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Old 04-05-2018, 08:26 AM #1
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Default Attention seeker needs attention!

I need feedback on constantly needing feedback!

I am an attention seeker and it has been a detriment to my relationships.

I do these little comedy bits and I take over conversations and it makes me fell shallow and I am committed to stopping it. I have committed to this change.

My question:

Should I tell acquaintances what I'm attempting to do, or should I just stop being so attention needy and then field their questions about my behavior change?

Thanks for all help!
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should I just stop being so attention needy.
<-THIS, they might not even say anything but you would be more pleasant to be with. Bad habits take time to break, you will not change in one day but little by little--you can make improvements.
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My best friend is an attention seeker as well, she told her long term boyfriend when they met that she needs lots of attention. He knew going in, and she is the one that has opted not to get married. I think telling whomever that you are a person who needs a lot of attention is a good idea.
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I'd say try to stop this behavior; it can do more damage than good, both to you and your friends. It won't be easy and it will take time, but I think you can do it
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I would try to stop without drawing attention to it. People will notice even if you don't point it out... and not saying anything gives you breathing space in case it turns out to be hard to keep up with all the time!
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I am committed to this change, and it is not easy. Old habits.
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I tried to be more serious at the dog park yesterday and it is amazing how second nature my behavior is. Am wondering if I need a strategy of isolation for a while.
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Yes, stop. Instead of seeking attention, attend to the foundation of the problem. Why do you need attention all the time? It is likely that you will end up alone if you resume your needy behavior.
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Yes, stop. Instead of seeking attention, attend to the foundation of the problem. Why do you need attention all the time? It is likely that you will end up alone if you resume your needy behavior.
Already alone. Thanks.
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Already alone. Thanks.
You said you have serious girlfriend?
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