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Old 04-11-2018, 12:49 AM #11
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Yeah, but she doesn't need to come into the house to pick you up. If you know she's not supposed to be in the house, you really shouldn't let her in. And she should have the common sense to do that when your dad is there and not put you in the middle.

I mean, they aren't really her things anymore if they had agreed she would get everything by Nov 1.

So you can stop this but not allowing them to put you in the middle anymore. If she wants to come in and take things, tell her to discuss it with your dad, not to sneak in when he's not there, which is what she did. And tell him he needs to talk to her about it, not you.

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She didn't come into the house to pick me up. I was outside waiting for her when she came. She never stepped foot into the house, just the garage.
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Garage is part of the house same as porch or patio or deck etc Typically no one wants exes walking uninvited in their garage either. If you donít think garage is part of the house, then would it be ok for strangers to take stuff from you garage too?

Next time you could wait for mom outside with garage door closed. Why does it even need to be open if you donít drive?

Yes I imagine dad will be mad about it. Anyone would. But he shouldnít be mad at you. The only thing you could differently is keep garage door close. Otherwise I donít see what else you could do if mom just goes in and takes stuff.

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The garage door was closed until my mom asked for me to open it when she dropped me back off so she could get her bike and rack.
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The garage door was closed until my mom asked for me to open it when she dropped me back off so she could get her bike and rack.
When you did that for her you put yourself in the middle of their problem. From now on tell her to talk to your dad about retrieving items she wants. And tell him to talk to her. You do nothing. You don't open doors, you don't take things from the house to give them to her, nothing. Of she wants something, she goes through your dad. Not you.
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So she didnít just noticed something and took it, she requested you assist her in retrieving stuff from the house (which garage is part of).

I am confused on what you are having difficulty with. Are you having difficulty saying no to parents? That I totally understand, not easy.

But you seem having difficulty understanding that itís just not ok to take things from ex spouseís place if you donít live there anymore. You donít even think taking stuff from garage is the same as taking from the house. I am puzzled. If you ever live independently I worry that people will take advantage of you (roommates, neighbours, housemates etc)
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