[inkblot]

I know more about him and I don't want to know any more. I want to move and stay away from him. I don't need any friends like this guy. I have a feeling that he could be persistent--which could be trouble. If I should ever need, the police station is just around the corner from me. It would be quicker for me to walk/run there if need be than to pick up the phone and dial 9-1-1.

Jeepers! What the heck happened? You've got me worried. PM me if you need to. emmy

"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion." -- The Dalai Lama

[inkblot]

The tip-off to this guy was EZ. He seemed to have been watching and waiting for me and listening for me to open my door. But you also know what worked even better? That facts that: 1) he is planning our marriage, 2)he would like to get me pregnant, and 3) he got too touchy feely. He knew that I was trying to protect myself because my body was stiff and tight--he noticed and commented on it (and laughed), but still persisted with touching places he shouldn't. I was almost afraid to go home last night that he'd try to visit again (he said he would) or that he'd try and stop me in the hall. I finally came back home last night about 11pm. Who do you think met me as I was arriving up the stairs? I assume that your first guess is correct--HIM. It was brief and only in the hall at the bottom of the stairs. He tried to smooth things over and slid a note under my door saying that he's sorry for going too far and he will always love my person, blah blah. It was pretty short, just enough to make him "appear" nicer. There are security issues as well that I am not comfortable with.

[(JD)]

I don't blame you! He sounds like a pervert to me... a professional, no less. can you get away? can you at least make a report at the police dept, so it's there in case you need them? That way, it won't be a "warning to the guy for first time" it will be supported.

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[dexter]

yikes... planning your wedding! Let him know that if he keeps this up he may be planning his wedding your frying pan... to his head.

Seriously just be careful. He might be harmless but annoying but no reason to give him the opportunity to prove otherwise. Keep your door locked, keep pepper spray on you if you have it, maybe keep it in your hand when you come home just in case.

Do make it clear to him that you are uncomfortable and that he has to stop. Be specific if you can. If that doesn't help do you have someone you can have talk to him, friend or family member, I'm thinking large guy if you've got... I am against any sort of violence but it might not be bad to put a scare into him if it is necessary.

Your goal here should be not only to get him to stop annoying you and stop doing things that scare you... but to have you convinced that he has sincerely stopped so that you don't feel uncomforatble in your own home.

Let us know what happens. Hope it all turns out well.

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[Thelema]

Ink----you need to be firm with him that *nothing* will ever happen. Unfortunately, with some people you can't be nice at all...they take it as a lead in. If, after not talking to him for a while, he is still creeping you out, I'd suggest having a very-built guy friend visit him and try to convince him that his moving might be the best solution for all.....

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