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To me, there's a difference between hitting on someone who is sitting there drinking coffee, a fellow customer, and hitting on the barista. The fellow customer can tell you they are not interested. He/she can choose to get coffee somewhere else. The worker is a captive audience. They have to be nice and can't really do anything to escape. In some situations, customers interpret a worker being nice because they have to be as flirting. Not in the OP's situation, though, since he did not talk to her.

For me personally, I hated getting hit on at work by customers. Getting hit on in general got old. Now I'm old and fat and don't have to worry about it. Hopefully the girl in the candy shop is more like the people who welcome advances at work and less like me Good luck!
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So Much BS over simple flirting incident. Many Bored People.. Ha Ha
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I'm gonna be honest. These people telling you to leave her alone because women don't wanna be approached, they probably have an image of you in their head as some unattractive awkward guy that they personally would never want to be approached by, so they are imagining she also doesn't want you coming near her. Basically they are making assumptions about you and about her. If you had a picture of yourself posted and you were one of those young looking cute guys, many of them would be telling you to go for it. And if you also revealed she is an older women, they probably be would be telling you that it will make her day.
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I'm gonna be honest. These people telling you to leave her alone because women don't wanna be approached, they probably have an image of you in their head as some unattractive awkward guy that they personally would never want to be approached by, so they are imagining she also doesn't want you coming near her. Basically they are making assumptions about you and about her. If you had a picture of yourself posted and you were one of those young looking cute guys, many of them would be telling you to go for it. And if you also revealed she is an older women, they probably be would be telling you that it will make her day.
No, you are mistaken. Many (if not most) women do not want to be hit on at work by strangers. It happens ALL THE TIME and women have to smile and be polite and find a safe way of saying ďnoĒ without alienating the customer. Itís the bane of so many womenís existenceó especially pretty young women who get hit on constantly. It does not make a womanís day; it becomes yet another sucky thing she has to deal with. I have a large group of female friends (pretty, 20s-30s, all educated with good jobs) and not one of them like getting hit on. When we go out, we have actually played a game where we started counting how many times some random guy would try to hit on us, thinking they were going to make our day. Gross.
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No, you are mistaken. Many (if not most) women do not want to be hit on at work by strangers. It happens ALL THE TIME and women have to smile and be polite and find a safe way of saying ďnoĒ without alienating the customer. Itís the bane of so many womenís existenceó especially pretty young women who get hit on constantly. It does not make a womanís day; it becomes yet another sucky thing she has to deal with. I have a large group of female friends (pretty, 20s-30s, all educated with good jobs) and not one of them like getting hit on. When we go out, we have actually played a game where we started counting how many times some random guy would try to hit on us, thinking they were going to make our day. Gross.
I think that if the guy hitting on them was under 21 and really cute and youthful looking, most of them would feel flattered and would like it. I bet that in the situations you are talking about, it's not this type of guy hitting on them. Maybe some women won't, but that's just some women. If the guy is average and not super young, however, I think most would not like it. So IMO, it is less about getting hit on and more about not being attracted to the guy.
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Itís good to follow basic guidelines. Men hit on me (well hit significantly less with age lol) in all kind of situations. Yes it could be annoying and creepy but who knows.

My dad approached my mom on the street. Just randomly. Was convinced she was the one for him. She was creeped out at first. The rest is history. me and my brother are in our early 50s and my parents are still together. So I guess you never know
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Why are you stirring the pot? People here are allowed to have an opinion, positive or negative. You are as well, but my suggestion would be, instead of tossing in comments which are only meant to provoke people, make your own thread talking about why you feel the negative comments are wrong

Personally, Iím neutral on the subject. Iíve known people whoíve met their SO at their job and it worked out well. But, Iíve also been hit on many times at my job and find it annoying as hell because I am a captive audience. Sometimes for days, if itís my patient.

Let people talk it out. Thatís what PC is for.
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