How to stop obsessing over someone. Please help me.

@bebrave glad to hear your handling it fine.

I miss her a lot so i am not doing so well..we have lgbt organisations in here but i am afraid to go there :/ thanks

I think you are lonely, and there is no bigger problem in the world for humans than loneliness. So don't think that you have no good reason to feel so bad. You absolutely do.

The mistake you are making is in thinking that having this teacher is the only opportunity that life ever did, or ever will, give you to not be lonely. It's not. This teacher was so nice and so approachable that she made coming out of your aloneness easy when you were with her. Too bad there weren't lots of people like that around us. Generally, connecting with other people is going to take more work than it did with her. Right now you are not convinced that it's worth the effort. Human beings tend to be economical with their energy. They tend to not put forth effort that they think won't pay off. You have to get around that by forcing yourself to do what it takes to connect with other people. That's hard, but will be worth it.

When you build other relationships, especially one with someone you can be intimate with, this attachment to this teacher will become a pleasant memory, but not an obsession.

Until you accomplished making those connections, you will stay obsessed by what you lost.

Well I have to be ok, no other choice. I'm coping because I've been numb since my cat died. I don't feel things anymore, if I did I wouldn't be ok, at all. And I have to be ok, cos well just because.

Maybe you could try the groups? The others there would maybe be nervous too! Could you even contact a leader maybe and find out what happens at the groups?

There are things I want to talk about but there are so many different boards on this site I don't know where to start, and I'm afraid I'll be sneered at on another site I'm on, by someone I fell out with. I don't want to take up anyone's time either. Anyway/end randomness.

How are you bebrave?

Just wanted to let you guys know that I got over my obsession. I still think about her sometimes, but more as a good loving memory, and I finally accepted that she's gone.

That is great to hear!

Thanks so much for letting us know!

Ive been obsessive with people in my life also, friend. "One thing that has helped me - is to realize that they Never contact me- at all. So there is NO relationship there, it is just a delusion/obsession. I hope this helps.

It not fun to have someone begin obsessed with you. I had two teacher who were obessed who me.