[goldmaiden]

Hi guys.

Well i wanted to write about finding a guy who i could go out with.

Right now, because i have had my problems, i am doing very little. However soon i hope to get a job.

I see friends occasionally, however i usually just talk to friends online (these are friends from all over the world)

I am part of scouts but i'm not particularly friends with anyone there and i am going less and less because of that.

I am also thinking of taking up yoga and perhaps a sport.

But how do i meet guys?

I suppose it is easiest to meet guys through friends...sometimes this friend of mine invites me out with her friends...and then i get to meet new people which is good.

How do people meet guys?

[alisandria]

You can look in your local paper on the weekend editions (here anyway) they have lists of activities for singles to do, or at least possible places you could meet singles. Like fairs, church activities, bingo, dinner nights, places to socialize. I wouldn't go alone though. Go with a friend if you can. Wine tastings, and food tastings are good if you can find them in your area. Also Expo shows. We travel into the big city for that.

I have hard and fast rules I stick by. 1. Never leave or meet up with the person I just met. 2. If phone #s are to be exchanged, I take his. 3. I don't allow anyone to pick me up at my house, until I am sure this is gonna be more than a date or two. 4. Meet in public, with someone knowing where you will be. 5. I never do romantic dates on the first few dates...I keep it light, and easy for both of us. Mall, or a fair is a good place to go.

This way if a guy doesn't have good intentions you can tell pretty much up front!!!

G'luck, and wtg on getting back out there!!! hugs, Lisa

[goldmaiden]

Thanks Alisandria!

[LMo]

Alisandria has some good personal rules!

I met my husband at a do-it-yourself picture framing store. He worked there, and I spent a lot of time learning how to frame art. We probably would never have gotten together if he had worked, say, at a grocery store. There just wouldn't have been enough prolonged interaction.

Therefore, if I had to do it over again, it would be to:
- take classes in something I'm interested in (because the guys I'd meet would have common interests)
- definitely do some kind of coed sport, but most likely for me it would be bike riding
- find some clubs, perhaps on Craigslist, maybe for gardening or travel
- travel a LOT, and stay in hostels or other places where you're likely to meet outgoing and curious travelers

good luck, goldgirl

[JustAPixie]

I was also struggling to meet new people... not a guy as such, but just to make some friends. I discovered routine was a very important thing. I use to go and drink a cup of coffee at the same place at the same time everyday and soon you start to see familiar faces and start to interact with them. Do the things you like and you will meet people with the same interests, like LMo mentioned. There are many lonely people out there who would also love to meet someone.

If you still have problems I'll let you in on the way I caught myself a date in a very desperate way without it seeming so!!!!!!!!!

[goldmaiden]

Thanks LMo and Tanya!

[JustAPixie]

Always a pleasure goldmaiden.

(((((((((( hugs )))))))))