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Grand Magnate
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Yet another person indirectly accused me of being gay after taking my brother to the gym. I'm going to go to the gym in a few minutes and flatly ask someone why this keeps happening. What about me appears gay? I'm straight. I'm also single and I am also looking. By why? Why am I gay to them? I don't understand this.
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People assume sometimes my husband is gay. Reasons they use are ridiculous. Feminine profession, girly type hobby, not macho etc etc Does it hurt you professionally or otherwise? In what context they say it? “Accusing” implies some kind of wrong doing. It’s not wrong-doing to be gay. It’s just weird they even have the conversation. Do the guys asked you out or something? How does the concentration even start?
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People have assumed I am gay (that autocorrected to “fat” and I’m laughing so hard) for the last 7 years or so. It’s almost as though a straight, single woman in her mid-thirties in West Michigan is either gay or really loves cats.
I just really love cats, OKAY? For real though, there is nothing about me which says gay. I have gone to gay clubs and get shunned by lesbians. Why? Because they know I’m (mostly) straight. People just assume what they assume, sometimes without rhyme or reason, doesn’t mean everyone thinks you’re gay. |
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Grand Magnate
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Maybe I shouldn't sing along with Rufus Wainwright as I'm working out? He's just so beautifully broken. |
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I'm straight but have been hit on by non straight women. I just take it in stride. But as a man it's your job to ask out women you are interested in, if you see any around ask for a number, make a move.
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Grand Magnate
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It was a married instructor that accused yesterday. I have no interest in her nor her in me, I hope. There's one woman at the gym I'm so into it's not funny but I'm giving up hope in and another that I like somewhat but when I made a kind-of move yesterday she moved away and didn't stick around even though she asked me to try the tabata class the night before. I'm not going to ask out every woman I see because I'm not a slut nor do I want to date a bunch of women at once. Maybe it's easier for some of these women to say or think I'm gay, because a few PC people have seen pictures of me and say I'm good looking but I feel so suspicious when I hear or read that?
I was so entangled and embroiled in emotions that I drank almost a full pint of 100 proof vodka last night and almost texted my ex (written but not sent because I passed out) and hurt a friend I value intensely's feelings by saying something incredibly stupid. I'm sufficiently hungover, feeling hugely guilty, and a bit self-hating about it all so I don't think I need anyone else's correction on last night's poor choices. I had returns of SA dreams at one point in the night too. Alcohol is stupid. I suppose "non-drinker" needs to go on my list of expectations for a date. |
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I've battled this for years. But it's the hints that hurt the most. Been married and all that.. I look bad ***, so why?
I think people mistake my kindness for weakness. Meaning, I let a lot of jokes slide. When I feel someone has "outed" me, I rage into self destruction. The biggest and worst trigger for me. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU |
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Grand Magnate
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I like when someone says to me, "there's nothing wrong with you." I say "thanks for the compliment but now I know you to be completely full of bullshirt."
I didn't see any of the few people I'd trust to ask. I got irate at the nasty s.o.b. that didn't clean the machines. Gross!!!!! Grabbed a few movies hurriedly from the library on my way home, after the older woman there bugged me far too much. She was wanting someone to talk to or was trying to flirt or whatever but I wasn't up for any of it. I'm home, I'm going to eat, and hopefully shower and do my laundry |
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Since we are friends I'm gonna say I can kind of see it. You are good looking, dress well, articulate and emotional. I don't think it's an insult. Girls are always asking: why are the great men always gay. Here you are to prove them wrong.
Don't waste your time worrying about that which you can not control. Rock on just the way you are. My two cents. |
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I'm great? Somehow, I extrapolated that. Very nice compliment thanks, but I'm not so sure. I appreciate you for the awesome you are and if you weren't already taken... ... ... You'd accuse me of being gay too so that it would make me mad enough to leave you alone. It doesn't make me mad. It's upsetting though, in an exasperatedly complex way. There's an album titled "whatever you say I am, that's what I'm not." I think I need the Arctic Monkeys cover on a shirt or a forehead tattoo |
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I think you worry too much what other people think. Trust Me, life is a million times better when you don't. I have taken a lot of criticism and I used to let it go to my heart. Now I barely even hear it. If you're interested in a woman, so for it. You are attractive and such an awesome person. That's enough.
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What, didn't you know I'm a "crazy stalker?" That's what I'm told, anyway. |
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Yeah, I wouldn't let it bother you. Men who are good-looking, dress well, and hang out mostly with women are often assumed to be gay. But I bet it would be a pleasant surprise to some women to find out you're straight.
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No, still probably not happening |
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I think they said if you hang out with mostly women sometimes people tend to assume you're gay. So taking along a female you're not interested in would just feed into that. I'd just keep doing what you're doing. Like I said, people assume what they assume. Some people assume that I'm kung fu fighting. And they would be right. But I'm not fast as lightening, so there is where their assumption is incorrect. |
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