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Default Nov 07, 2017 at 03:24 AM
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I struggle with physical exposure and intimacy all the time. I have sexual dysfunction. I am traumatised and it was caused by the trauma. I actually find intimate relationship is triggering. I can't even touch others or let others to get close to me, let alone touching me. If I step out of the boundary, I would be very likely to well up tears continuously. I hope someone understands what I'm saying.

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I struggle with physical exposure and intimacy all the time. I have sexual dysfunction. I am traumatised and it was caused by the trauma. I actually find intimate relationship is triggering. I can't even touch others or let others to get close to me, let alone touching me. If I step out of the boundary, I would be very likely to well up tears continuously. I hope someone understands what I'm saying.
I do understand and am very sorry you were traumatized and now are struggling with intimacy because of it. Are you seeing any professional about your trauma?
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I struggle with physical exposure and intimacy all the time. I have sexual dysfunction. I am traumatised and it was caused by the trauma. I actually find intimate relationship is triggering. I can't even touch others or let others to get close to me, let alone touching me. If I step out of the boundary, I would be very likely to well up tears continuously. I hope someone understands what I'm saying.
I do understand what you are saying. I have never been traumatized, but I struggle somewhat, in a different way.

Is this something you have discussed with a therapist? They can definitely help you to work through these things in a healthy and therapeutic way. It doesn't mean you are broken or dysfunctional, and an understanding partner wouldn't believe so either.
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I do understand and am very sorry you were traumatized and now are struggling with intimacy because of it. Are you seeing any professional about your trauma?
Yes, divine1966...I am currently seeing my psychiatrist weekly and my psychologist bi-weekly (twice per week), otherwise normally we see each other weekly also. I am having bi-weekly, because I have requested emergency sessions with my T.

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I do understand what you are saying. I have never been traumatized, but I struggle somewhat, in a different way.

Is this something you have discussed with a therapist? They can definitely help you to work through these things in a healthy and therapeutic way. It doesn't mean you are broken or dysfunctional, and an understanding partner wouldn't believe so either.
I am glad you can understand, graystreet.

I told my T that there is a part of me that finds taking a shower or bath is triggering. This part doesn't like to remove clothing when taking a shower or bath, doesn't want to touch oneself either. I did planned to tell my T more in the coming week about the reluctance to undress, being uncomfortable and hurting to be touched in any way, so I wear a lot of clothing to cover myself up to avoid crying myself out.

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Struggle with intimacy, Spicing things up in the bedroom and making your partner uncomfortable are two absolutely different things. Physical intimacy in the bedroom is a two-way street! You get what you give. You can ask him why you want to role play this situations. People like have all kind of new ways and find new ways for physical intimacy spicing up in bedroom. Depend on you if your comfortable and if your not tell them. Because Physical intimacy in the bedroom is a two-way and both should enjoy it.
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Struggle with intimacy, Spicing things up in the bedroom and making your partner uncomfortable are two absolutely different things. Physical intimacy in the bedroom is a two-way street! You get what you give. You can ask him why you want to role play this situations. People like have all kind of new ways and find new ways for physical intimacy spicing up in bedroom. Depend on you if your comfortable and if your not tell them. Because Physical intimacy in the bedroom is a two-way and both should enjoy it.
I’m not sure if you are understanding what she’s saying. If she’s having trouble even showering I don’t think it’s a simple give and take in the bedroom.

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I struggle with physical exposure and intimacy all the time. I have sexual dysfunction. I am traumatised and it was caused by the trauma. I actually find intimate relationship is triggering. I can't even touch others or let others to get close to me, let alone touching me. If I step out of the boundary, I would be very likely to well up tears continuously. I hope someone understands what I'm saying.
I understand that it must feel terrible. I was sexually abused too.
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I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope in time you will be able to feel more comfortable in your body. Do you think the therapy is helping?
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