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Default Oct 29, 2016 at 08:26 PM
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According to the Bible, St Paul Says this
1 Corinthians 13:4-7New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Based on this I do fall short, but there is hope as I can change
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Default Oct 29, 2016 at 08:28 PM
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I would advise looking up the 5 love languages. It goes into how people like to give and receive affection and can be used as a piece to that puzzle

I have read a book on this once before. I think I will give it another read
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Put the needs of another, before the needs of yourself.
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Love is never ending

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Default Oct 30, 2016 at 12:54 AM
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Love is what Corporations created to fund Valentine's Day.

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Love is what Corporations created to fund Valentine's Day.
I certainly can identified with presured gift giving, birthdays, Christmas.... the list goes on and on.
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Default Nov 06, 2016 at 06:34 AM
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I think love is a learned practiced behavior. I also think it can be very unpleasant at times. It requires dedication, devotion and commitment. I would say it is not a feeling but an action created by a feeling and a perspective.

I know one thing.Love is not selfish or self centered. It is altruistic by it's very nature.
This translates to whether it is about sexual love, brotherly love (friedship) or the love from a higher power.
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Default Dec 02, 2016 at 06:43 PM
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One final thought as this is PC.
Love is a a form of programing in someways...to think about others and how your behavior effects others I think is paramount. With a mental illness this can be both challenging on both the giving and receiving end. Think there is wisdom in this...

Below is of course a religious txt, but I think apart from that, from a secuar perspective no one could argue with it.

"So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets." Matthew 7:12
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Default Dec 03, 2016 at 09:15 AM
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Sometimes love is letting go.

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Default Dec 03, 2016 at 12:16 PM
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The definition of love is difficult. It takes on many forms. Acceptance of the person as a whole is definitely a part of it, whether it be a friend, partner, etc. There's definitely many forms of love, and the intensity can vary.

Wanting someone to be truly happy is a sign of love. Then, there's the kind of love where you feel you cannot live without someone, although I don't believe obsession is love. That's just an illusion of being in love for people, in my view. The feeling of being soulmates can be a characteristic of love on a spiritual level.

One thing I was thinking about the other day is that love is not always enough to stay with someone. Perhaps that would be classified as something different than romantic love, since there's a distinction from being "in love" and loving someone.

Then of course, there's a more superficial form of love. You can love pizza! Yeah, I know that's a stretch.

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Default Dec 09, 2018 at 07:46 PM
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Interesting post. My brother's mother in law had me write out what is love last night, I first wrote I don't know, then I wrote warmth, connection, companionship, sharing, caring, trust, reliability, dependability, peace.
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Love is merely a chemical in the brain to ensure our survival as a species. Nothing more.
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Default Dec 09, 2018 at 11:17 PM
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Last night my brother's mother in law asked me to write down three things, what does love mean to me, if I could have the love I wanted what would it be like, and what do I want in a partner. I already wrote down what love means to me. Next, if I could have the love I wanted it would be exclusive, committed, stable, peaceful, warm, encouraging and enthusiastic. If anybody's survival would be insured it would be mine own because without that love , my own survival is not insured.
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Default Dec 10, 2018 at 02:52 AM
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Yeah, I feel like I'm slowly dying inside without love. Unfortunately, I was forced to accept that no girl would want somebody messed up like me. I'm just a washed up computer geek that understands computers a lot better than people so connecting with women is clearly something I'll never be good at.


Even if I was good with women, what woman would want somebody who is so messed up from being used, abused, and judged my whole life? Face it, you wouldn't buy a broken smartphone, so why want a broken person?

I'll take tech and video games over people at this point. At least the former doesn't judge me, doesn't hurt me, and brings me pleasure without the pain.
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Default Dec 10, 2018 at 03:23 AM
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Hmm. I’m pretty broken myself. The next question I was asked was what do I want in a partner and I wrote someone who is committed, peaceful, stable, warm, encouraging, demonstrative, willing and flexible.

I’m not feeling very lovable myself right now to be honest.

I would love to have the kind of relationship I wanted. I want that more then anything in the world. It hurts not having it, it hurts real bad. I haven’t been in this much pain in a long time.
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Default Dec 10, 2018 at 03:41 AM
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I know it hurts. I'm still awake because I know that the moment that I try to go asleep, I will start feeling lonely again. It isn't uncommon for me to stay up all night until I'm too tired to feel anything and get by on 3-5 hours of sleep when I work and go to school all because I don't want to cry myself to sleep.

All I would want from a woman at this point is to love and accept me for who I am. I am not picky when it comes to friends or women. I don't care about all of the serious stuff that comes from relationships. I just want to be loved.

As I said, love is what ensures survival. I feel like I am dying a slow and painful death without it. IDK how much longer I can endure of this torture anymore.
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Default Dec 10, 2018 at 03:52 AM
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Yeah I haven’t been able to sleep for 6 days now because I was abandoned by someone I love. For me, it’s not about being lovable, it’s about loving. Another question I was asked was what behaviors make a relationship hurt and what part of a relationship makes me feel good inside.

I said lying, stonewalling, being abandoned, silent treatment, criticisms, put downs and insults hurt.

I said bring loved, supported, cared about, heard, nurtured,fed all felt good.

At this point in time I feel profoundly damaged. Everyone keeps telling me find someone ekes but I love who I love and I can’t help it. I keep hoping well get back together. I guess I’m pretty desperate but I was engaged so it was no light matter. I don’t know that I could ever love again. I can’t move on. I don’t want to move on. I’m still holding out for hope that things will work out despite my broken heart.
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