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I've been chatting online to a lady who is 47yrs old (I'm 30yr old male) and we get on really well.
We haven't met up yet but have been chatting for around three months now. Just recently over a message she said that she is 'extremely fond of me' and in just about every message she sends she uses a mix of different emoji's such as winky face and smiling face. I don't know what to make of this, would you think it means that she likes me as a friend or more than a friend? I didn't challenge her on what she meant but we chat every day. Thanks for any responses. |
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I'm not sure what I would take from that.
If I were to say I was fond of someone that could mean anything from they're a favourite customer at my job up to my level of feeling for my mums partner, whom I don't necessarily love but I'm very fond of and care much about. If I were you I'd just ask her what she meant. What do you want it to mean? |
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Yeah, I would just ask her outright what she means by that. Winks usually mean the person likes you and is flirting, but not always. They can be just friendly winks too. Talking every day seems a bit more like a romantic connection.
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I think it means that she likes me, certainly that's my first feeling about it. But on what scale as in 'like' could she like me I'm unsure of. Quote:
You are right with everything you've said. I personally feel that it is going down the romantic route. We've flirted before and although I think she has trouble conveying her feelings, she's hard to read straight out. She has started to 'like' my photos on FB too. |
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I think she’s hinting that you should ask her out IRL already.
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Saying she is quite fond of you is a nice thing to say. It means she likes you a lot. What is there to confront? If you are fond of her, too. Just say that. Just ask her out.
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It is impossible to evaluate the situation with the minimum information that you provided to us. If you would like a more through elevation of the situation please to provide more context as to why she said that. Did she, out of the blue, send you that sentence and then nothing else? What was the conversation leading up to that? Was it something in your profile?
Also, I would like to add a comment that please do not make this one sentence a huge deal. It may not be. I realize that you want to be liked and acknowledged by this woman but please do not dwell on a sentence and read meaning into it. It is just one sentence. __________________ [B]'Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.' |
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In my humble opinion, as others have kindly and helpfully elucidated, the phrase "I am extremely fond of you" is most interpretational and ambiguous.
Context is both relevant and important, but you might consider attempting to find out from her what the aforesaid phrase accurately means, whether you do so directly (e.g. explicit question) or indirectly (e.g. continue chatting and try to find the disclosing of meaning through chatting with her.) |
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I would guess that she enjoys your chat company. Please keep in mind that you are not seeing the whole person, and neither is she.
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I think you may need to work on what YOU want from a relationship with her, before assuming what she COULD mean |
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I agree with you. I think it could be to do with low self esteem issues perhaps which I need to work on. |
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No you just need to think about what you want from your relationship
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I think it's fair to ask her what she meant. And, as someone who has done quite a bit of online dating and prefers when men make the first move (as far as taking things offline), I think you should ask her if she'd like to get coffee. What's the worst she can say? No? If she's talking to you over text as much as you say she is, I don't know that this will happen. And if it does, that's okay, too. At least you will have tried, and will know.
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That sounds to me like something a woman would say when she already sees limits to how far this relationship is going to go.
She finds you endearing. That's quite a nice compliment. But it doesn't suggest any romantic passion. If you're looking for a friend, you may have found a good one. However, if you're looking for romantic love - as in a life partner - you might want to keep looking. |
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Have you thought of talking on the phone with her? Would be a good next step, for friendship or romance.
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Did you video chat with her???? Have you seen her in person - just checking wanna make sure she’s who she says she is..... if so ask what she likes about you and if you can get together. Dinner is good unless that’s not possible. I’d just make sure everything is legit.
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If things were plain and simple, cut and dry, where would be that rush of dopamine when we finally find out the object of our affection truly likes us in return? That rush of dopamine is important for the whole process; it keeps us from walking out the door when the object of our affection is, in another instance, being completely unreasonable and difficult. |
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