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you can ask your therapist for but have always been too afraid to ask?
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Magnate
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Location: United States
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#2
To hug me but that will never happen now with COVID.
__________________ When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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#3
Never say never, MD. True, it might not happen in the immediate future, but people need people, so we won't be prohibited from physical contact forever.
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#4
Nothing that I can think of. I asked what I wanted and knew what not to ask (and I wasn't that curious about those things anyway). They were pretty open with me.
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#5
I still wish she would do a sand tray with me. But I refuse to ask again. Especially since I don't want to go in there again just yet because of stupid covid.
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"Sand tray therapy allows a person to construct their own microcosm using miniature toys and colored sand. The scene created acts as a reflection of the person's own life and allows them the opportunity to resolve conflicts, remove obstacles, and gain acceptance of self." Before covid I did sand tray. It's quite amazingly effective. It works with your subconscious. __________________ |
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Right now mostly things we did pre-covid
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#9
I want to k ow what she really thinks of me. Not the nice, non judgment, professional answer but what she as a regular person thinks. Or if she could change one thing about ke what would it be.
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If he cares about me.
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I wish I could talk to her about specific stuff without getting super uncomfortable. Every week I think I’ll have the nerve to but the second she comes on the screen I immediately freeze like deer in headlights.
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Magnate
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__________________ When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Grand Poohbah
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For those of you wishing you knew what your therapist *really* thinks about you and how they truly feel about you - be careful what you wish for! My therapist has told me this (I didn't ask her) and it's not pretty. Sometimes we don't need access to their nitty gritty responses to us.
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Grand Poohbah
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...Of course you might be nicer people than I am and would indeed hear pretty things!
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#15
Based on my T's behavior the past two weeks, I think she cares about me more than I ever thought.
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I can relate to this, earlier this month my t let slip a response to something I said, that was rather un-t-like and it was a bit (well more than a bit) of a shock! |
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Location: Usa
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Yeah, I dont want to know.
Talking lately about current events, violence, protests, election stuff because Im stressed about these. T let slip a few comments that made me feel she thinks Im an uninformed, misguided person. Very indirect, but still not fun. |
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#18
to just let me lay on her couch for an hour with a blanket and have her talk lovingly and soothingly to me when I'm in crisis. I doubt that would ever happen, nor do I think I would actually ask for it. But it would be lovely. To just feel taken care of for once.
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I am sorry that she behaved that way toward you. Did you get a chance to bring it up with her? I would have been so upset enough to have told the therapist off. Thank God that I have one that is very careful with how he expresses himself toward patients and others. |
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