[desirae]

I have a MySpace account. I've always liked it because I can keep in touch with old friends from high school, cousins, my sister, new friends, and my cherished local bands. Well one day I received a request from a old friend from my runaway druggie days. Him and I were together for a year and a half, on the streets, doing drugs, and running away from home to be together. We did horrible things to the people involved in our lives back in them days, but we were deeply in love with each other. Just a pair of love drunk juveniles, modern day Bonnie and Clyde. On our last day together we were arrested together. Our agreement in the back of the squad car was to meet back up after we were released and to be together forever. I was sent to girl school, he was sent to boy school and we were split for a year before our releases. After my release I was carted off to West Virginia and we had never spoken till he found me on MySpace.

Now it's gotten confusing. He tells me we never split and that he still loves me and wants to be with me. He's still the same guy I was split from years ago, yet an adult. He's so much like me it's scary, he knows me still to this day.

The offer has arised for him to come sweep me away from here and taking my children with us. He really wants me.

I've fought this with myself for along time now. I've cussed him out telling him to leave me alone, yet I keep coming back to him. Maybe I am lonely?

It's so hard, this teetering decision. I love my husband..I love him I love him, I'd never imagine taking his children from him, he cherishes them more then himself. Yet, I want my old friend as well. He's so gorgeous...

Lust, love, betrayal, heart ache, selfishness....this is all consuming me. I sometimes wish I could just make it all go away.

I need advice.

[bebop]

honey if you really love your husband you need to leave this guy alone. You said he is still the same guy from years ago. does this mean he is still doig his drugs and drinking? if so that is not what you need for yourself or your kids. maybe you are just thinking of how it was then and want some of that now. we can NEVER go back. only can move forward.

[desirae]

He's sober now, actually he's doing well life wise. But he's still a child in many sense. He has no children, he still lives at home with his mother...stuff like that. But he is independant and works...is considering college.

[RosePetals]

I would love to tell you if that would make you happy, Go for it!
The truth is the grass is not always greener on the other side. I would think long and hard, before you just jump in with both feet. You also have your children to thank about. Just my thought.
Good luck sweetie...

[bebop]

he still lives with his mom is a red flag to me but that is me. like the other poster said the grass is not always greener on the other side. trust me I have tried this.

[SeptemberMorn]

He's not independent if he still lives with his mother.

Des, put this post together with the one about "outgrowing" your husband. It's being in touch with this guy that is causing the problems, Sweety. Things wouldn't be the same, trust me! You just want to recapture the old feelings with this guy and it's not a good idea, especially for your kids. This wouldn't be "growing", it would be regressing! You do want your lost youth back, but there's no going back now that you are responsible for your children.

It's a tough road, but you can do it if you put it in the right perspective.

[desirae]

I agree, I really do...if he was ugly it would help!...haha

I know it's not a joke but I try to add some humor when uncomfortable...humor, eh.

[SeptemberMorn]

I know what you mean! Been there, done that.

[bebop]

yeah it is really tough when they are good eye candy and saying all the right things when things at home are not what they should be

[mrb020377]

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yeah it is really tough when they are good eye candy and saying all the right things when things at home are not what they should be

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shakes head in agreement..... it only leads to trouble though... been there done that and regret every minute of it

[justaguy]

ive read some of your posts you seem really confused. here are some words for : being 21 dosent make you an adult or a women; your old boyfriend is a punk piece of trash for making you any offer beyond friends; another boyfriend trading up for sex??? i at least hope its the same one, you talk about your future ex(because if hes lucky hell get away from YOU) oh i mant husband, i feel sorry for the guy, are you sure he dosent just an adult conversation and cant find it in you?? ya i know im mean. but just for your thoughts.whats the record number of men killed over an unfaithful women??? its in the millions, it was called world war 1 look it up for yourself. the biggest difference between men and women in relationships is men love women and women love children. men feel what women would feel if their children were taken in the night. if you dont get it well maybe someone out needs it. i do wish you well and i hope you tke the time to make the right choice. try counselling spark your sex life (ivellage.com sex and health) good luck

[Wants2Fly]

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i at least hope its the same one, you talk about your future ex(because if hes lucky hell get away from YOU) oh i mant husband, i feel sorry for the guy, are you sure he dosent just an adult conversation and cant find it in you?? ya i know im mean. but just for your thoughts.whats the record number of men killed over an unfaithful women??? its in the millions, it was called world war 1 look it up for yourself. c

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