Couch 220: Second To None!

SlumberKitty · Oct 20, 2020 at 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

Went for a run; hoping that’ll jostle me out of this.

That's a great idea! I did some chair yoga at work today and it seemed to help me too. I just did the stretches and stuff they taught us at the hospital. I think it helped my mood though. I hope you feel better soon.

atisketatasket · Oct 20, 2020 at 05:36 PM

No adult deserves anything from any other adult except basic respect and courtesy. IMO.

That graveyard analogy is good for Halloween season, though...

LonesomeTonight · Oct 20, 2020 at 05:39 PM

I did go for a walk on the beach earlier (at parents’ beach place for a couple days). I probably should have done it after instead of before my session...

atisketatasket · Oct 20, 2020 at 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I wonder if you would you ever say that to a patient who came to you? You're currently not well because you're not well, not because you're playing games and choosing to be unwell .

I don’t think he means the sick role is a choice. He seems like he’s using it to mean a role, a narrative we tell ourselves. Whether that’s what chihiro is doing is another matter. You can do the best you can and still be playing a sick role.

I’ve played the sick role, in therapy mostly with No. 3. I wish she’d caught onto that.

stopdog · Oct 20, 2020 at 09:05 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

No adult deserves anything from any other adult except basic respect and courtesy. IMO.

That graveyard analogy is good for Halloween season, though...

It was an analogy I understood. But I hate halloween

Quietmind 2 · Oct 20, 2020 at 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

God, I just keep checking my email and Facebook and the Couch and I've been going around and around between those three things for like an hour and not doing anything at all. I'm pathetic.

You're not pathetic. I've been doing the same thing a lot yesterday because T hasn't replied to a huge email about me feeling very triggered

Quietmind 2 · Oct 20, 2020 at 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Thanks, QM!

They just scraped the plaque off, no polishing because of covid, the said polishing aerosolises stuff. Anyway, my three left front bottom teeth have never looked better! (They are the only virgin straight teeth i have

.)

Oohh, I hope my appointment goes smoothly when it comes. Gawd, I hate the dentist

NP_Complete · Oct 20, 2020 at 09:31 PM

It's 7:30 pm and my father's ashes have still not arrived. I hope they're not lost in the postal system.

chihirochild · Oct 21, 2020 at 07:31 AM

I emailed T saying I felt just utterly low for being dishonest with him, and he actually replied. He said, among other things, “I do not believe that our relationship is so fragile that it cannot withstand some injuries like that, within reason.”

It’s not the warmest or the fuzziest, but it was enough to soothe me a little.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 21, 2020 at 07:45 AM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

I emailed T saying I felt just utterly low for being dishonest with him, and he actually replied. He said, among other things, “I do not believe that our relationship is so fragile that it cannot withstand some injuries like that, within reason.”

It’s not the warmest or the fuzziest, but it was enough to soothe me a little.

I'm glad he wrote back and that it helped. And that sounds so much like something Dr. T would say.

ElectricManatee · Oct 21, 2020 at 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

I emailed T saying I felt just utterly low for being dishonest with him, and he actually replied. He said, among other things, “I do not believe that our relationship is so fragile that it cannot withstand some injuries like that, within reason.”

It’s not the warmest or the fuzziest, but it was enough to soothe me a little.

Is the dishonesty just that you engaged in the behavior? Or did you lie about it?

chihirochild · Oct 21, 2020 at 09:11 AM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

Is the dishonesty just that you engaged in the behavior? Or did you lie about it?

I promised him that I wouldn't engage in the behaviour but then I did anyway. He never actually asked, "did you engage in this behaviour;" if he had asked I wouldn't have been able to lie to him outright and I would have owned up to doing it.

I guess it's more like breaking a promise than lying, then? Either way, I like to think of myself as a trustworthy person, and this was not an honest or forthright thing to do.

susannahsays · Oct 21, 2020 at 09:20 AM

My cat has a vet appointment today and he's going to be so upset...

susannahsays · Oct 21, 2020 at 09:21 AM

I don't think it's helpful to coerce someone into promising not to do something like self harm.

chihirochild · Oct 21, 2020 at 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

I don't think it's helpful to coerce someone into promising not to do something like self harm.

I wasn't being clear--he asked me to promise him that I would call him before engaging in the behaviour, and I would still have the option of engaging in it if he couldn't talk me out of it... but I didn't call him, I just did it. So he was actually being more supportive than I was giving him credit for.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 21, 2020 at 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

It's 7:30 pm and my father's ashes have still not arrived. I hope they're not lost in the postal system.

Did they end up arriving? If not, I hope you get them today. Lately, I've had packages that were due to arrive on a certain date take an extra day or two, even things that said "out for delivery" that day.

NP_Complete · Oct 21, 2020 at 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Did they end up arriving? If not, I hope you get them today. Lately, I've had packages that were due to arrive on a certain date take an extra day or two, even things that said "out for delivery" that day.

It now says it will arrive today by 7:15 pm. Guess we won't be dealing with this in session today

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chihirochild · Oct 21, 2020 at 12:42 PM

I'm having *so* much fun buying Christmas presents for my local BFF. (My BFF back home and I aren't really gift-exchanging kinds of friends except for the occasional care package.)

I suspect my local BFF's love language is gift-giving because she's always giving me super cool stuff out of the blue; I started giving her gifts too because I felt funny accepting things without reciprocating and now we give each other something every month or two as a surprise and it's a lot of fun!

This Christmas I'm going to give her 12 days of presents like an individualized advent calendar. I'm still working on finding things, but my favorite so far is "I Wrote A Book About You" which is a little book of prompts that I'll fill in about her. She has days where she feels down on herself, and I feel like this might be a nice thing for her to look at when that happens. I wish I were craftier so I could make one from scratch but I'm a complete disaster with crafty things, always have been.

I know it's super early to be thinking about this but it makes me happy

ArtieTheSequal · Oct 21, 2020 at 01:29 PM

I'm feeling under the weather today... ugh. Started with a sore throat yesterday and today my throat's better but I'm feeling super congested like a chest cold and wish I could just go to bed instead of going back to work after lunch, then doing therapy, then doing my class tonight. No fever though, and my sense of smell is intact so I'm taking those as a good sign that it's just a cold and not this stupid plague....

NP_Complete · Oct 21, 2020 at 01:55 PM

P emailed me to say he had a scratchy throat and a slightly elevated temperature so we're not going to meet today. He just returned from a trip to a neighboring state that isn't doing as well as our state COVID-wise. I hope he doesn't have this stupid virus.

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atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,147 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Oct 20, 2020 at 05:36 PM #482 No adult deserves anything from any other adult except basic respect and courtesy. IMO. That graveyard analogy is good for Halloween season, though... __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,744 (SuperPoster!) 9 74.9k hugs given	Oct 20, 2020 at 05:39 PM #483 I did go for a walk on the beach earlier (at parents’ beach place for a couple days). I probably should have done it after instead of before my session...

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,808 7 6,349 hugs given	Oct 20, 2020 at 09:31 PM #488 It's 7:30 pm and my father's ashes have still not arrived. I hope they're not lost in the postal system.

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	Oct 21, 2020 at 07:31 AM #489 I emailed T saying I felt just utterly low for being dishonest with him, and he actually replied. He said, among other things, “I do not believe that our relationship is so fragile that it cannot withstand some injuries like that, within reason.” It’s not the warmest or the fuzziest, but it was enough to soothe me a little.

susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 5 1 hugs given	Oct 21, 2020 at 09:20 AM #493 My cat has a vet appointment today and he's going to be so upset... __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold

susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 5 1 hugs given	Oct 21, 2020 at 09:21 AM #494 I don't think it's helpful to coerce someone into promising not to do something like self harm. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,808 7 6,349 hugs given	Oct 21, 2020 at 01:55 PM #500 P emailed me to say he had a scratchy throat and a slightly elevated temperature so we're not going to meet today. He just returned from a trip to a neighboring state that isn't doing as well as our state COVID-wise. I hope he doesn't have this stupid virus.