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Default Jun 26, 2018 at 10:35 PM
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I'm posting this because I need to vent a little. I got into an argument with my father earlier today over something stupid, and he threated to disinherit me again for the thousandth time, and give everything to my half brothers, and sisters . I'm honestly tired of him doing this to me. I wish he would just do it already get it over with, or just stop saying this to me. I'm just so done with him doing this to me.
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Default Jun 27, 2018 at 04:20 AM
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I was looking up something recently in regards to my father taking in abandoned foster children, and saw that disowning is considered child abuse.
If you are not a minor, it's still abusive. It's about him trying to exert power and control. So you had an argument? Kids, young and old, press parental buttons all the time throughout the world and throughout history. Waving money in the air or on a leash, just isn't right.

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Default Jun 27, 2018 at 11:24 AM
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I am sure you would have legal recourse in the end if he did do that. Especially eith him threatening it constantly. That is being used to control you totally.

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Default Jun 27, 2018 at 03:40 PM
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I’m sorry your father is saying that. It sounds hurtful and stressful.

If it were me, I’d tell him to go ahead and disinherit you, and give up any expectation of getting money from him. I do not let my parents control me with anything, including money. Cutting those kinds of strings is freeing for me. (I’m assuming you’re a legal adult and not a minor.)
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Default Jun 27, 2018 at 05:26 PM
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Sorry that's happening to you - it's very frustrating.

I'm in a similar situation, not with my father but with another relative. I just told her to will everything to charity so that it's out of the family completely. She has not said anything to me since then but I'll be more than happy to repeat it again if it comes up again.

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Default Jun 27, 2018 at 06:25 PM
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I think you should outright just tell your father to stop threatening you with it because you don't care. It's not a bargaining chip to do as he wishes. He doesn't control your life because he might leave some money to you. Period.

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Default Jun 27, 2018 at 06:35 PM
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I would make sure you can earn your own living and don't need your father's money. Then he can do what he likes with it.
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Default Jun 29, 2018 at 06:58 AM
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Well, interesting, my parents tell me the opposite that they will never leave me anything no matter what. May be, because they don't have anything anyways. Thus, I do as I please. But, to get to your point, using money against you to make you feel inadequate is emotional abuse. Do you really need your father's money? Is he a really old man who is going to die soon? If you think he will live a long time from now, then in reality when are you going to inherit his money. I would not be affected by his threats of disinheritance. I would find a way to be on my own if I were you and be free from such abuse.
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Default Jun 29, 2018 at 10:52 PM
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I want to thank everyone who replied to my post. I think that I'm just going to tell my father that he can just do whatever he wants with his money because I don't really need his money and I don't need him controlling me with money.
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