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Default Mar 17, 2018 at 06:25 PM
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How am I supposed to not be depressed when everything around me is falling apart. My ex scammed me out of thousands of dollars, had me arrested when I defended myself during a physical altercation, and has drug my name through the dirt with all my friends. My tenants, his friends, have stopped paying rent putting in a financial bind, not to mention the attorney fees. I’ve never been arrested and don’t even have a speeding ticket on my record…I had a squeaky clean record, but not anymore. This could affect my ability to get a job in the future. I’m completely isolated. I don’t have anyone nearby that’s on my side. Hes always helping people out financially so they keep him around. My parents are out of state, but even when I talk to them, they tell me I need to pull it together and things will be fine. I have no control over anything in my life right now and it’s spinning out of control. I can’t seem to make myself get off the couch. I don’t want to shower and I don’t want to see or talk to anyone. How am I supposed to “pull it together” when there’s no light at the end of the tunnel?
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Default Mar 18, 2018 at 06:09 AM
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Welcome to PC!

Figure out what you can control and do more and more of that everyday. Step One--take a walk, shower and eat healthy (cheap like cabbage and onions) food everyday. Stay away from the ex and figure out a long term financial plan. It will take a lot of time but if you take action, you can eventually pull out of this.....
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Default Mar 18, 2018 at 06:23 AM
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Did the DA press charges or did she? When is the court date?
And what about small claims and housing court for this so called friend?
If you have tenants, it stands to reason you have credit.
What about other means of income?

Pulling it together need not necessarily mean stuffing away how you are feeling, it can mean start taking a different perspective or one step at a time.
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Default Mar 18, 2018 at 09:51 AM
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I’m sorry for what you are going through notyourstokeep.
What you must remember is that you need to push through these feelings.
They are only feelings and the less attention we give them, the better.
We get stuck in our head too often.
I’m guilty of this everyday. But I’m trying to become aware of it so I can DO something about it.
I understand.
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