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It's not your fault. It's his. I empathize with you tremendously and apologize that I am only writing text on an internet forum anonymously. You are loved. |
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Omg i am glad you are safe. While he is in jail file for divorce and never be around him again. Push for jail sentence, no probation
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#83
((((Tyffani)))) glad you are safe now. That sounds horrific.
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#84
You should visit a psychiatrist, just to make sure your psyche is fine. A traumatic event can cause dissociation... just discovered I have a form of amnesia. That's the reason I don't get good grades anymore. Will try to pursue my dreams anyway.
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Thank you guys.. The whole thing is still so unreal to me.. It's so strange how everything just flipped upside down in such a short amount of time.. but now everything is just moving on. I don't really know what I'm going to do now..
I filed for divorce and am still going to my therapy sessions. I don't really know if I'm a fan of it though.. I don't like getting into details about certain things.. I don't really like remembering it... I know there were plenty of signs that our relationship was toxic.. I should have been done with him a long time ago.. but I was too stupid to see what every one else saw.. My daughter keeps asking where he is.. She got so upset and started crying for him... I felt like a monster... I tried to calm her down but she just wanted him.. I don't know what I can do... His piece of ***** friend keeps trying to talk to me.. I ran into him a few days ago and he grabbed me and just held me and kept saying "I'm sorry" and swearing that he didn't think my husband would lose it like that... I don't know how I could possibly forgive him... this is his fault too... he could have just left me alone... his selfishness started all of this... I don't know how I could feel anything but hurt and hatred towards him... |
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I don't like talking about the things my psychiatrist asks me either, but it's necessary...
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Tyffani, the next time his POS "friend" lays hands on you call the police and charge the arsehole with assault!
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#88
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This is not your fault! You did nothing wrong. It is your husband fault because he physically assault you and sexually assault you. You should push for the highest charges you can against your husband |
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I know this is probably furthest from your mind right now but, if he hit you in the face and head please get a brain scan if you can.
Brain damage can come on slowly an you won't even know it's effecting you, you will just not feel the way you did. Stick with the therapy, don't allow it to be buried and fester. Your daughter, you tell her daddy got sick, and it made him do bad things and now he has to try and get better..But that he isn't safe until he is better. You don't need to say he is bad, you don't have to dis him in anywAy. But she needs to know there is a good reason your not together now. Trust me I know I about screwing up your kids by pretending nothing has happened. All the best. Take care. __________________ I Don't Care What You Think Of Me...I Don't Think Of You At All.CoCo Chanel. |
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And I will try to stay strong for my daughter.. She is only 2.. so I don't really think any explanation will get through to her right now... but thank you.. |
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I hope you tell her pediatrician as well about what happened to you in the way you can, as much as possible, without being subjected to further stress. As her brain is developing rapidly, she needs evaluation.
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#92
I'll make sure to mention it, if I can.. Thank you.
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#93
The only advice I can add now is not to fall for any of his crap once he starts begging and pleading and promising to change. An abuser will say anything to win you back. They'll change into a perfect angel, as long as they're afraid of losing you. After they've got you back where they want you, then you're a punching bag again. And if you manage to resist the crying and begging and pleading, then next comes the guilt trips and threats and accusations.
A person doens't have to hit every day, every week, or every month, to be an abuser. And I highly recommend mental health treatment. You'll need to be strong enough to resist the manipulation tactcs, and you'll need to know what the warning signs are, the next time you see them. |
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#94
Arbie is spot on...an abuser doesn't have to raise a hand , if they have you living in fear, it's abuse.
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#98
Thank you guys. I've been feeling a little better these past couple of days. My therapy has been going well, I suppose. There are still some things I can't bring myself to talk about.. but I'm pushing through.
Spent my day off caring for my little one because she got a fever, and I couldn't help but get lonely.. but I know that will probably happen A LOT.. Just gotta keep moving. |
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