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Rather than take over the other thread I decided to start a new one. What role does your therapist play in your life is it strictly profession T vs. Cleint our is there another role they play?
Long term T was like an Aunt to me. We could talk about almost everything. We really cared about each other. She gave me lots of support and was very compassionate. She taught me a lot about life, parenting, etc. She wasnt a mother figure because well she didnt have use discipline. Nor did I ever feel completely sure she wouldn't have enough with me and say see ya unlike my mom who was stuck with me. Emdr T while she is very supportive and compassionate, I am in a different place in life and I do not need her to provide guidance in some of the area I needed T (although it wourdbe nice). It is pretty much just a professional role. Maybe like a coworker, you enjoy each others company, you suppport each other and are friendly as long as you are working together. When one of you leaves the relationship often ends. __________________ Last edited by nottrustin; Oct 25, 2020 at 12:52 PM.. |
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My therapist I have now is very supportive. She is very professional, but her boundaries are very relaxed in that it makes me feel safe and comfortable. I feel she is there for me all the time. I like how she can be so honest and compassionate at the same time.
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Mother/sister/friend/professional
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She's the therapist. Sometimes I think there is some transference and countertransference where she acts like a nagging parent and/or I feel rebellious with or without reason.
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My T represents all sorts of things to me—father, intellectual sparring partner, overprotective older brother, caretaker, that sort of thing.
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Therapist, teacher, mother-figure, peer.
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A sounding board and a steadying force. She helps me see that my emotions are not bad, even though they are terrifying to me.
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Father, therapist, teacher, though I think these are all roles I throw him in rather than roles he'd willingly inhabit. We see what we want to see, I guess.
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While in therapy, they were therapists. I really didn't see them as a parent or anything like that - I hired my last one specifically to be a person to check in with regularly and keep me honest with myself when it came to my depression, etc. What is that? A checkpoint? Not sure what the word would be. (I bet those Germans have a word for it. LOL)
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Mine is strictly professional. She's my psychologist - that's it. The only other possible thing I could think to label her as would be "witness".
I have a lot of self-ownership of my therapy, and a lot of trust that my (DID) system knows what is needed for healing. We only really need her to be a witness for us as we work things out ourselves. Sometimes she "nudges" us to keep us on the right path. The arrangement appears to work well for both of us. |
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He is strictly a therapist who in that capacity, is also a teacher of coping skills and a pain in the butt who nags me to use my skills, take my pills, get better sleep and exercise, and is constantly pushing me foward and out of my comfort zone.
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My T is a dad to my younger parts, a coach/support for me, sometimes a best friend to talk to when I’m feeling alone. During our time together T tries to model what a healthy relationship would be in whatever kind of role I am needing except a sexual/partner role.
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This seems to fit for my T as well. He'd want to be more of a coach or mentor, where I put him in more of a paternal role at times, from whom I seek comfort. And a general support person. And "authority figure," which he doesn't want to be considered--yet he goes by "Dr. [last name]" (and says clients should call him that vs. his first name). And, I suppose, at times, he's in the role of object of desire for me, too (but he says we can't control who we fantasize about, so...). |
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So after my original post and reading everybody else's answers. I decided I needed to put more thought into the rules Emdr T plays. I have been missing long term T a lot lately which usually causes me to put dome walls up with Emdr T. Emdr T is a good role model of good self care. she reminds me frequently that taking care of me is as important as taking care of others.
She is somewhat a spiritual director. We are the same religion she from birth and has attended many various churches and has beliefs and thoughts that are somewhat different than mine. We get into some great spiritual discussions and teach each other. Often we discuss how my faith plays into my healing. __________________ |
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Former T: Very much like an aunt or a grandma to me. She was also a therapist to me. And a teacher of emotions.
Pastor T: Pastor and Therapist. complicated at times. Regular T: Just a T nothing more. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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With current T is that the way you want it? In time do you think it will change into something more?
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