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Mom came today and got her bike and the rack used to transport bikes that you mount on a vehicle. She bought both with her own money. The thing is, Dad's not going to be happy about it because he and his new lady friend had talked about going bike riding sometime and I think he intended to use the car mounted bike rack and said something about selling Mom's bike.

I know he'll be angry when he gets home. He keeps on saying the same thing when I tell him Mom came and took something of hers. He says "We agreed that she would have everything she wanted out of the house by Nov. 1st of last year.

I don't like being in this situation, and hopefully, with this program I found via my counselor, I can finally get a case worker to help me move out on my own and not have to deal with this shyte anymore.

In the meantime, what should I do?
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Mom came today and got her bike and the rack used to transport bikes that you mount on a vehicle. She bought both with her own money. The thing is, Dad's not going to be happy about it because he and his new lady friend had talked about going bike riding sometime and I think he intended to use the car mounted bike rack and said something about selling Mom's bike.

I know he'll be angry when he gets home. He keeps on saying the same thing when I tell him Mom came and took something of hers. He says "We agreed that she would have everything she wanted out of the house by Nov. 1st of last year.

I don't like being in this situation, and hopefully, with this program I found via my counselor, I can finally get a case worker to help me move out on my own and not have to deal with this shyte anymore.

In the meantime, what should I do?
Stay out of it. This isn't your business. Let them figure it out. They're supposed to be adults and you aren't a pawn in this game. Don't let them draw you in. If someone says something, say "this has nothing to do with me." And, don't let it become about you.
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Yeah, you have to be like Sgt Schultz on Hogans Heroes. Whenever he gets caught in the middle of a scheme, he says, "I know nothing!" Hes not the prettiest role model, but what the hey.
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Yeah, you have to be like Sgt Schultz on Hogans Heroes. Whenever he gets caught in the middle of a scheme, he says, "I know nothing!" Hes not the prettiest role model, but what the hey.
That is a good answer, I think.
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Stay out of it. You shouldnít report to either parent. Itís nothing to do with you. I find it a bit out there that dad wants to sell momís bike, but again itís between them two. Thatís why I recommend you donít live with parents in adulthood. Less you know about your parents marriage better you are. Pretend you are busy, have headphones on and donít hear them when they tell on each other. Donít tell him when mom comes over etc, if he asks say itís not your business.
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If mom comes and takes something from the home, and dad asks you about it, tell him to ask her. It's between the two of them. You have nothing to do with it.

How is she coming and taking things? Does she have keys still? Are you letting her in? If you are letting her in, then you should stop. If she wants to get something then she needs to communicate with your dad to do so, not go through you.

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Yeah seesaw raises good point how does she come in? If they donít live together, she canít just show up without informing him. Ex and I would never just show up to each other house if the other person isnít aware of it and they shouldnít put you in a middle. But then again nothing you can do short of not opening the door. You are really put in the middle. I hate when parents do that. Sorry you deal with it
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She came to take me to the pharmacy to pick up a refill on meds I ordered, and decided to get the bike and rack when she dropped me back off at the house.

I had asked my dad if he could take me, but he was busy with work all evening and couldn't do it, so I told him I'd ask my mom if she could do it instead.

It's not like she came into the house proper at all. She just went into the garage to get her things.
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Well, nobody is paying you to be the sheriff. It's not like you are letting complete strangers remove property.

Thats what i would tell your dad. Unless you think its too smart-mouth.
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She came to take me to the pharmacy to pick up a refill on meds I ordered, and decided to get the bike and rack when she dropped me back off at the house.

I had asked my dad if he could take me, but he was busy with work all evening and couldn't do it, so I told him I'd ask my mom if she could do it instead.

It's not like she came into the house proper at all. She just went into the garage to get her things.
Yeah, but she doesn't need to come into the house to pick you up. If you know she's not supposed to be in the house, you really shouldn't let her in. And she should have the common sense to do that when your dad is there and not put you in the middle.

I mean, they aren't really her things anymore if they had agreed she would get everything by Nov 1.

So you can stop this but not allowing them to put you in the middle anymore. If she wants to come in and take things, tell her to discuss it with your dad, not to sneak in when he's not there, which is what she did. And tell him he needs to talk to her about it, not you.

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