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So three years ago I asked my stepdad to ship my flute to me so I could start playing again. He said sure but that he wanted to give it an overhaul first (he repairs instruments). So three years later, yeah, no flute.

I bugged him about it a month ago and said I'd be happy to pay to finish the overhaul but I really want it already. He said he'd work on it. I texted him today to ask and offer again to pay to get it done since I know paying work takes precedence. He said he'd have it done in two weeks.

I don't want to appear ungrateful, but I just want the flute back. I'm not.mad at him for not getting to it. I appreciate him.trying, but it's gone on too long now. And he's busy, I get it.

What do I say to just finish this business and get him to send it?

Btw he has ADD, which sometimes gets in the way of him completing projects.

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Maybe a phone call? Telling him how much you appreciate his talents and generousity in helping? But it's a bit of an urgent nature to get it returned?
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I would also call him, often. I'd call him 3 times a week until the flute is in my hand. I'd be nice about it; yet, persistent.


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Well, that seems a little much, WC. I will mention it when I call them as I do every week and ask for an update though.

I mean, I'm not being rude in asking him about it, am I?
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Well, that seems a little much, WC. I will mention it when I call them as I do every week and ask for an update though.

I mean, I'm not being rude in asking him about it, am I?
I don't think so. The flute belongs to you. Sure, it's nice of him to fix it up for you but if you want your flute back, then it shouldn't take 3+ years.

Maybe if you give him a gentle deadline. Like, "Hey, can you ship the flute back to me by the end of this week? Is Friday good? I'll give you a call to remind you the morning of." You can even pay him back for tracking if that helps to imply that you're expecting it at a certain time.
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I understand appreciating the gesture, but when someone promises to fix something all on their own and 3 yrs later it's not done is in a way, a broken promise. your impatience at this point isn't even unreasonable.
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Well, that seems a little much, WC. I will mention it when I call them as I do every week and ask for an update though.

I mean, I'm not being rude in asking him about it, am I?
No, not rude.

I had thought he was having troubles remembering to finish it. My parents would love to get a call from me 3x week. I definitely wasn't talking about being aggressive or rude... just not my style to pursue anything in that vein.


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I would honestly say no.. because of the length of time, you're not being rude at all. in fact me, I'd just say send it now please. don't fix it. it's fine.
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Nope, not rude at all. His hesitation at this point is slightly concerning to me, but your request is certainly not rude.
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If you start to call regularly, be careful not to make it so that they actually benefit from keeping the flute.

I wonder if humor could help, funny emails, gifs?
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