and that was nice.


The biggest thing is that I cannot let myself fall apart right now because I do not want to be hospitalized. So I have to keep it together. But what happens when keeping it together is tearing you apart?!! UGH.


At least I'm at work for a full day today. I don't have much work to do but at least I'm getting paid for the day. My mind is on self destruct mode. I feel like I could almost cry but I'm not there yet. I hate being in crisis.

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Think it went OK, and he said he was fine with the conversation, that I handled an awkward conversation as best as i possibly could have. But I still feel weird, mainly because I opened up this whole can of worms right at the end, about how he's self-disclosing much more (which he said he didn't realize he was doing) and is more nurturing, and it makes me worry about if he's still "safe" like in terms of boundaries. He said how he can be nurturing but still hold strong boundaries. Seeing him Sunday rather than Monday, because I'm sure I'll start to get (more) anxious about this, and I don't think dealing with that over email is the best idea.
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This is lovely to hear EM. Well done on keeping up.

Did you make the photobook in the end? I spent ages making one on Photobox but the £4.99 postage put me off and the total was £27. In the end I just got them printed as 6x4 photos for £5 and maybe 8 of the best ones as squares.
I didn't, but thanks for the reminder! I have been meaning to come up with some kind of annual family photobook idea that won't be too much work to keep up with. Somebody in another forum said they do one page per month and then a few special features pages like for the garden and the pets. I also have a blank baby book staring me in the face. 😬 Maybe this weekend...
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I'm so overwhelmed. I've had to talk to so many people lately about my mental health. Last week it was the new NP. This week it's been a retired LPC from the disability insurance company, the IOP intake, the IOP psychiatrist, and in twenty minutes the IOP therapist. I also have 3 groups scheduled for today. P is going camping so out of cell phone range and I won't see him until Monday evening. I'm so damn tired.
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HUGS @NP_Complete that does sound like a lot...I hope it ends up being helpful and not so overwhelming. HUGS Kit

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My older cat Esther has another bladder infection. Luckily since she was just at the vets like 5 weeks ago, he let me just pick up another prescription for antibiotics so I didn't have to pay for an appointment and a urine sample. So Esther is back on antibiotics. It was still like $50 but it's better than being a couple of hundred dollars.

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