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A great majority of the time I come down on the side of being kind. Propellant tend to remember what you said but they will always remember how they felt around you.
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It is better to be right. You cannot trust people who think it is better to be kind.
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Situation dependant. Sometimes being right is more important and sometimes it's being kind.
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I agree with TheSadGirl, totally depends on the situation.
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I agree with the above two posters. It totally depends on the situation, so it's hard to say either way.
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A great majority of the time I come down on the side of being kind. Propellant tend to remember what you said but they will always remember how they felt around you.
It depends on the situation, yes. If, at the hospital for example, I'm standing next to my colleague who is about to make an error, darn straight it's better for me to be right than kind (i.e. not embarrass them) in that situation.

"People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel," is a famous quote by H. Jackson Brown Jr. which has been incorrectly attributed to Maya Angelou. Anyway, it holds water; as time passes, do we remember the minutiae of our relationships with other people? I sure don't. But I do remember how I felt when I was around them, and that determines if I want to keep being around them or not.
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I have an awful tendency to want to be "right"
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Both are equally important.
But out of the two, for me kindness is a constant.
I'd rather be stupid, than heartless.
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To me no one knows what's right half the time anyway so it's better to be kind. It's more peaceful.
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I donít really care about being right in general. Iíll say my piece and if people donít listen itís their loss.

But, Iím not really all that kind in general too. Hmmmm

But, Iíll go with itís more important to me to be kind than right, unless the situation that calls for being right is very important, where someone will get hurt, for example.
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