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Default Apr 20, 2018 at 05:50 PM
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There is this friend who my father can analyze well
Anyway, that person meddles with my vacation plannings.
I want to set a short vacation together and the friend is avoidant of questions I ask. I ask A and they either give a half-answer, ask something else or answer something else. And sometimes they don’t even answer. I sent them a long message about how I don’t like it when they do that and they still talk about whatever they’d always answer

I was more needy lately, but they are causing me more frustration than benefits
I really want to see them but they don’t recept well

I feel my condition is deteriorating, and I feel my friends are against me

Before you answer, don’t turn black into white and drop this all on me.
I know I have allot of stress and need treatment, but I am working on it and it’s none of their business as I see it. I don’t think friendships should be determined by whether I see a mental health professional or not so I keep this to myself
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Default Apr 20, 2018 at 06:10 PM
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It sounds that perhaps this friend isn’t very interested in vacationing together or discussing vacation etc. For whatever reason (can’t tell as don’t know nature of your friendship or character of your friend) your friend doesn’t say it directly to you but rather avoids it all together. I’d probably start making my own plans, not including said friend.
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It sounds that perhaps this friend isn’t very interested in vacationing together or discussing vacation etc. For whatever reason (can’t tell as don’t know nature of your friendship or character of your friend) your friend doesn’t say it directly to you but rather avoids it all together. I’d probably start making my own plans, not including said friend.
The annoying thing is when I offered the idea he immediately wanted us to go together, at least according to what they said at first
But he sounds meddling rather than really willing to go for it

I have a little bit of bad karma feeling about it, from his side though. Like if I order tickets, he’d not want to talk to me or keep a grudge
But to be honest, he should be the one with the bad karma when he chooses to not answer my questions
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Default Apr 20, 2018 at 06:22 PM
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I'm sorry you're having issues with this friend. Do you think he feels that you need to go to therapy and that's why he's avoiding your questions?
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Default Apr 20, 2018 at 06:23 PM
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The annoying thing is when I offered the idea he immediately wanted us to go together, at least according to what they said at first
But he sounds meddling rather than really willing to go for it

I have a little bit of bad karma feeling about it, from his side though. Like if I order tickets, he’d not want to talk to me or keep a grudge
But to be honest, he should be the one with the bad karma when he chooses to not answer my questions
What do you mean by meddling? Meddling is interfering of sorts. What is he meddling in?

I am not sure about karma, but I would not buy tickets if he doesn’t give you direct answer. It could be waste of money
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I'm sorry you're having issues with this friend. Do you think he feels that you need to go to therapy and that's why he's avoiding your questions?
I don't mind-read, nor should I be
If he has a problem, he can be a friend and tell me

Divine - the meddling is putting me on hold of progress when I ask them the questions
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I don't mind-read, nor should I be
If he has a problem, he can be a friend and tell me

Divine - the meddling is putting me on hold of progress when I ask them the questions
I am not sure if meddling can be used in this meaning. Meddling would be for example telling you and your brother (example) that you shouldn’t be spending money on vacation. That’s why I can’t figure what’s he meddling in? Do you think he is interfering in your vacation planning by not answering your questions?

Is your friend generally the type to be indirect?
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I am not sure if meddling can be used in this meaning. Meddling would be for example telling you and your brother (example) that you shouldn’t be spending money on vacation. That’s why I can’t figure what’s he meddling in? Do you think he is interfering in your vacation planning by not answering your questions?

Is your friend generally the type to be indirect?
Yes, and sometimes
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Default Apr 20, 2018 at 07:32 PM
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Can you go without him? It really stinks that he's balking on plans. Are there other factors at play that could be why he won't commit to vacation planning?
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Default Apr 20, 2018 at 08:10 PM
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I heard from his close friend that planning things together has always been hard for them when it comes to the big plannings such as travelling abroad
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Default Apr 20, 2018 at 08:14 PM
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It might be best to talk to him about this. All we can do on here is speculate.
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It might be best to talk to him about this. All we can do on here is speculate.
I did, and he deliberately ignored what I said and continued to answer what he'd always answer
My friends are putting allot of weight on me, I feel it is unhealthy to talk to them and continue to be with them

I am DYING of over-stress, I can't sleep when at home
But when I'm at the apartment it's better. My family is not helping me well regarding how to interact with people outside, they are only destroying me, especially my mother
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Default Apr 21, 2018 at 05:29 AM
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Some people have hard time planning or don’t like to travel with others (even if he originally said he would), maybe he realized he can’t tracel. I’d give him space and make my own place. I have a group of 4 friends, one of whom is very uncommital. We just make our plans, inform her and and if she wants to join she could. Some people are like that. Annoying, but nothing we can do really.
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