[Justme8914]

I'm unsure if I'm in the right forum, I'm confused a bit where to post for the following. Somewhat long, my apologies. I've been dating a man for almost two years now, and earlier this year he shared things with me I find odd.

He never spoke of such things prior to the beginning of this year, but now he doesn't stop. First, he believes that he is of chosen people of God. He tells me there will be a war soon, he can see biblical symbols or pagan symbols in clouds. His eyes get blurry and he blinks and then sees them in the clouds. Since finding out I am an RH negative blood type, he believes that I have alien blood and meeting me is all related to the fight he is going to have.

He had some friends where he would spend hours on the internet researching all these connections. About two months ago he started to believe they were "pawns" in whatever is happening, now he doesn't go over there.

He is constantly discussing what is going to happen, and my alien blood. He's hostile and agitated at everything, explaining exactly how he's going to fight. For some reason he believes I am not "evil" like the other RH negatives. He's so angry all the time, he talks incessantly without breaths, and if I disagree I'm lectured. I don't know what I'm dealing with. He's a fighter, big guy, he backs down from no one and I am naturally a fiery personality, so I do question what I perceive as absurdity. There's a difference between testosterone and someone who believes everyone is potentially against them. He got angry with me when I said his name to the neighbor, because he said he may have to fight. Then he told me a few days ago the neighbor made his dog bark at him because I mentioned his name over six months ago. This makes zero sense to me.

I'm losing my patience and I'm worried for my safety. I suggested discussing this with a professional, and he lost it. I'm not trying to figure out a diagnosis, I'm not qualified, but am I being ignorant continuing this? He doesn't work anymore, he won't even tell me how he lost his job or how he gets any money.

I really care about this man, but his hostility and thoughts scare me. Any thoughts, my friends think I need to shut it all down and move on.

[MusicLover82]

GET OUT NOW. This man sounds delusional and paranoid to say the least, possibly manic or psychotic with possibly violent tendencies or thoughts. If he was willing to get treatment, that would help him a lot, but if he's not willing, you need to RUN for your own safety. Even if he DID get treatment, he may get this way again. If you're not already fully committed to the relationship, now's a good time to get out. RUN, don't walk.

[divine1966]

Was he diagnosed with anything? He sounds delusional. My mother is RH negative, I guess I am half alien then. Geez. He needs help. In a meanwhile get out. He doesn’t sound safe to be around

[healingme4me]

Wow, that's actually all over the internet. I had to look it up. I was only aware of the commonly knowns A's and B's and O's. :\

It is curious that he hasn't shared his work story with you. ? Most people have stories to share whether good, bad or ugly about jobs, layoffs, lack of opportunities, injuries, disabling conditions, etc.
That doesn't sound like a closeness that is necessary for an emotionally intimate relationship.

What about him, keeps you staying attached to him?

[Erebos]

I strongly advise getting out.
What worries me is this delusion, that all RH negatives are evil. How will that pertain to you if you try and leave?

Will he believe you are now one of "them"?
Will he come after you, believing you know too much?

Your in a potentially dangerous situation with someone who is either delusional or a fantasist, he has already shown he is unstable if his beliefs are challenged.

I am curious as to what keeps you with him, or why you stayed once he began to reveal these paranoid beliefs.?

He is either very ill or very lost and I would think being in a relationship with him could become incredibly scary quite quickly if his belief that he is being persecuted takes hold.
Challenging him with logic is pointless and only likely to antagonize him and push him deeper into his beliefs.
He needs treatment, but I can almost guarantee he believes that treatment is the government or his enemies trying to brain wash him or kill him off and replace him with a clone or something.

You are at very real risk, if your blood becomes the focus for his delusions. You can't argue rationally with him, you can't shake him out of this.
Nor is he suddenly going to wake up and realize how absurd it all sounds.
He has a community online that believe the same things he does and that's enough to keep him fuelled.

His losing his job is what sounds like the beginning of a downward slide into instability. Along with the keeping secrets and erratic behavior.

Have you been to his employer to ask what happened?

I have no idea what your options are as far as intervention goes, but I suspect until he hurts himself or someone else there is nothing the authorities will do.

Does he ever step outside this belief system of his, or is it a 24/7 thing?

I am guessing it's probably the latter.

I strongly advise you seek professional advice for yourself as to how to extricate yourself from him without him going postal.

Does he have a history of violence or aggressive acting out?

Whatever you decide to do, even if it's stay with him, please seek some professional advice on handling him.safely if that's possible.

All the best.