Do you have secure attachment style?

Secure Attachment in Adults:
Adults who enjoy Secure Attachment have greater self-confidence, healthy boundaries, and balance in life. They also practice self-regulation and resilience when faced with challenges or trauma.

They are able to give and receive love and are comfortable seeking their partner when they need advice, help, or affection. Securely Attached adults see each other as equals and provide a safe zone of support for one another within their relationship.

Both partners are independent, but are also comfortable seeking the safe haven of their partner when circumstances arise. They are able to self-regulate and co-regulate effectively.

Securely Attached adults acknowledge both their value and the value of their partner without sacrificing self or other.

How to Develop More Secure Attachment:
Recognizing other Attachment adaptations that affect your ability to be fully

Securely Attached and discovering the early experiences that contributed to these adaptations can be helpful. Recognizing when you are feeling Secure and noting the difference in that feeling and behavior versus allowing triggers to occasionally lead you to adapt Avoidant, Ambivalent, or Disorganized. You can then explore ways to grow even more into Secure Attachment.

You may also continue growing Secure Attachment characteristics by being in a long-term relationship with a Securely Attached individual and practicing together.
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I just too this Free Quiz
Attachment Styles Test: Attachment Style Quiz from Dr. Diane Poole Heller

My attachment style must be so insecure I wouldn’t even give my email and subscribe to learn my results Thanks for posting though!

I was diagnosed with ‘attachment issues’ and would be curious as to what kind, too.

finding out what kind of attachment issues is not too hard. There is another quiz here that doesn't require an email address.

The C.A.R.E. Program

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And wikipedia has some insight too.

Attachment in adults - Wikipedia

Definitely not.

I didn't take the test but googled attachment styles. Whay I learned is for the most part I have a secure attachment with my husband however when it comes to everybody else I have the following syles; avoidant, anxious/insecure, and disorganized.

No, I think most people want to use me, judge me, laugh at me, abandon me. Even when people are nice, especially when they are nice, why are they being nice to me?

Also, please I want them to be nice to me...please stay in my life and fight to see me, even though I have nothing to offer you. Nothing about me is secure.

I do have a secure attachment style.

The first time I was aware of intimately knowing someone who didn't was with my husband. It took him a long time to trust my family and me. It was so strange to me because trust comes really easy for me and my family is the reason for that ability I guess. It was really confusing and frustrating for a long time.

Fortunately, I do think he finally got there. It took a while and some therapy along the way.

Securely attached people are mythical beasts. Don't you need a normal, loving family? Life tells me that these are mutually exclusive concepts.

LOL! Yes, I do think it means having a loving family - one you mostly felt safe with. Does that mean "normal"? Meh, what's normal?

I know for me, even though we weren't a perfect family, we did have profound respect and love for each other. We were very close - strongly attached to each other in healthy ways. That doesn't mean we always agreed or there weren't errors along the way. It does mean we could honor each other despite our disagreements; we could admit our failings and forgive our imperfections. And we could trust . . . easily.

I don’t. Mine is more anxious-avoidant.

I think it's possible to identify normal, although liberal thinking seems to think this is a dirty concept. It is normal to love your children, normal to not have sex with children, normal to not beat your children, normal to create a home where safety and basic care needs are attended. We can describe any manner of child rearing as normal, but abusing children is not normal. It is devastating. My childhood was not normal and I crave those family elements which were missing. Normal doesn't mean perfect and I would have welcomed those casual fractures which a family can survive. Meh, it's a privilege to question the concept of normal.

I don't have a secure attachment style. And I agree with @comrademoomoo that normal can be identified. My childhood wasn't normal. Too many adverse childhood experiences (ACE's). My parents did try but some things were beyond their control and I learned early on that it wasn't safe to trust grown ups. (Even my parents.) Even though now as an adult I have a good relationship with them. But the damage is done. I don't know if I can undo it.

I am secure with friends, lovers, and family. I am avoidant around therapists

I took the quiz and it was spot on for me. The style that came out highest was Ambivalent/Anxious. My mom had severe BPD. The "good" her was wonderful. Unfortunately the "bad" her was a terribly emotionally and physically abusive maniac. Never knew from hour to hour who I'd get as a mother.

Ambivalently attached people have had caregivers who were on again off again, inconsistently tending and attuning to the child. Because of the lack of consistency the child doubts whether their needs will be met and is on the constant look out for cues and clues to how their behavior may or may not influence the parent’s responses. Over time they find themselves on an emotional see saw of needs being met and not being met. Their object relation is “I can want, but cannot have.”
You may observe that in ambivalent attachment styles there is a tendency to be chronically dissatisfied. First, there is a tendency to project their own familial history onto their relationship. Secondly if the other person becomes available, they become unavailable! Unaccustomed to receiving love, having it available doesn’t fit their profile of “still wanting”. Over time partners of Ambivalent people can be discouraged by their love being dismissed and the loss of the relationship can be the both the feared and created outcome.

No, definitely not. My attachment style is highly disorganized, with a unhealthy dose of avoidant to supplement it.
With my "family" I couldn't have ended up with anything else.

20 Secure answers
2 Avoidant answers
1 Ambivalent answer
1 Disorganized answer

I'm 83.3% secure.

I felt 100% secure but ok.

I thought my childhood wasn’t especially abnormal. It was when my marital problems forced me to take a look back that I saw it. Do they only consider the earliest years of childhood in determining attachment disorders?

If attachment is based on the first years of life, I was cared for. Ages 1-5, there’s nothing I remember (and I have some vivid memories from then), a few things were off... The big one was I wouldn’t eat, wasn’t thriving. It was never determined why by any doctor, just ‘she’ll eat when she’s ready’, which I did. I was on the scale of growth (10%?). Mother was very predictable throughout life, good /or banshee. Father was emotionally absent and then he died when I was 12. Sisters had no interest in me.

Attachment theory is very interesting to me. Yes, early childhood years make a difference, but the neuroscience talks about formation of neurocircuitry all the up to around 22 years old. I can't quote the phenomenon, but that is the time when the formation stages start settling down. The secure attachment style is mostly formed by family and in early stages through teenage years. The good news is that the brain can rewire even in later years. This is called neuroplasticity. Bad relationships cause damage and self fulfilling prophecies. Good "healthy" relationships build back the secure attachment circuitry and make relationships more fulfilling. Emotionally absent parents have a strong influence.