[VernonJenkins]

Can anyone else relate? I'm at a point where I really don't want anything to do with her. She's too ****ed in the head to realize or take responsibility for her ****** behaviour. I honestly wish I had a different mom.

[TishaBuv]

Would you like to take on my mother for a while? Lol

[downandlonely]

My mom gets very irritable when she's manic and yells about the smallest things. So I've had times where I'd wish for a different mom too.

[VernonJenkins]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Would you like to take on my mother for a while? Lol

What I'd like is some damn respect. My mother doesn't care about respecting my feelings at all. So if your mom is the same way, then no, I don't want her.

[TishaBuv]

She’s the same way. She also won’t admit to any wrong doing. I think she’s a narcissist.

[VernonJenkins]

She expects me to do her favours and if I don't, she throws a fit and tries to guilt trip me.

[TishaBuv]

So let her throw a fit and guilt trip you. When she sees that won’t work for her to get the favor done, she’ll try something else.

[VernonJenkins]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

So let her throw a fit and guilt trip you. When she sees that won’t work for her to get the favor done, she’ll try something else.

I'm choosing not to talk to her unless she admits that she was wrong, which I don't think will happen.

[TishaBuv]

How do you think this argument will play out?

[VernonJenkins]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

How do you think this argument will play out?

I probably won't see her again unless there's an emergency.

[TishaBuv]

Is that what you want?

[VernonJenkins]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Is that what you want?

Given the circumstances, yes. Ideally, I'd have a good relationship with her.

[TishaBuv]

True. We can’t make our loved ones be what we want them to be.

[VernonJenkins]

I'm not just angry, I'm sad too. I cry about it sometimes and then other times my feelings border on hatred.

[TishaBuv]

I’ve had all the feelings and confrontation with my mom in the past few years and have comes to terms with it. Maybe it’s what you need to do.

I really had it all out with my mom. Yes, she will apologize when her back is against the wall and I’ve worked her over to exhaustion. She will apologize just to shut me up. Ultimately, she is what she is. Probably a narc

[VernonJenkins]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

I’ve had all the feelings and confrontation with my mom in the past few years and have comes to terms with it. Maybe it’s what you need to do.

I really had it all out with my mom. Yes, she will apologize when her back is against the wall and I’ve worked her over to exhaustion. She will apologize just to shut me up. Ultimately, she is what she is. Probably a narc

My mom never backs down in a confrontation. I've had tons of them with her over the years and she just uses it as fuel for her victim mentality. She comes up with excuses, she deflects, she makes absurd accusations. Approaching her softly gets me the same result.

[TishaBuv]

I decided I’m going to avoid those kinds of confrontations from now on. They are not successful. Just fruitless and frustrating. I’m trying to concentrate on the negotiation aspect. What do I want? What do they want? What’s the solution? Try to keep a cool head and walk away when you can’t come to an agreement.

[Medusax]

My own mother is 91 and she is NOT the person who raised me. She (claims) she doesn't remember a lot of things that went on. Suffice it to say that she and my dad were never wrong and I was never right.

[VernonJenkins]

Right now I'm wishing I could reduce her and a bunch of other people to tears. I want them to feel the kind of pain that I feel. ****ing pieces of ****.

[Open Eyes]

Originally Posted by VernonJenkins

Right now I'm wishing I could reduce her and a bunch of other people to tears. I want them to feel the kind of pain that I feel. ****ing pieces of ****.

Well, entertaining this wish only brings about more "self" misery. It sounds like you have been emotionally neglected, unfortunately, the people who emotionally neglect tend to genuinely lack the ability to connect with others emotionally and often this is something no one did with them either which is part of why they don't know "how" to connect with you this way.