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Macd123 · Jul 01, 2018 at 12:02 AM

Today I was talking to a young friend of mine (acquaintances really) and she confided in me that she had a boyfriend for two weeks and was sad. She told me the young man couldn’t handle her. She is on medication because she has anxiety issues..... So I bought her a breakfast sandwich and tried to cheer her up. She thanked me and smiled. The funny thing is I don’t really have any advice for her - I’m 63 and haven’t had any long term relationships.... the irony struck home and I hoped she finds somebody to hang into... I never did and it’s a tough road to navigate. Anyway, she’s a lovely young lady and I’m sure some young man is going to find her adorable. Funny how after she left I just wanted to make this saga about me..... yo yo yo....

Crazy Hitch · Jul 01, 2018 at 12:24 AM

She's only been with him for two week and he can't handle her .... very sad .................

eskielover · Jul 01, 2018 at 12:30 AM

I stuck with a guy for 33 years. It was the lonelyest time of my life. Now I'm not alone I am not lonely. If yiu aren't with the right person it us better to be with no one.

You should not just find someone to "hang onto" you should find someone where there is REAL mutual connection.

Macd123 · Jul 01, 2018 at 01:34 AM

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Originally Posted by eskielover

I stuck with a guy for 33 years. It was the lonelyest time of my life. Now I'm not alone I am not lonely. If yiu aren't with the right person it us better to be with no one.

You should not just find someone to "hang onto" you should find someone where there is REAL mutual connection.

I just wanted to help - I thought it was nice she confided in me but I also felt sad and hoped I wasn’t looking in a mirror. She is s bit flighty and she needs a good confidence booster. Her first boyfriend was a bully - I guess the paternal instinct kicked in.... I guess hang on wasn’t the term - perhaps someone who cares for her would be better... as for your 33 years that’s great - not everyone gets that 👍

Macd123 · Jul 01, 2018 at 01:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch

She's only been with him for two week and he can't handle her .... very sad .................

Yeah I thought it wasn’t much of a chance. I’d tell her that he wasn’t what she was looking for but what the hell do I know.... besides I always hated people who said things will be better tomorrow because sometimes they aren’t.... 🙏

eskielover · Jul 01, 2018 at 08:38 AM

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as for your 33 years that’s great - not everyone gets that

actually it wasn't good at least being with him. It was just stressful & full of fighting & emotionally totally lonely. I hid out in my career to avoid him mostly. I didn't act on the red flags I saw before I got married. Honestly from that experience....if there are things yiu csn't handle about someone leave when you know it rather than letting a relationship continue when you know it's not ok for you

Macd123 · Jul 01, 2018 at 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by eskielover

actually it wasn't good at least being with him. It was just stressful & full of fighting & emotionally totally lonely. I hid out in my career to avoid him mostly. I didn't act on the red flags I saw before I got married. Honestly from that experience....if there are things yiu csn't handle about someone leave when you know it rather than letting a relationship continue when you know it's not ok for you

Sorry I sort of skimmed your response - yeah my parents did that and it was hell for the kids 😳

divine1966 · Jul 01, 2018 at 02:04 PM

Two weeks is usually just beginning of maybe getting to know each other, hardly a “boyfriend” or something to feel sad about. She might need to find more things in life to enjoy. There is more to life. It’s curious why she accepted a sandwich. Were you there meeting her for breakfast?

Macd123 · Jul 01, 2018 at 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

Two weeks is usually just beginning of maybe getting to know each other, hardly a “boyfriend” or something to feel sad about. She might need to find more things in life to enjoy. There is more to life. It’s curious why she accepted a sandwich. Were you there meeting her for breakfast?

I just ran into her and I asked if she wanted to go have coffee or something - guess I felt sorry for her. She’s a sweet kid but she’s hyper and overly critical. For some reason she seems to tell me some of her persons stuff - guess she trusts me.

Skeezyks · Jul 01, 2018 at 07:00 PM

Thanks for sharing this. I thought it was a nice gesture. Sometimes not having any advice to offer can be a blessing...

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Crazy Hitch ɘvlovƎ Member Since Nov 2013 Location: Australia Posts: 18,558 (SuperPoster!) 10 12.6k hugs given	Jul 01, 2018 at 12:24 AM #2 She's only been with him for two week and he can't handle her .... very sad .................
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divine1966 Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Dec 2014 Location: US Posts: 22,362 (SuperPoster!) 9 1,277 hugs given	Jul 01, 2018 at 02:04 PM #8 Two weeks is usually just beginning of maybe getting to know each other, hardly a “boyfriend” or something to feel sad about. She might need to find more things in life to enjoy. There is more to life. It’s curious why she accepted a sandwich. Were you there meeting her for breakfast?
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Skeezyks Disreputable Old Troll Member Since Oct 2015 Location: The Star of the North Posts: 32,762 (SuperPoster!) 8 17.4k hugs given	Jul 01, 2018 at 07:00 PM #10 Thanks for sharing this. I thought it was a nice gesture. Sometimes not having any advice to offer can be a blessing... __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last)
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