Dealing with stuck up and arrogant people

Dealing with stuck up and arrogant people is energy draining. What I've noticed over the years of dealing with some of these people is that they act like they are better than others, talk down to them, and even treat others as if they are disposable. I will say, I am glad I got most of them out of my life. There will always be people around like that, it is unavoidable unfortunately. But I have gotten better at dealing with them.

I used to believe people do that just for fun, and while that may be the case, I have come to learn that the real reason is because they are very insecure and don't have as much life experience as they claim to have or think they have. They are just putting others down in order to build themselves up. I feel like people who treat others as disposable get some sort of power trip from it.

I think the most common signs of arrogance is a inflated ego, constantly talking about oneself, constant boosting, acting like they know everything, and even telling people they are better than others. The most common signs of being stuck up are treating others as disposable, fake behavior, ignoring people or treating people who are different from them poorly, feels the need to be in the center of attention, and some people may even admit to being stuck up.

I feel like being stuck up and arrogant can go hand in hand simce it seems that people with one trait usually has the other as well. How have you guys dealt with people like this? Are there any other common traits I may have missed? Do you guys think these traits go hand in hand? Has anyone ever admitted to you that they were stuck up or arrogant? I have had a couple people admit it to me, and they were right about it too. If you don't give them the attention they want, it won't be as energy draining.

Yup. I agree - insecurity is likely where it all comes from.

Unfortunately I deal with a more senior person at work who is the most arrogant person I know. She's upset me so many times that I've lost count.

I'm fortunate in that I haven't come across this type of person in a long time but I still remember what a pain in the rear they can be. Best wishes.

Some people may not agree with me on this but I fight fire with fire.
I deal with arrogant people , if I have to deal with them at all, with arrogance
right back in their face. Most arrogant people are insecure, ego inflated ***holes. My best advice though is to simply ignore them and walk away. This is what I try and do in most cases.
This will probably infuriate them as they now know they can't get to you.
There are numerous reasons why people are this way. Let them deal with
their problems. Stay above the fray.

I am with you 100%. And what is most frustrating is when these people are actually well liked and there is nothing can say to counter their put downs. Also when they know how to put you down covertly by just being patronizing and you can't confront them about it without being made to look insecure. This is why being around them is so draining.

I agree. I hate it when I am the only one who sees that someone is being arrogant or stuck up, although what I have learned is that usually doesn't last long. When that happens, most people eventually catch on sooner or later. And in terms of being patronizing, I agree that this is difficult to manage. Most people who are arrogant or stuck up can actually be nice to your face but talk crap behind your back or talk to you like you are a child. I've confronted these times of people and it would result in them saying I am paranoid or insecure.

Yeah I've had to deal with that too, especially with someone who I attended college with. Luckily I no longer deal with her. Insecurity is most likely the most common reason for arrogance and stuck up behavior.

Glad you haven't had to deal with them in a long time. Yes they are a real pain to deal with. And energy sucking.

I agree. Yeah I used to have to deal with someone who attend the same college I did who was very stuck up and arrogant. Always talked about how much better she truly was than others. She sincerely believed it, had no doubt in her mind she was way better and smarter than everyone she interacted with. She would even try to prove it. Once I graduated, I pulled away from her after some time. She responded with fury, called me a fake friend even though we were never truly friends to begin with. And anytime I countered her arrogance, she would call me annoying and even saying I am stupid and such.

She even went as far as to say that some words we use in ever day language really don't mean the same as most people think and that they have different meanings, despite strong evidence against her beliefs and truly believed that smoking and drinking was perfectly healthy. I am glad to no longer be around her and glad she finally leaves me alone. She eventually became an alcoholic, which is another reason I backed away from her, so she definitely had some insecurities which resulted in her becoming arrogant and stuck up. She would be drinking while stating how much better and smarter she was than others. Sometimes you do have to fight back but other times you have to literally walk away and avoid these people. It is the best choice of action since they can suck the energy right out of you.