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#21
If he wouldn’t be good enough for your daughter, I wonder why he’s ok for you. It is also true that your daughter will absorb this as normal, and will be much more likely to get into an abusive relationship when she grows up.
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That's only if he keeps hitting me though... He said he won't... People can change... He has changed so much since we were in high school... Things were worse back then.. but he has been better to me....
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#23
How many times has he told you before that he won’t hit you again?
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I don't know what I can say... I'm sorry....
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If you would like a somewhat jealous man's opinion:
If my wife told me this, First thing I would do is beat the p iss out of my friend. Second would be to beat him some more. No questions asked. I'd then hold it against her for eternity even though it wasn't her fault. And probably hold it over her head for a very long time. I wouldn't hit her as that isn't my style, but I'm sure I'd continually make digs about it. If I found about it from someone else, all **** would hit the fan and there's no telling what would happen because that makes an unfortunate incident into a cover-up. Just one man's opinion. __________________ Dust in the breeze it always comes Blocking out the Sun Up from the Ashes a Phoenix flies https://psychcentralforums.com/creat...er-s-rags.html https://psychcentralforums.com/creat...innocence.html |
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His friend came over unannounced yesterday and tried to touch me again... It was really stupid on his part because my husband was in the other room... I yelled and my husband came out and got really upset.. (I guess he thought my husband was out) So they got into a fist fight and my husband kicked him out... He was upset at me and kept asking what I did to make him think that was okay and I just broke down and told him everything.. He isn't really talking much today.. So I have no clue what he might be thinking... I don't really think asking would lead to a pleasant conversation either... Man this sucks... I feel like I shouldn't have to worry... but I can't help it... |
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Couldn't have been that his friend was just a total douche. Don't like the way this is going. Just a note from a girl who grew up in an abusive home. I been hospitalized several times due to my partners, cos I grew up thinking you had to stick it out. Remember you have a daughter who I hope you want better for. __________________ I Don't Care What You Think Of Me...I Don't Think Of You At All.CoCo Chanel. |
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#32
People like your husband do not changes. I have brother whom are like this I seen there spouse act like this. I lost a coworker through domestic is because her boyfriend beat her everyday she would leave him but he always sucker her back by threaten her family.
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#33
Block this person gather evidence against him file charges against him and your attacker. You have an animal right to protect yourself and the life of your offspring. Call the police for harrassment and stalking against your friend and your husband if they did once they will do it again.
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People like him don't change. They always blame the victim and not themselves. I work with several coworker who weep and beg us not to call the police after see an assaulting one was the coworker who did the abuse. Another I lost to domestic violence because she wouldn't leave her boyfriend.
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I guess you were all right.. I'm pretty sure it's over for good now...
We decided to go out for the night and get a hotel... We left my daughter with my mom.. we had a really nice day out and when we got to the hotel everything was going just fine... Then his ****ing ex-friend texted "yeah, I had fun too. Can't wait to see you again" completely out of the blue... Of course my husband saw it first and lost it immediately... I tried to tell him I didn't know what the hell he was talking about.. that I never texted him or anything... But he was so pissed and said he didn't believe me.... No matter what I said he just got more upset... So I got worried and said I was gonna just go... He grabbed me and threw me back.. and he beat the **** out of me... And then forced himself on me.... He said I didn't have the right to just leave.... and kept calling me a *****... I feel so stupid.... I hate living like this... I wish I could die... But I know I can't just abandon my daughter... My body hurts so much still... I feel like such a failure... So pathetic... I hate this... |
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#39
Call the police....
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Call 911. Press charges now. ASAP.
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