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Oct 17, 2020 at 08:34 AM
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I really didn't think she would reply. Normally when I send her something, especially if it's over the weekend, I don't expect her to reply, and I always said we would discuss whatever I have written in our next session.
Anyway, this time she did reply. And I guess that's because I kind of asked for reassurance that she does still want to work with me, and her answer was that 'of course yes'. I guess she's right in the sense that even if she gives me this answer firmly, I may not necessarily believe what she says. I honestly just feel like an annoying child and I hate to be like this. But it's just so freaking hard for me to trust someone, especially when the norm has been everyone just leaves, and no one is reliable. And if there's anyone that's nice to me they must have another agenda and it couldn't be just that they do care about me. |
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Oct 17, 2020 at 09:58 AM
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I'm glad your T replied. i think it was good to send her what you wrote--I felt like you were clear and to the point. i sometimes send my T stuff that I can't bring up in session and find it helpful to just write it down.
It's good your T reassured you. I think trust takes time to develop sometimes. i too feel like everyone will leave me (including my T) so I understand where you are coming from with the need for reassurance. I would try to bring up the fact that you feel like an "annoying child" to your T--seems like a good thing to explore and I'm willing to bet on it that your T doesn't feel that way about you (and if she does, she's probably in the wrong profession). |
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Oct 17, 2020 at 10:25 AM
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It's like what comrademoomoo said in your other thread: you're probably projecting your fears onto your T. I do that too. Like I always worry that she thinks I'm gross and disgusting when we talk about certain things. But that's me projecting onto her how I feel about myself. I also have fears about her leaving me because that's what everyone has done in the past. But in our relationship, she's shown no signs that she's going to leave me. It's my fear projected onto her.
These are great topics to bring up in therapy. As L would say: all things you bring to therapy (fears, pain, struggles, happiness, joy, longings, everything) is an opportunity to grow personally and within your relationship. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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