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Default Feb 25, 2018 at 08:49 PM
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So I have been in a relationship with someone for a year now. She has recently started going to therapy, due to my persistence. So she tells me she has been diagnosed with CPSTD from a past relationship. The relationship stayed great although I could tell she had issues with esteem, ex., always asking if I was upset, if she did something wrong, etc. This guy really messed her pysche up.

Point is, I have a very promising career, nothing negative in my life other the an occasional bout of depression of which I treat with ketamine. I do take adderall and it does little more than help me focus at work.

We had a blow up just before Christmas, she lives with her parents and constantly complains about how miserable she is, she very rarely vists...... perhaps five times since Christmas. I can’t get anything out of her as far as a future whereas that is all we used to talk about.... basically the dreams of new couples with each other.

It’s like she has become a text message.... noting impersonal with our relationship. I do love her, she also has a three year old daughter with an absent father that I have absolutely fell in love with.

I am questioning more and more of just moving on and letting it go. I believe the relationship is creating more depression for me with bouts of emotional turmoil. I honestly want it to work however this text impersonal relationship is really starting to affect me more and more negatively.

One problem with just walking away, I promised to pay some credit card debt that I created which is not an issue at all, she also has phone service through my account. She has nothing, doesn’t work, isolates in her bedroom at her parents and seems to stay angry with life.

I just don’t know how much longer I can do it.

Advice / insight / experience/ anything..... please all is welcome!

So there is my intro.
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Yes, welcome cmar_cmar. Thanks for your intro and there are a number of forums you'll find very helpful relating to the things you mentioned. Very much so, and a warm welcome to you.
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Okay, so here we are two months later...... time has flown by.

Anyway, just an update. Thursday morning I woke up and did my thing to get ready for work. I live in a town home so as you all know they are connected to a certain point. Leaving, get in my truck and out of the corner of my eye notice the empty home next to me has the windows of their front door busted. I get out to take a look around and see a brick laying on a step from a staircase the leads to the upstairs part of the TH, where the bedrooms and such is. Looked like it had a piece of paper wrapped around it. Didn’t think much about it and off to work I go.

Come home during lunch for some reason, cant remember, and someone from the company that is selling the house was there, I didn’t know that at that particular time. I get of vehicle and ask him if he works for such and such company, he says yes. I asked do you still have the brick? What was on the paper from the brick? He had taken pictures and forwarded all of them to me.

Never would I have thought the ex would be involved with something like this or even associate with people that would do such, however HER address was on the piece of paper that read, “ stay away from such and such address”. I thought, what the hell...... I haven’t been in that neighborhood since the first of January, what the hell is this shite. Needless to say I took the photos to the local police, of course I cant get an appointment with the magistrate until the second week in July. I was pretty pissed when I saw the pics with her address on it. Initially I thought maybe it was some kids or something. I live in a very low crime area, so I wasn’t really sure until I talked with the fellow that works for the company that sales/rents houses in this area.

We got into a pretty rough argument about a month ago...... one of those arguements that are no holds barred,...... say all you can say to hurt as much as possible the other. Someone referred the other day to it as “bitter & bloody”, through email. I did say some nasty things, I have no issue admitting things I have done that I know were wrong and things I did to people I know was not right. One of those arguements. Since then haven’t spoken to her, sent her several emails letting her know she still had insurance(health, dental, vision) and she should use it. And that was through mail, like USPS mail.

Anyway, whatever, I will wait for my appointment and then sign the warrant. I dont think she has the balls to do something like that however where I moved to last year, where I am currently at is a small town and word travels in little towns like this, come to find out she is know as the crazy of the town. She either drove her and showed someone the house, did it herself(unlikely), or gave the address to one of her new boyfriends she found trolling the internet all night as she does.

Humor from all this whoever did it was too stupid to even get the correct house, as the house with the brick thrown through the front door was my neighbor...... the house was empty then, the couple closed on the house the next day. But damn...... seems she would be messing with someone with a little more intelligence than a dummy that missed the correct house.

Anyway, I am going to cook dinner. Was doing nothing so I thought I would up date this. Enjoy! Oh..... feedback is most certainly welcome.
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I really dont know but I am guessing this thread is my first post. Just want to update.

So Thursday morning I am getting ready to to work, nothing unusual. I go out and get in the truck and notice the next door house, the door windows is busted out. I got out looked around, saw a brick on the stairs leading upstairs. Thought perhaps it was some kids in the neighborhood or something even being I live in a pretty safe neighborhood.

Come home for lunch and see someone is at the house, I live in a townhome so they are all connected. I asked if he worked for the company that is renting the house, he said yes, I asked if he still had the brick thrown through the window or at least some pics of the piece of paper that was attached the to brick. He starts showing me his pics and I will be damned if it doesn’t have a message that says, “stay away from such and such address”.

I haven’t been in her neighborhood in at least 4 months or more. My guess is she trolled the internet, as she stays up all night and sleeps all day, found her a man to listen to her and how awful I was to her..... yea right. Anyway, he decides to throw a brick through the window. Thing is, he was so dumb, he got the wrong house. My guess is they drove down the road I am on and she pointed it out and he forgot or she just relayed the address and he still couldn’t get it right.

Now again, I have yet to be in her neighborhood since January. We have not spoken in months...... last time we conversed was through email and it was extremely bitter and bloody. All night long, I got no sleep for work that day. The worst verbal abuse I have participated in ever. Again.... a month ago. Then the brick.

I went to police station to amend a report I made for harassment about three weeks ago. Can’t sign a warrant until July 11th because “there are only two of us” doing warrants.

I have listed the home I live for rent to sublet and finish out the lease. I am doing all I can to get away from this woman. Seems usually it is the man that is doing this type stuff. This girl is definitely cuckoo and going to land herself in jail.
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I really dont know but I am guessing this thread is my first post. Just want to update.

So Thursday morning I am getting ready to to work, nothing unusual. I go out and get in the truck and notice the next door house, the door windows is busted out. I got out looked around, saw a brick on the stairs leading upstairs. Thought perhaps it was some kids in the neighborhood or something even being I live in a pretty safe neighborhood.

Come home for lunch and see someone is at the house, I live in a townhome so they are all connected. I asked if he worked for the company that is renting the house, he said yes, I asked if he still had the brick thrown through the window or at least some pics of the piece of paper that was attached the to brick. He starts showing me his pics and I will be damned if it doesn’t have a message that says, “stay away from such and such address”.

I haven’t been in her neighborhood in at least 4 months or more. My guess is she trolled the internet, as she stays up all night and sleeps all day, found her a man to listen to her and how awful I was to her..... yea right. Anyway, he decides to throw a brick through the window. Thing is, he was so dumb, he got the wrong house. My guess is they drove down the road I am on and she pointed it out and he forgot or she just relayed the address and he still couldn’t get it right.

Now again, I have yet to be in her neighborhood since January. We have not spoken in months...... last time we conversed was through email and it was extremely bitter and bloody. All night long, I got no sleep for work that day. The worst verbal abuse I have participated in ever. Again.... a month ago. Then the brick.

I went to police station to amend a report I made for harassment about three weeks ago. Can’t sign a warrant until July 11th because “there are only two of us” doing warrants.

I have listed the home I live for rent to sublet and finish out the lease. I am doing all I can to get away from this woman. Seems usually it is the man that is doing this type stuff. This girl is definitely cuckoo and going to land herself in jail.
Hello, and Welcome to PC. So far it sounds like you are making the best decisions for your self. And it is good that you will be turning things in to the police in July. I don't know if you live in the US or not, but if you can you might want to get a restraing order so she would have to stay away from you. Be careful, and pay attention to your suroundings, bc it may be possible that her mental issues, could also be stalking. Here at PC you will get a lot of support, and there is a lot of forums that may help you with dealing with your issues. Welcome again, and stay safe!
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Heya, welcome. I hope things turn up better. <3

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Alright guys....... ANOTHER update. So nothing big has happened since the brick incident however I have had some physically threatening texts from an unknown number. Had a friend that is a PI run the number and it is of course a prepaid throw away phone. I have tried several times through several vehicles of communication to make contact and make peace and us agree to just go away from the others life. I suppose this is the reason for the texts from the unknown number. I don’t know if I mentioned this or not in a previous post but she had gotten pregnant not long after we started seeing each other, 3 months maybe, I was excited for us. She didn’t seem to thrilled, I told her she had nothing to worry with as my job would provide plenty of support for a pregnancy and the raising of a child. I also told her it was her decision as I didn’t want to tell her to do something and then spend years resentful at me because of a decision based upon my influence. So I simply told her whatever she decided I would support no matter what even though I have no children and this was probably my last chance at having a child because of my age.

So she terminated the pregnancy, second one...... the other from 12-15 years earlier one night stand deal. Reason for me typing that story is whoever this person is texting me, at one time I sensed it may be her, however one of the last texts was they would have murderedmy child as well.

Before this I had went to a retreat deal and learned I have a lot of deep anger towards this woman for the way she used me and treated me. Now I find myself even more angry and I feel a hatred I have never experienced, I am 43 years old and had my share of relationships. Never haveI felt this sort of hatred. She has created two facebook profiles, one filled with nothing but her and her ex husband that drove her to a very mental illness that I cant even describe from the way he treated her and the things he made her do.

Her and her three year old daughter live with her parents, she stays cracked out on adderall all day then takes way more than the recommended dosage of ambien and klonopin at night yet still does not sleep and trolls the internet all night for attention. Making YouTube videos and taking pics of herself posting to instagram and I am not certain how to process all of this.

I do see a therapist once a week, Ha! Actually the therapist is a therapist she had seen a few time because i pushed for her to get help and she found him and the deal was she would see him a few times then her and I would start to see him. I called him a few months ago and he would not see me because of her and I get it, the ethical part of that and the conflict of interest. He said he would call me back with some referrals. I never heard from him so about two months later I called him back and he agreed to see me. The first session I think I made him uncomfortable being I was talking about her...... I calmed him down a bit and let him know I was not there about her, it was me and what is going on with me to continually find myself in these type relationships.

Apparently she isn’t seeing him anymore being he has loosened up over the last 4-6 weeks and she has no way to pay being she stays cracked out all day then cant sleep at night because she is high on ambien and klonopin. Making videos and taking pictures to post like advertising for attention. It is so bizarre. Anyway...... I had to write this out, I am very angry and do not want to look at this stuff online but sometimes I just cant stop myself. She is a gorgeous woman, the adderall has her getting close to anorexic looking. For a 36 year old woman with a child she could have any man she wanted however her mental illness prevents that from happening. I am sure by now she has met at least two men and they had any sanity were like whoa...... this girl isn’t right, I got to go. Which I should have done and wouldn’t find myself on a psyche forum at midnight on a Saturday night describing my relationship troubles/ <3
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I’m sorry I didn’t see your OP and help you avoid this mess. You are moving on and dealing with it in a healthier way.

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