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I brought all the unmet needs stuff (another thread here) up with T yesterday. He said he trained with a woman who went on to do some kind of touch therapy, where she holds people, naked sometimes...verging on sexual but not quite. Depending what they want. I did not know this was a thing.
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I would love hugs if they were given freely. Anything more does not appeal to me.
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I've never heard of it. I don't think I'd be comfortable with it myself.
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Naked? No way in heck! That honestly does not sound ethical at all.
I do think some people benefit from touch in therapy - done with safe boundaries and solid ethics. I would definitely not want touch therapy. Coming from a history of sexual abuse, that would not have ever felt safe or appropriate. |
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Less than zero interest if that's even possible, the idea of naked is appalling to me.
normal regular hugs, yes. Before the pandemic/zoom sessions anyway, t and I hugged at the end of every session. It started one time well into therapy when one day she said she felt like she wanted to give me a hug and I said yes please and then after that, one or the other of us would ask first, and then at some point I don't remember when it just became a thing. |
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WTH? Touch therapy is done by a touch therapist, not by the therapist you talk to and have an established relationship with. What is "verging on sexual, but not quite"? Something is either sexual (arousing) or it's not.
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He did say it wasn't ok with UKCP or anything so she must have set up her own business after she trained. I had just never heard of it before he said.
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[QUOTE=Lostislost;6939532]I think, if me and my T had regular physical contact like you do, that would be enough for me.
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I am interested in people saying that they wouldn't feel comfortable paying for physical contact - and yet we pay for emotional contact in therapy. What is the difference for people? I have a similar response to touch combined with money, but I am not sure why. Not wanting touch at all in therapy makes sense to me because it's risky for some and alien for some. Also, craniosacral or somatic therapy can involve touch, are those therapies similarly uncomfortable?
Obviously, naked and borderline sexual touch in any kind of therapeutic setting sounds vile to me. |
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With hug therapy I wouldn't be able to build the rapport and trust. Maybe it all has to do with the fact that my user used hugs to his advantage. __________________ |
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I suppose I was imagining that touch focussed therapy would also involve trust building and safety. Maybe boundaries would be even more essential.
I don't know. It is curious to me that emotional connection is more readily experienced (and paid for) than somatic connection. Is it because we mix somatic with sexual, especially those of us who have experienced sexual trauma? |
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I do not find this appealing at all.
Far from ethical. Slippery slope notwithstanding, I would most certainly not like to be touched by any random person. |
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It doesn't sound like therapy. It sounds almost like prostitution. Either way, it is probably very unethical.
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I don't have any problem with people paying for touch (sexual or not), but I wouldn't have any interest in this kind of thing. I don't even like massages, and all the touch involved in having to get physical therapy made me cringe.
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I am a sexual abuse survivor. I love hugs from people I trust (usually women, such as my therapist). I don't have any particular problem with being touched by, for example, a doctor or massage therapist I get a good feeling from. That said, the "touch therapy" thing sounds highly awkward and even unprofessional. I'm still saying No to this one.
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I am not advocating for this kind of therapy. I was just interested in why we are reacting so strongly against it. There is a curious nuance to be looked at between accepting emotional intimacy and rejecting body intimacy from paid professionals. After all, if we have experienced sexual abuse, we have experienced emotional abuse. Anyway. Nevermind. As you were.
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