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Old 11-20-2020, 02:42 PM   #11
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Iíve been with the same therapist for 10 years. And I have zero guilt over it. I occupy space in this world, and donít apologize for it. Are there people Ďmore deserving?í Whoís to say? If you have access to help or resources, have at it, and focus on that, rather than who deserves what and at what quantities. Thatís my philosophy.
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Old 11-20-2020, 03:31 PM   #12
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I had a lot of bad therapy experiences before finding my current T. Honestly, I think having had previous poor experiences (even if they were OK but not productive) makes therapy take longer when you do find a good T. My T has had to fix and change a lot of things from old Tís.
I totally agree. While I didn't have a bad therapist I had a horrible painful ending. Current T and I spent many sessions dealing with the grief and loss since long term Ts death. Plus it has taken time to adjust how the loss changed the dynamics of our relationship. It took work to go from her being being the therapist I worked with soley for trauma work and all of us knowing T would always be my primary T, to current T being my only T it required a whole new level of trust for me.
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I was in therapy with my first T for 6 years and I used to feel kind-of guilty. The only reason I stopped was because the therapy was through the Veteran's Admin and he was sent somewhere else. Stopping was very hard. Looking back, I wish I wouldn't have felt guilty.

I've been with my current T for 2 1/2 years and wish I could be with her for many more. Unfortunately, she'll be 70 next month...I doubt she'll work for more than 2 more years.

I believe that everyone should be in therapy as part of normal medical care.
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I think knowing that im making progress now is helping me allot. I think for me it's helping me to survive in this world. I think the more I see it this way the less guilt I will have as I begin to feel more at ease with myself. It was not easy being with my ex t who felt different. My therapist im seeing now is very caring and motherly like.
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I think therapy makes me better at supporting other people in my life, so I don't feel guilty at all.
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I don't feel guilty for having the appointment and taking a slot because she is not accepting new clients. I pay her for the appointments. I do sometimes feel mildly guilty because I have the highly sought after on evening appointnent she has. That is because I started seeing her when she started her private practice.

My guilt comes more from when I think about how much money I have spent on therapy. We could for on a vacation each year with it. Even when money has been tight and I suggested cutting back on therapy my husband will not have it. He feels it is an essential for me and our family. So we would cut a lot out of our budget before I cut therapy.
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I don't see a need for guilt. If you want to go to a therapist and can -have at it. No different than any other hobby. I don't see therapy as a health matter and I certainly don't think everyone should do it, but if it is a way you wish to spend your time and money - then have at it.
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